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Question

ok ive asked this question a couple of times....but i still havent recieved the right answer... i am 16 and i want to wait til marriage to have sex and everyone says that every guy will leave me... but there is still a a chance of a guy leaving if i do it so im really confused im thinking maybe i should change my mind about the whole save it till marriage thing

also im not that attractive so i should be happy if someone wants me

Answer 1

WHOAH. Hold on girl. If you want to wait until marriage - you wait.

Not every guy is going to leave you. If they do, then they are not the ones that you want. Set your standards high, and leave them high. Do not change them for anybody. Do not become someone you do not want to be for a few moments of pleasure.

My wife and I both decided to wait. Even though there was a lot of sexual tension for the short time that we dated, we are both so incredibly happy that we focused on our goal.

If you remain abstinent until marriage, then you will be able to offer your husband a gift that you have never shared with anyone. Can you imagine how special and unique that will make the both of you feel.

Now, onto your "I'm not attractive, so I should be happy if anyone wants me," bologna. TAKE IT BACK! Apologize to yourself, and NEVER EVER NEVER SAY ANYTHING LIKE THIS ABOUT YOURSELF AGAIN. Was that loud enough? Everyone is beautiful. Believe in yourself. Be confident. Truy beauty lies within. Some people will say that is a lie that ugly people make up to feel good about themselves. Sorry, it's the truth. They don't want to listen because likely, they are ugly on the inside, and therefore not beautiful.

SAVE YOURSELF FOR YOUR HUSBAND. You'll be glad you did. There are other benefits too, such as:

1. No chance of STDs
2. No unwanted pregnancies
3. No unwanted sexual confusion after you do it.

Answer 2

OK, I don't know what type of answer you want then. The only right answer lies within your heart, you have to do what is right for you. I disagree with you that everyone says that every guy will leave you if you don't have sex with them, many of your answerers have said if you're not ready, then don't do it, and if the guy leaves you over that, then he's not worth your time. I agree with that, by the way. 16 to 19 year old boys are basically interested in 1 thing from a girl, and they will do anything they can to get it. When I was young, guys would tell a girl that if she didn't offer him "relief" he would literally explode, obviously not true. Today it seems to be the whole "well everyone else is doing it" line, and "if you don't do it, no one will stay with you." The lines may have changed over the years, but the motivation has remained the same.

Bottom line, if you don't want to have sex with a boy, then don't. It's your body, and you're responsible for what happens to it. Once you've given your virginity away, you can't get it back either. I believe sex belongs inside of a marriage, but I'm adult enough to realize that not many people believe that anymore. However, I see more people having more problems in their personal lives than ever before, and it all basically boils down to having sex without being married to the person you're sleeping with. In the end, it's your decision what to do with your body, don't do anything you're not comfortable with doing. Period.

Answer 3

I'm a girl sorry but I just had to answer this one. Firstly dont you ever say that you are unattractive, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, also you are sixteen and you, your body and your appearance are changing all the time and most importantly dont ever think that because you feel you are unattractive that you should just take anything that is offered to you that is complete rubbish, stop beating yourself up, you are a unique individual who has a lot to offer.

Secondly, stick by your believes darling, if you dont want to have sex before marriage so be it, as you mature you may change your view but at the moment stick with it. Like you say yourself if you have sex with a guy they can leave you, one night stands and all that!!!!!

I think its great that you have your own views, believes and plans for your future, I just think its bad that you have a negative view of yourself.

Mr or Mrs Right is out there for all of us no matter what are skin colour, beliefs, religion, abilities or disabilities, likes or dislikes. Just enjoy life and he'll find you.

Answer 4

Don't change your values and morals for just one guy. I was 16 when I started dating my boyfriend and before we were dating a month I had a conversation with him and told him that I was waiting until I was married to have sex. And that if he didn't like it then we werent meant to be. I'm 19 now and we are still together. Come to find out he thought the same way I did. Now that's not saying that you will find a guy just like him. Nowadays, it's normal for teenagers to have sex. But, just remember that after you get married you will be able to say to your husband, "I saved myself for you", "I'm pure". That is going to be an awesome day!

So to answer you question. Do NOT change your morals for this guy. If he leaves you he wasn't the one. Also, pray to God to send you the right one or atleast a decent and honorable one.

I know you will make the right decision.

Oh and another thing.......by being abstinent...think of all the STD's your dodging. People who have sex can use protection but the ONLY sure fire way to know you can't get an STD from sex is abstinence!!!!

Answer 5

That's not completely true about guys getting mad and then leaving. There are some patient guys who share your same point of view & may also want to wait. You just have to find the right one. Don't ever let yourself think that you need to just go ahead with the first guy that comes along because he may be your last chance- that could end up being a stupid move in the long run that you might regret. Best advice is to only do what your comfortable with.

Answer 6

If the guy leaves you becuase you wont have sex with him than you just saved your self wasted time. A guy is not worth having around if he leaves becuase you don't want to have sex with him. No good comes out of having sex w a guy just to make him stay around...He doesn't respect you. You want someone who respects you and what you believe in. Save it until you get married. And your only 16, You have pretty much your whole life to find someone who will stay with you even if you don't have sex with them. I can gaurantee you that you'll find someone who will respect your wishes. Maybe not now (you might) but you will, remember your only 16, theres no hurry in having sex. And those girls that have sex now think that they're hot stuff becuase of it..but, truth be told those are the girls that get called sluts behind they're backs (or to their faces) and the guys go around telling each other sleep with her becuase she's easy. While all the long she's thinking she's getting these guys becuase she's pretty...(she may be) but those guys are only going for her mainly becuase she'll most likely sleep with them. You don't want a reputation like that. There is nothing wrong with holding onto values like this. again if the guys doesn't want to stay he's not worth it anyway

Answer 7

Not every guy will leave you just because you won't have sex, don't believe everything you are told. If they do leave then that's all they are looking for ( a piece of *** ) and you don't want that kind of guy! There are a few decent guys out there that also have high morals,there is some one for every one so I would say to you stay with what you believe in, oh by the way I don't think you are as unattractive as you think you are. Just be patient, it will be worth it in the end.

Answer 8

i'm a girl. i also feel insecure about myself - read: not confident. but.

any guy who leaves you just becuz you choose to wait til marriage to have sex, isn't worth your time. what is it that you want? to "have a good time", or to find some guy who accepts your choices? also, if this is very important to you, maybe you should look for someone with similar values?

you're 16 - you have plenty of time to think this over. don't get too hung up over this though. it's gorgeous outside where i am right now - be a 16 year old and have fun hanging out with your friends :P

Answer 9

The right answer doesn't exist. The truly "right" answer is the one you feel is right in your heart. Will every guy leave you if you wait until you're married? No. The main ones that will leave are the ones that are in it for the sex. The ones that TRULY want to be with you will wait until you're ready. Anyone can tell you anything they want, but in the end, only you can make the right decision for you, and you'll know it's the right one based on how you feel about it.

Answer 10

If you want to wait until marriage before you have sex, then wait until marriage. Sure, some guys will leave you if you don't give it up for them. They're immature losers who only care for sex anyway. They don't have respect for anyone. I wouldn't even feel sorry if one of these losers left me because I stood up for my beliefs. You are young yet, but I can tell you that someday the right person will come along for you. You are a strong and admirable person for wanting to stand up for your beliefs. That is a very attractive quality.

In short, do not allow anyone to convince you to change your mind about sex before marriage. The only one who can do that is YOU. If you feel pressured by anyone, and your wishes are not respected, they do not deserve to be with you.