well we ve been married for 2 months now and my hubby is a nice guy, but good god he is so messy. :( he has been living alone for 8 years and i guess he cleans up the place only on weekend. he does the same now. do i let the stuff lie around until the weekend ? if he does help its simply not good. how do i make him understand that its important to me ?
2007-04-19 05:35:22 · 7 answers · asked by Sweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i've been married a month and am kinda messy myself. I am sure he has some areas that he would like you to work on. Let him know it is important to you, find out what is important to him, and work out a compromise, and try to not freak out if it takes time to turn it around. Marriage takes diplomacy.
This is how my wife and I are working on the little domestic issues.
2007-04-19 05:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cracker77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was the same way! (still is to a point )
Make things simple for him
1. Put a small clothes basket where ever he usually undresses so it will be within easy reach.
2. Put a small trash can beside his favorite chair.
3. Put small tray or plastic box where he usually empties his pockets when coming home, so everything isn't scattered.
4. As for getting him to put his dishes in the sink, if you find a way to make him, let me know, i'm open to all suggestions lol
You have to make things simple for him. He's not going to walk to the clothes hamper across the room, he's not going to get up to go to the trash can etc. All you can do is try to make things simple for him. Try explaining to him that if the two of you can work together to keep the mess to a minimum, weekend cleaning would be a breeze and you would have more free time to spend together.
If you don't try to set up a routine now, 10 years and 2 kids down the road you are going to be in a living hell lol
Good Luck!
2007-04-19 12:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do a rewards system when he does something to help you around the house praise him up and if he doesn't don't reward him it's like training a dog or a child Good Luck. Been married several years!
2007-04-19 12:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, if you didn't want a messy husband then you shouldn't have married one.
He isn't going to change, so you need to stop complaining about it. If fact it isn't even right for you to try to change him. I'm sure you wouldn't like him to try to change something about you that you don't consider important or wrong with you.
You knew he was this way before you married him, it's your fault for thinking you could change him afterward. You gave up the right to do that and complain when you said "I do".
2007-04-19 12:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey I think we all have this problem one way or another. Either clean up after the man for the rest of your life or stop cleaning all together. Once he realizes that you aren't going to pick up after him all the time he should figure it out.
2007-04-19 12:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Autum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put in on his side of the bed. After a few times of that, maybe he will ge the message.
2007-04-19 12:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him incentives :)
2007-04-19 12:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋