I started out likin this boy at school a lot but then it jus got stronger and stronger as i knew and talked to him longer and then we were talkin but never went out cuz stuff happened and then we stopped and started again..he treats me bad sometimes but most of the time its all good..but he tol me he likes lots of girls nd sumtimes he likes me cuz i asked if he liked me or not cuz i was gettin tired of his games..soo wat shud i do? how can i get over him? i tried like 4 times over the year nd it jus wont go away..if nethin its jus gettin stronger nd my heart is achin for him to notice wat he does to me..
2007-04-19 05:03:35 · 20 answers · asked by ~Bahamian_Queen~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to cut him out of your life completely. That boy is no good!! Do you hear me? No good! A guy can't treat you bad, but only sometimes, and still be worth your time. He's a jerk, and you know you deserve better! So stop talking to him or trying to be friends with him and move on. Honestly, when I was your age, the only way i got over some guy I was majorly crushing on, was when I found someone new. I also recommend that you concentrate on your school work and sports. What are your goals? work on them! I'm sure your goal in life is not just to find a guy. Head up, and get your life back on track!
2007-04-19 05:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, the age old question. The only thing that's going to heal your heart, honey, is time. The stronger your feelings, the longer it's going to take. But this guy isn't mature enough for a relationship, and he doesn't want one, he's made that clear. I don't think he's going to 'notice' what he does to you, he's too self-absored. Try to distance yourself from him. Hang out with other friends, find things to do with your time. Get some paper and write out all your memories of him, both good and bad. Get out another peice of paper and write down all the reasons you DON'T need him. You sound like you're still pretty young, don't sell your heart to someone who doesn't deserve it. Give yourself some time to be sad, but also remind yourself why it's OK to let go.
2007-04-19 05:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by mischugenah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are...but you must be young if you are still in school so.....best advice is for you to get involved in something new that will take your mind off this yoyo. The more you dwell on him, the longer it will take for the hurt to go away. Remember, it is HIS loss so act like you believe that! Hold your head up high and get on with life. Prayer helps a lot when one is depressed, too. Good luck and God bless.
2007-04-19 05:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by gmabell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k imma give u my advice;;
i dated a guy for two months..yeah i know it isnt tht long but it honestly seemed like a year.
we were soo in love and then he broke up with me TWICE.
it took me a while to get over him..about 4 months.
if u love someone that much,it doesn't just go away over night.
so this other guy comes along,and now me and him are going out.
my point is..he's not the first..deffinately wont be the last.
im sure ur a great catch and other guys will see that!
u just gotta allow urself to.
and trust me u will get over him even if it seems like u wont,
u will
and ur gonna be just fine :D
so look at the positive sign of things and keep ur head high.
2007-04-19 05:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be useful to ask yourself what he represents for you. What are the qualities or things he could bring into your life. Why are you looking for these qualities from him? Can you not find them in yourself or with someone who can love you back? I believe that we do not actually see others for who they really are, but for who we want or need them to be. The love we are looking for outside ourselves is the love we should be giving to ourselves first. So, start by looking at what and how you feel about yourself. See what you can improve so that you feel peaceful and good inside. No one can give you what you need unless you give it to yourself first. Through cultivating deep understanding and positive qualities in yourself, you are more likely to succeed in every area of your life.
Another useful thing to do is that every time you have wishful thinking, regrets or any thoughts of him, tell yourself, "It's over, he's gone." This will bring out the root of the disappointment, sense of loss or negative attachment and make you free to move on.
Good luck.
2007-04-19 05:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by integral_psychology 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were never in love with him! Surprised? Actually, you were in love with the fantasy relationship that you created in your head. Quit letting him live rent free in your head. He has shown that he is not interested seeing as you have given him multiple opportunities. So, the important issue is do you think enough of yourself to avoid this person and take care of your own emotional needs. You need to start respecting yourself Sweetie don't put yourself in places with people that can break your heart you are worth more than that but the choice is yours. Of course!
2007-04-19 05:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy in other stuff. Get involved in school, classes, clubs, start looking at colleges, etc. Look ahead to the future instead of the past that didn't work out. Don't include him in your plans for the future. If he was that into you, he'd have just been with you, instead he played games with you. He's no good.
2007-04-19 05:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound young like you are not even 16 yet. It also sounds like you had sex with him and got adDICKted. He says he likes lots of girls so he probably doesnt want a girlfriend. If he has one, then he is not ready to be serious. Its going to take some time just dont spend time with him and dont answer any of his phone calls and cry. Crying makes you feel better. Meet some new guys. if you find one you like, it will take your mind off of him.
2007-04-19 05:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by vandykeprincess06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure got the love bug bad, eh!
You can take a horse to water, but you cant make them drink.
Dont make yourself so available for him to talk to. Try to busy yourself with your other friends and avoid places where you know he will be. Absent makes the heart grow fonder and if he likes you alot he will seek you out and let you know he misses you. If he does not, then it was never meant to be.
2007-04-19 05:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by missyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try a lil arder to get over him he doesn seem like a guy who will make u completely happy but yeah time heals all wounds and just keep urslef busy with ur friends to et ur mind off of him and have them support u so that ur mind doesnt end up wondering to think about him soon enough youll realize what a joke it was to even put up with him
2007-04-19 05:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋