I have known this guy for about a year. Over the year we have become REALLY good friends. Funny thing is that we just admitted to each other that we REALLY like each other...as in more than a friend. We have been dating officially for 2 months. Considering we are best friends and now dating, what do you think is the worst thing that could happen if we move in together? A year of friendship and two months of dating. I'm sure he is my soul mate. What do you think about moving in together?
2007-04-19 05:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by Bunnikins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's a bad idea. Most relationships seem to fall apart when people decide to live together. I know people say it's because you didn't know them as well as you do now that you live with them, but the truth is when you move into together, you always know that deep down you don't have to stay there if you don't want. So when stuff hits the fan, people start to split apart. It's not like a marriage where more is at stake and you have more of a reason to fight for your relationship. Don't do it. I know that you've known each other for a year, but you two are just getting to know each other in a relationship sense. Give yourselves some time. Don't rush it!
2007-04-19 05:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I thought that living together was just a next step in a relationship so I moved in with my boyfriend. We had been together for 4 years and then broke up after one year of living together. This happened about 15 years ago. Now that I am older and married and have had many life experiences since then I don't think living together is a great idea anymore. Breaking up with someone you live with is a very painful and difficult thing to do (Breaking up is hard anyway--now combine that with having to move, split up possessions, etc!) There is a reason you are not getting married right now so leave it at that in my opinion. If you are soul-mates then eventually get married. Living together can be very messy! Just my opinion!
2007-04-19 05:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your questioning whether it is to soon, it probably is. If the time is right, you would be sure, right? Also, keep in mind, that while friendship can be a great foundation for a relationship, the expectations are very different. You may want to figure out the expectations of this new relationship first. For example, as a friend he may not be bothered by who you hang out with or how you dress, but as a your boyfriend he may have different ideas/beliefs. You also mentioned that you were best friends, but just talked about your feelings. Maybe you should wait until you feel comfortable enough to speak to him about what's on your mind, including your concerns about moving in together. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-04-19 05:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by adventure30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and see how the relationship develops. Even though you have been friends with the person for a while, a relationship is different. I would give the relationship more time to develop, like maybe 6 months to a year. If its still going as strong as it is now, the consider moving in together.
2007-04-19 05:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is too soon. The worst thing that could happen is you could lose a really great friend. What is the harm in waiting a little while longer? If it is meant to be it will happen. The best things in life ARE worth waiting for.
2007-04-19 05:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
date as b/f and g/f for a full year...then if you still want to move in together do so
2007-04-19 05:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The worst you can do is split up. And you will only do that if your not happy. When moving in with someone you see them for what they really are, no mask no coverups. Its reality!
2007-04-19 05:14:41 · answer #7 · answered by Millsy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
definetely not.give yourselves more time.you dont know anyone completely until you have lived with them.then you can find out somethings you really cant live with about them.be toegether for now but do not move in it is too soon
2007-04-19 05:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by pattialfy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if u guys ahave been bess friends nad now r dating for
about 2 months then i htink your relationship willw ork and its up to u guys watver happenes....good luck
2007-04-19 05:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never know anybody real well til you live with them day after day.
2007-04-19 05:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋