i have started liking someone who is in a relationship but is trying to get out of it. should i leave him alone or try
2007-04-19 05:11:32 · 34 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please leave him alone..
I've dealt with a girl who had a serious crush on my boyfriend for 6+months and all she was doing was making me jealous, mad, upset, sad and ruining my relationship by getting in the way.
It may be fair to you in your head, but its not fair for the other girl nor the guy. Its ok to just be friends with him, but dont try to take it further if he's committed. Atleast wait your turn if they ever break up, or find someone else.
take care
2007-04-19 05:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this person alone right now. It's not so easy to just leave someone. When was the last time you left someone? Didn't probably go so smoothly did it?
This person needs to figure out what they want to do about their own situation, without you trying to gear them into a situation that they might not be ready for. They also need some time alone to figure out who they are again and what they want out of their own life. If you get with this person right after they leave this other person, both of you are apt to do the same thing right over again.
It will not work out.
The only way this will work out, is if this person that is going to leave this other person are already apart from each other and they both know that it is over and they are already emotionally unattached to each other. Otherwise if one or the other has any feelings, it won't "just end".
Just stay away from this person and give them some time alone to figure out what they want to do with their own life. If they come running to you, you need to tell them that they need some time, you don't want someone who is that insensitive and co-dependent.
It's not healthy for either of you.
There are so many other people out there in this world, don't limit yourself. Just be there for this person if they DON'T have anyone else to talk to, and hang out with your other friends or family to take your mind of this person.
2007-04-19 05:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he trying to get out of it to be with you? Or is it for his own reasons?
If he's getting out of it to be with you, it's nice that he's not going to cheat on his current girlfriend, but he already has to a certain extent. His focus has been on you while he's with this other girl.
Second, he's trying? If someone wants out of a relationship, they will do it. It's no easy tast, but it isn't a try kinda situation. You end it or stay in.
I suggest that you get to know him once he is broken up. Be friends with him, not a rebound girl. Then see where things go. If you have just started liking him, you probably don't know him very well or have just recently seen him in a new light. Explore this for a while, see if he really has the qualities you are looking for, not just what you think you see in him.
Good luck!
2007-04-19 05:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this would totally depend on your own moral and value system. Put yourself in the other individuals shoes. Also, if he progresses with you while still in a relationship with someone else, there is a very good chance that he'll do the same thing to you. when you say "trying" to get out, this make him seem like either he is weak, confused, immature, or lying to you about trying to get out, after all, who wants to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them so how hard can it be to get out of a relationship that you really don't want to be in?
2007-04-19 05:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him alone until he is out of the relationship. Just put yourself in her shoes. Would you want that done to you... or would you rather have someone wait until the relationship is over?
Walk a mile in her shoes.
If he is getting out... there will be plenty of time to be together. :)
2007-04-19 05:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave him alone. if he's trying to get out of the relationship he's gonna end up with someone else why can't it be you. don't feel bad.
2007-04-19 05:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. If he is trying to get out of it, he is a big boy and will be able to without your help.
He may just be wanting to use you to make the girl he is with jealous so she will be more accommodating.
2007-04-19 05:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...I'd leave him alone until you're certain he is absolutely free and clear of his present relationship. You'll look desperate if you fall in and try to sweep him up from his misery here otherwise. It's his job to get undone with his present woman before he goes out and ruffles up the sheets with you sweety...are we clear?
2007-04-19 05:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him alone for now. Give him time to heal, or else you will be the "rebound" girl. And, you don't want to hurt the other girl either, she may think that he left her for you. Give it a bit of time
2007-04-19 05:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anah B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him some time besides when some one comes out of a relationship they get really confused n mite act diff n break ur heart.so give it so time to actually happen not force ur way in ,n when it happens give him some tim eto get over it ok.time will tell
2007-04-19 05:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by george 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋