Do you think homosexuals are bad for our society?

Question

It is not only the evangelical Christian community that believes homosexual marriages will have an ill effect on children. Leading educators also agree. Consider what Pitirim Sorokin, founder and first chair of the Sociology Department at Harvard, says about marriage: “The most essential sociocultural patterning of a newborn human organism is achieved by the family. It is the first and most efficient sculptor of human material, shaping the physical, behavioral, mental, moral and sociocultural characteristics of practically every individual. …From remotest past, married parents have been the most effective teachers of their children.”

He has seen the positive effects the natural family has on children, and understands that raising a child in a two parent Mom and Dad family is essential for the children’s growth and development. Child Trends found that a child’s early environment contributes to the natural development of the child. This includes being raised in a natural family. In a child’s life, there are certain things that only Dads will be able to teach their children. There are also other things that only Mothers will be able to teach their children. God meant for both the Father and Mother to work together to raise their children. When you place two Mothers together, or two Dads together, you really screw up the plan. Take for instance the number of single parent homes. Do you know that over the past 20 years, there has been a huge outbreak of children needing psychologists and couseling?

A home with two Mothers in it will have a difficult time showing their children how to love someone of the opposite sex. If you look at homes where one parent abuses the other parent, especially if the child is a girl, she will grow up to pursue guys who abuse her. My prediction is that if two lesbians raise a little girl/boy, the child will have a very high chance of either committing suicide or turning homosexual himself. Especially if one of the parents has been artificially inseminated. Consider the amount of adopted children who feel insecure and feel a piece of their life is missing because they don’t know their real parents. We are harming our children's well-being by allowing gay marriages.

The homosexual lifestyle leads to high rates of suicide, depression, HIV, drug abuse, STDs, and other pathogens. (2) Gay marriage may cause children to think, “I have another alternative if I get rejected from my girlfriend.” Instead of training our children to resolve conflict and face their problems, we mess up their minds more by saying, “we accept you and your wrong behavior as being ok.” Instead of trying to give a child an alternative to solve a problem, we as parents and teachers should be teaching our children problem solving skills. How do you expect our children to be able to work with people if we don’t teach them problem-solving skills?

Homosexuality is wrong. When you are driving and see a stop sign you need to stop. If you don’t, chaos could occur. It is the same with God’s laws. He placed his law there for the benefit of mankind. When we don’t obey God’s law, chaos will happen.

I see a lot of disagreement, but no data to back it up.
And, why do you think I'm angry?
:-)

Some very good point brought up by Kandy, Jonb, and 1ofSelby...I wish there was a better way to dialogue more about this topic. I appreciate your input/views.

Ducky - I'm not even sure about what to say about your comments. You may want to do some research.

Answer 1

Well, I see tons of negative responses to your question... The truth is this is not the right kind of forum for your topic... I have read through your question and understand your position... I must say my position is mixed... I disagree that Homosexuals are bad for our society. A blanket statement like that is narrow minded, and thus all of the neg responses you have gotten... I will agree with you on one of your points... Although I have no issues with Gays/Les becoming life partners, and I do believe they deserve all of the legal benefits that conventional married couples receive... I am conflicted about Gays/Les having/adopting a child.... I suspect that these families will have a beneficial impact as far as tolerance for others who are different.. I am concerned however about the stunted influence that they may have on their children regarding sexuality and relations with the opposite sex... Many lesbians are bitter towards men, what impact is that going to have on a female child or male child for that matter... Many gay men, seem to wish they were women... What impact is that going to have on a son? How will they be able to mold the child into a young man.... In short, I think I understand what is behind what you were trying to say! I don't think however, that you are going to get many positive comments here...

Answer 2

You seem to talk about adoption, not about marriage.

Every modern society has adoption boards, that are very suitable in deciding which couple is the best fit for an individual child.

I live in Romania now. The orphanages are filled here, and very, very poor. I fail to see how adoption can be bad for any of those children.

In your theory, single parent families should be forbidden as well, because it might hurt a child.

Fact is: there aren't any statstitics yet on the effects of gay adoption. It's only legal in a few parts of the world. In my native country, Holland, there are no problems with it. It's concidered a blessing, and it helps a lot of orphans.

Answer 3

Leading educators also DISagree.
Do u know how many ppl who attend Harvard need counselling??
Your comments have nothing to do with same sex parents.
From your comment: “The most essential sociocultural patterning of a newborn human organism is achieved by the family." - It does not specify the sex of the parents. The comment suggests that a loving family who is active in their children's lives, raise well rounded, happy children.
There is no proof that children raised by same sex parents grow up to be unbalanced people who need extensive counselling. Children NEED to be raised in loving homes and NOT foster homes or orphanages.
Your supporting comments are very weak at the very least.

Answer 4

Your uneducated views on HIV, STD's and suicide are very sad indeed. You asked this question (?) and then lectured on and on. Children living in loving homes are raised with love and decency and there is NO evidence of them growing up with any of the characteristics you describe if it happens to be a same sex couple. PROVE ME WRONG!
- cristal

My brother was raised in a loving home with a mother and a father (and 2 loving sisters) who were involved in his education and his sports and other activities. As a result he has great friends who have become to know our family as a place they can visit without being offended, like you have offended good hard working gay people raising families with the same difficulties and worries that any parent has.
Shame on you!

- cristine

Answer 5

You are wrong that "leading educators agree" that homosexual marriages will have an ill effect on children.

Bigotry is bad for society, and even among people with PhDs after their names you will find an occasional bigot.

The VAST majority of research on this topic has shown that not only are children of same-sex couples no worse off, they are actually slightly BETTER off- they tend to be more tolerant and accepting of others.

And BTW- gay couples have been raising children for a very long time. Same sex couples adopting is not even an issue- it's just legal recognition of the same sex couples.

It is without a doubt that it is in the child's best interest for their parent's relationship to be legally recognized.

Answer 6

Bad for Society ?

The truth is, Homosexuals Created Western-society !

The Ancient Greeks get credit for the creation for the western world. ( just to be clear - that's the world you and I live in ).
And has far as Homosexuals go the Ancient Greeks were so very-very gay !

The very architecture of Washington D.C. comes from the Ancient (homosexual) Greeks.
As does the style of Government practiced within those buildings.

Modern medicine - Thank the Homosexual Greeks for that as well.

So next time you want to say Homosexuals are bad for society don't forget they created the society we live in
(in the west).
If your Persian - that's a different story.

In Response,
Well, If I have my Facts wrong my sincerest apologies.
That being said .. The Ancient Greeks were very gay.
I know I have that fact correct. ( Super-Gay really )
Washington D.C. architecture - Is in the Greek tradition, Right ?
The Republic for which we stand - first invented by Greeks.
Modern Medicine - Greeks where first in recorded history to preform operations , correct ?

Let me know. I'll correct my opinion based on the correct facts.

Answer 7

You have not "backed up" - supported - your comments at all. You have not shown me that same sex parenting has negative effects on children. You have misquoted Sorokin brutally.
You want facts? FACTS from books like:
Sociology of Revolution (Sorokin, 1967),
The Crisis of Our Age, (Sorokin, 1992),
Power and Morality (Sorokin and Lunden, 1959), and
Hunger as a Factor in Human Affairs (Sorokin, 1975),

Please don't misquote, distort or speak for GOD. Ask him when u see him how he truly feels and what he really said.

Two parents who are female show love for their fathers, their brothers, and their male friends. Teach LOVE and children will LEARN love.
Gay suicide is the result of oppression caused by views like yours (nothing personal) and many times bullying...

You want more facts? Will it make a difference?
See the sites below...

Answer 8

DAMN this is a controversial board. Look, I don't care what you say, the only thing wrong with gay relationships is that if they get too popular, I fear the population will suffer, 'Cuz guys have no eggs and girls have no sperm, mkay? Children will approach life as nature dictates to them though. Nuthin we can do about that. I feel that if you're full fledged gay, you should go to sperm banks and donate. But gay people eat, sleep, think, try hard to get ahead, just like anyone else. Me though, I'm straight. And if any guy tries to diddle me, I'll rip his off and shove it down his throat. I'd be friends with a gaay person to a certain extent.

Answer 9

I have friends who would gladly have been raised by any loving homosexual couple than by their biological parents. The damage done to their children's psyches by parental abuse, neglect, and ignorance, is what is bad for society.

If evangelicals and others really want to help society, encourage them to deal with their own ignorance and unfounded convictions first by subjecting them to the scrutiny of rational examination. Not only will they be shedding themselves of irrational beliefs, but they will be having a profound effect on others (including their children) by exemplifying the real ideal of human behavior--rationality.

Before i am drowned out by the flood of anti-scientific ripostes, let me just add that some of these "anti-god and religion scientists" are just as irrationally convinced as many of the Evangelicals. Their faith may have a different content, but it is just as much faith (=irrational and unjustified conviction) as is the evangelicals.

Answer 10

No, homosexuals are NOT bad for society, they are a natural part of society the same as heterosexuals are.
As for your learned professor, he is full of you know what. How many heterosexual two parent families abuse their children??? Lots.
It doesn't matter whether there are two "straight" parents, two Gay parents, or one parent, as long as the parent/s are loving and able to provide shelter, guidence, and nuturing. Anyone has the ability to do that.
It is the people who make judgements about various family situations that are bad for society.
And please, don't go around talking about stuff you don't know anything about. How is Gay marriage going to hurt society, or children?
It is only religions that define marriage as a union between a man and a woman. In the Bill of Rights we are all granted equal rights, so anyone of legal age should, without a doubt, have the right to marry their partner (as long as the partner agrees of course).
Religion is trying to force our government to make it illegal for same sex couples to marry. This to me is disgraceful, and a VIOLATION of the SEPARATION of church and state! That was put into the Constitution for a reason.