Ok so me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months. He was my first love and we broke up a little while ago. We told eachother that we still wanted to remain frineds because neither one of us could imagine not talking to eachother, Now we just hook up but still act like we are together, just without the title of boyfrined and girlfriend. I dont know if this is something i should continue to do or not. It sounds so bad to say but sometimes i feel that its better to have a part of him, then to not have any of him at all. What do i do?
2007-04-19 04:42:16 · 23 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he really wanted you, he would be proud to say he is ur bf - but you re not together anymore so thats not the case. Sorry to say, he is using you so move on! he s not worth crying for!
2007-04-19 04:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by chasey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have made the mistake that a lot of you younger folks do these days. Right now, you two don't have any - ownership rights- with each other and it takes a lot of the caught or owned feelings away. When I was younger, we just dated around and in some cases we had each other like you two do now, and we accepted it as it was and one day at a time. When you feel caught, or restricted, it does something to the relationship. It is just like getting married, Saying " I DO' changes the whole thing, and may times not for the better. P
2007-04-19 04:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try and spend a little time apart if you still have strong feelings towards him once you feel over him completely then try staying friends. You are gonna get really hurt in the long run if you don't try sorting things out now. You need a little time apart so that you can get over him completely and then you can move on with your life and be happy Mr right is out there for everyone your x-boyfriend ain't your Mr right other wise it would of all worked out and you would not be feeling like this
2007-04-19 04:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by sazdeanna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this "just friend" bullshit does not work! TRUST ME.. Seems like a typical Iranian boy to me though ;) tell him to bloody man up and stand in the way of his parents' stupid and racist decision, if he really wants you. How old is he? If he is actually mature enough to make his own decisions then there should not be any second thoughts right? Im iranian and my exs have always been iranian apart from this current bf. I know how you can deal with them. do NOT lend him money. Don't buy the crap with friendship, he wants to be with you but he just needs a little push. Just tell him how you feel about the situation and if he still refuses to understnad then you should know that this relationship -whether it's friendship or a more than that- is a pointless and one-sided one.
2016-05-18 23:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok girl, you need to let go. Obviously from the last part of your entry, you seem still have some emotional attachment to this exboyfriend of yours. That is a very bad sign to begin with. Do you still feel that you will one day get back with him? Truth is .. guys are jerks. When they see something better, they move on. You need to move on .. you can't be giving him what he needs. You can be friends, but not friends with benefits.
and a quote that I like from a friend ..
"if you're giving away free milk,
nobody needs to buy the cow"
So leave him now, don't waste your milk on someone like him.
2007-04-19 04:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by sh480150 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was a reason that there was an EX put in front of boyfriend. Just remaining friends to just hook up is not a health relationship. I would move on there are plenty of men in this world.
good luck
suro
2007-04-19 04:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by suro25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! He's an ex and he's an ex for a reason. Ex to the next sweetie. Never ever be friends with benefits. Even if you wanted him back. That definitely ain't gonna do it. It will only make him not get back with you anymore. He's getting everything he wants. His cake and eat it too. Even if you want sex, find another bf but don't go backwards.
2007-04-19 04:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. You will need to make the decision. Obviously why would he make it lol he still gets to sleep with you. But don't blame him for your heart ache and pain, Don't blame anyone but yourself. Its your life and you make it.
I'm not sure how old i was when my uncle said to me
" Its just a feeling, You'll get over it".
That has stuck with me and even helped me in so many different ways. It can be applied a vary of ways. Right now you need to be thinking that. so you can move on with your life.
2007-04-19 04:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last couple of lines in your paragraph said alot to me. No is your answer. You will feel hurt, and it will keep hurting until you stop w/the benefits. Time will heal your heart.....time "away" from him. Maybe later down the road it would be a good thing, but not now. Good Luck
2007-04-19 04:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the worst idea ever. It is so easy to get emotionally involved with somebody you were already emotionally involved with.
How are you going to feel when he cuts things off when there is another woman? You are clinging onto him. The relationship is over. You need to lay it to rest otherwise you will not move on with your life.
2007-04-19 04:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for a piece of ***. If thats ok with you then by all means continue on. He doesnt want you for a girlfriend but he'll see you to have sex??? wtf is that?! Tell him you want to be friends or boyfriend and girlfriend, make sure he understands that as friends you will no longer be sleeping with him. Do you sleep with your other male friends? Didnt think so, why should this one be any different. Demand respect!
2007-04-19 04:47:28 · answer #11 · answered by Christine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋