2007-04-19 04:42:17 · 42 answers · asked by ♥♥♥Miracle♥♥♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly the age gap is a hugh difference... i'm not saying that it will not work out but what i'm saying is that its kinda hard. Maybe at this point its more of puppy love? The guy is 30! come on! maybe what he needs in a partner you're not old enuff to provide? So maybe just be friends with him a little longer first and see how to works out.
2007-04-19 04:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it girl, just ask him out, or tell him. I don't see anything wrong with the age difference, as long as he likes younger girls. I will say that I think if you are a more settled girl, you deserve a man a little bit older, because at your age, at the age of 18 a guy is not mature they don't grow up until about 35 or 40. If he is a hard working young man you have a better chance at a good life with him.
2007-04-19 04:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sha-Na-Na 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is too old for you. You at 18 have nothing in common with a 30 year old man. Move on to some hot young guy.
2007-04-19 04:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Christine R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy to break with all the issues revolving dating an older man or woman for that matter. Telling him should not be hard. Sit him down and let him know your feelings, but most importantly really understand what comes afterward. Be prepare to know what you want to happen after you let him know.
To be in a relationship with a person who is older than you can have advantages but disadvantages as well. Your maturity levels will never be the same, no matter how old you get to be together, but there is always a great chance that you could both compromise and grow together if really want it to work. It's just like other relationships, just with different concerns and issues. Nothing is impossible. :)
If he decides he would not like to pursue a relationship with you, don't feel bad. He might just want to be cautious and/or not have an idea as to how go about a relationship like this. Don't feel bad, take it as "I tried" and feel good about that.
At 18 is hard to see how much you have yet to learn, but if you are willing to take the chance then I say go for it! But be careful. Know what you really want in a relationship and see what he has to offer you that will help you grow as an individual and vise versa. Good luck with it all and feel free to contact me if you have more questions about this. :)
2007-04-19 05:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Nena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
However you do it, if it is by text, lose the hearts. If he's 30, they may not be his style. If you're OK with him thinking of mortgages with the enthusiasm that you are thinking of music, then OK, but 12 year gap at 18 is almost too much.
If he's aware of your attraction, his concern could be maturity/age gap (unfair in my opinion).
Dress with all the sophistication you can muster, sit him down, and be as completely and painfully frank as you can.
If that fails, maybe you're being too subtle. Some of us batchelors are a little bit slow on the uptake, and are too well-bred to make passes.
If this is the case, talk slow, wear revealing clothes, and be less subtle.
2007-04-19 04:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Vitruvius 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking I'm all for relationships with age gaps, as long as there's a real foundation for it. There really are many 18 year olds intellectually and emotionally more advanced than others- but judging from the sheer multitude of little hearts you've inserted into just a few lines of text, I'd say not ready.
2007-04-19 04:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Felix Q 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, let me ask you. How much do you know him? Is he married or is he being real to you? No one in here knows him better than you do. If you really love him then just tell him the truth. There is no boundaries or age limits to love. If you really like him then ask him out. You won't lose anything. If he likes you then cool but if he don't then go find someone else.
But second, i think you are a bit too young to date a guy in his 30s. You should date someone ur own age. He is 30s. He seen alot more than you and he may only want you for sex. So if you can you should find someone ur own age but you really love him then go for it. Tell him!!! Just becareful. Good luck to you!
2007-04-19 04:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by coolguy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi... nothing wrong with having a crush on someone older, but he really is too old for you....
you won't have much in common after a few years... think about it...
any 30 year old man who gets into a relationship with an 18 year old girl, is immature beyond his years! i'd run!
take care.
2007-04-19 04:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I no the feeling it could be frustrating being he is older an all but i tell you older men appreciate honesty that show es your mature so just tell lhim remember he was once that age too im 28 an my husband is 26 and i do not date men younger than me this is a first an because he was real with me i liked him for that so be honest you want a grown man you have to be not afraid
2007-04-19 04:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age difference at this point is HUGE. You need some more life experience before you date someone 11 years older then you. Go to school, get your life in order. Once you can support yourself and have an education, then pursue a relationship with this guy.
2007-04-19 04:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by Robin C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋