And she will be having another wedding next April at home. Should all invitees be told that it is actually a repeat wedding or should we simply send invitatiions to "her wedding"? And is there a probem with having two weddings? She just had a ceremony this month but wants all the formalities, inclusive of a reception, next year.
2007-04-19 05:27:11 · 9 answers · asked by ann t 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would call this one her American wedding and a chance for her family and friends to meet her new husband. My cousin had 2 weddings. Both of them were full blown Catholic weddings. She tried to get 2 wedding dresses my Aunt put her foot down over that but agreed to pay for both. Her family and friends were cool with it but I thought it was nuts, she got married in Michigan & then in Wissconsin, not exactly worlds apart but it worked out for them. Best wishes to your daughter & son in law on their marriage!
2007-04-19 05:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with this at all. In many other countries, more so than here, there is a more distinct difference between a legal/civil ceremony and a religious marriage ceremony. It is not that uncommon for there to be a simple civil ceremony followed shortly, usually within a day or two, by a big church wedding. If you are old enough, you might recall that Grace Kelly had two ceremonies.
I would send out announcements now and put one in the newspaper as well.
Next year you can announce that your daughter and her husband will be re-newing their vows before God, family, and friends and then proceed with the usual details. It may require just a bit more thought about the exact wording than usual, but shouldn't be too difficult.
2007-04-19 05:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. I'm getting married abroad asap so I can sort out my spousal visa to live and work in the UK, but it's important to my family that I have a "real" wedding and reception, which will take ages to plan, considering our family is spread across two continents, and our friends even farther. Close family and friends will know ahead of time, but I don't see a need to inform everyone of the circumstances. In many countries, you have to have the civil ceremony first anyway. I'm just having a longer gap than most! :-)
Even if she'd already had a full wedding and reception, I don't think it's selfish at all to want two weddings if your families are far apart. Weddings are supposed to be about celebrating your commitment to each other in front of the people important to you, and if they can't all be there, than one set or the other will be jealous! Still, there's some grumpy traditionalists out there that might take offense.
2007-04-20 02:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Flamekat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is part of the "formalities" religious? Because some people may see this second ceremony, and reception as a way to get gifts, since by next year they (married couple) will have been living together for a year already. If possible I'd have the second ceremony sooner, if they'll be "home" before next April. If that's not possible, I'd say then limit the guest list to very close family and friends, who will already know what the story is, so explaining won't be necessary.
2007-04-19 05:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she got married did she have a "wedding", or was she and her husband married by a Justice of the Peace or other official.
If she has already had the hoopla, then it is selfish of her to want it again.
My advise would be instead of having a second wedding, just have a reception so her "American" family and friends can celebrate her marriage.
She's already married why go through it again, selfish selfish selfish, especially if she expects you to pay for it.
2007-04-19 07:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by meg3f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refer to it as a "Wedding Celebration". It's not all that uncommon to have a wedding for yourself, and then a repeat for the family and friends.
2007-04-19 06:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would either refer to it as her American wedding or a vow renewal ceremony. People should be pretty understanding considering she was abroad!
2007-04-19 05:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 02:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by rhona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guests have not attended her first one, there is no need to mention it.
2007-04-19 23:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋