me and my boyfriend have been together for 14 months now. its a very like protective relationship, hes very protective of me and gets very intimated by all my other brothers friends. last week we finally had sex for the first time. after we had it, like all this week hes been acting so different, like he had no interest in me. i would get very emontional and moody all the time because you dont act like that to your gf, espesically after she gives her virginity up to you. last night he told me basically he just doesnt care about anything anymore, only school. he doesnt care about me and him or our relationship. he told me he loves me so much and everything. nd broke up with me. idk what to do, ive been such a reck and everything. its even harder cus he was my bestfriend b4 this, and were in the same classes, and hang out with the same friends. and its not like we can get new friends cause we all hang out every weekend for like forever now. IDK WHAT TO DO, IM A RECK PLEASE HELP ME!
2007-04-19 04:26:14 · 18 answers · asked by chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is what we call a typical scumbag, you know he was using you right? he wanted to get sex and get out and once he did there ya go.
2007-04-19 04:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him. ask him what the sudden change was. then slowly try to move on. if he really loves you he'll come back to you. if you're in high school then you have college to look forward to. i know it's hard but with these things you have to do what you think is best. it may be the hardest thing there is but you can do it. also if you dont want to give up and wait for him (if the is a future) then do it. for the mean time hang out with some friends on your own and just try to make the most of life. waiting is hard but can be very repaying. i waited for my boyfriend when something like this happened and we are happier then ever. but sometimes you have to move on because there is sombody better for you that you won't notice if you keep holding on. do what you think is best. but talk to him, and see where you guys are going to be in the future. good luck i hope everything works out!
2007-04-19 11:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by lilyflower01230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he wanted was sex he wouldnt have waited more than a year for it, there are many sluts out there for that. Your relashionship was probably going through problems since he was extremely jelous with your siblings friends. He probably thought that sex would fix things and make you closer-but obviously it didn't. You should have left him long ago with the whole jelousy thing. And try to remember hes not the only man in the world.
2007-04-19 11:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has been really selfish by telling you that he doesn't care about anything anymore after sleeping with you!!!
Girl, he's had his cake and eaten it. Some guys are just like this... I'm sorry to say, but after he has treated you like this do you really want to go out with him again? I think not!!
You need to move on from him, make a new circle of friends. You deserve far better than this!!!
Good luck!! I know it's hard to move on, but you'll find someone one day who makes you feel great!! Soon you'll be saying ex- who???
2007-04-19 11:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. I've always heard that if a man wants sex that he will stick around no matter how long until he gets it. This is a prime example of that. He is a total asshole for taking your virginity and then dumping you. I know that's it's hard but there isn't much you can do if he doesn't want you. Just pray and keep your head up.
2007-04-19 11:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by camry415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did one of two things:
1) He used you, and chose to string you along until he got what he wanted: sex. Now that he got it, he's moving on. He's a jerk and you can do better.
or
2) He's freaked out that the two of you had sex, and is now pushing you away because of how serious things have gotten.
Either way, sit him down and talk to him. You won't be able to move on until you do. Then, you can either rip him a new one for using you or calm him down about your relationship and figure things out together.
2007-04-19 11:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn from this mistake and move on...this time not sleeping with guys...perhaps in time he will reconsider his feelings for you, but if you were only a virginal challenge it's all over now. If that was the case, he's a creep and to be avoided anyway...
2007-04-19 11:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you feel like this because....you gave your virginity to him, I seen it so many times. For example...like me, i lost my virginity to this guy and I thought I was in LOVE!!! but then I met even more nice guys none like this scum bag, so it is true there are plenty of fish in the sea....so just leave this jerk alone and just be happy....even if you do find someone else, he will be the one who will be crushed.....P.S he's not the only guy on this planet, there's a whole world out there....
2007-04-19 11:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by civil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chica he PLAYED you! He got EXACTLY what he wanted SEX. OF COURSE HE ISNT INTERESTED IN YOU ANYMORE! He doesnt even love you! WHY DID YOU GIVE YOUR VIRGINITY AWAY TO A LOSER JERK LIKE him????? BIG MISTAKE! There is NOTHING you can do but pull yourself together and in time you will get over him and find someone new.
2007-04-19 11:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the sex that changed everything - I'm guessing he feels he wasn't too good at it and needs your reassurance that you didn't expect him to get everything right first time. if at first you don't succeed; try, try, again.
i've read some of the previous reponses and some of these people are dangerously judgemental. you're probably off crying right now don't let the stupid answers get to you!
Buff.
2007-04-19 11:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your friends, after all who is he? He took your virginity and now is leaving. Sounds like he was after one thing. He's not worth your stress, move on.
2007-04-19 11:31:27 · answer #11 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋