My husband got home from Iraq Dec. 3rd. We were relocated and he's scheduled to go back in 3 weeks. This will mean he'll only be home with me and our children 7 out of 34 mos. This is very excessive and the commanders he's working with aren't seeing it that way. Does anyone know what I can do or have you experienced this? Thanks for any info or suggestions!
2007-04-19 04:17:08 · 8 answers · asked by jk2ambmw 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
There was never a question whether I loved my husband or would continue to support him. I know we don't have any place to complain about deployments, but the Army is not my first priority, my family IS. When my husband is asked to leave again what seems EARLIER than most servicemen, it IS my place to see if we have any options. I do know how my husband would look if I complained all over the place and-although not anyone's business-I'm not that person. I was just looking for some useful knowledge. I will continue to stand behind my husband and support my kids. With all due respect...to anyone with opinions, not useful info....I want you to know that I know that's all they are, your opinions. I am glad to have given you some reason to think you know it all for the moment though. ;)
2007-04-19 05:33:53 · update #1
Well said, Heather. My husband has deployed twice since we have been together since 2003...Afghanistan then Iraq. He has deployed 4 times in his military career. Now he is in train up to go to Iraq again.
It is part of the job....to deploy. Isnt that what the military trains to do? My husband didnt join the Army to be a garrison soldier. He joined to go do his job, where ever that might be. And we maintain a fabulous relationship when he deploys. I wrap my world around the computer and my cell phone. I send care packages every single week. Letters every single day. And he logs on as often as missions let him (almost daily). He is my world and nobody misses their soldier more than I do. But he loves doing his job and I LOVE HIM!! I wouldnt have life any other way.
So I would tell you to suck it up and put your big girl panties on and push on sister. We all miss our soldiers. And they all miss things, including birthdays, Christmases, anniversaries, 4th of July celebrations (love those free concerts!! Billy Currington last year mmmmmm). Just take pictures and do your very best to support him!!! Deployments dont have to hurt.....choose to make the best of it!!
Hold your head high that you have a soldier who serves. Take care.
2007-04-19 05:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel where you are coming from. Unfortunately, theres not much we can do as spouses, but sit back and wait! Its hard being married, and also a single mother. My husband is deployed right now, for the 3rd time in Iraq. This time, he is going to be gone for 15 months. With the new deployment schedules, things will be a little stressful, but the soldiers are to be home "not less than 12 months after redeployment". So, you will have your hubby home with you and your children for a full year before they have to send him off again.
Right now, though, with your recent move, its working like this. Your husband is a soldier, and they will put him wherever they need him. Just sit tight and do what you normally would do, and it will all be fine.
2007-04-19 06:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by wendik09225 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can not do anything. This is his job, with you running from person to person to complain (not saying its bad) about how long he has been gone in the last 34 months is not going to do anything but give him a name. He will be the soldier that crys, whines, and whatever else they want to say.. As the wife you are better to slip back and not be seen, stand behind him when he is gone and hold him when he is home.. This has happened to alot of us, yes it is hard, but we know what we are getting into when we marry or our men join the Military life.. This is nothing new, your husbands job is to fight for our country, or help during national disaster. You were not issued to him and that is the way the Military feels too.. So best thing for you to do is just take it with pride, and smile.... Good luck and God Bless your Soldier
2007-04-19 04:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anticipate the worst, wish for the pleasant. Along the best way, count on delays and issues(they occur). When you get in your base, count on much less-than-par dwelling stipulations. Oh and a number of the deployed areas have embroider stores that may customized make shirts and different matters for you. Relax, breath, and revel in your day without work if in case you have it. Deployments are amusing, so long as you are taking pleasure within the little matters. When household asks what you wish to have within the mail, inform them to ship you amusing matters. You could be amazed how so much amusing a little bit Nerf gun, false mustache, or different little toys/novelties upload to the activity. Make probably the most of your down time, that's wherein your amusing quite comes from. Good good fortune dude and thanks to your carrier!
2016-09-05 17:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by fertig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has been happening for a while now but supposedly it was suppose to have been fixed but bringing in more units... I think your husband's relocation probably is what messed that up because they are looking at it from the view point of his unit and not him on an individual level.
2007-04-19 04:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that YOUR case is tough...
Back in 1989-1991 I did two back-to-back 6 month Navy deployments. I hadn't even returned from the first, when I got a message from my squadron that another aircrewman had broken his leg skiing, and that I was going to have to replace him on his deployment. So I had three months when I got home to rearrange my impending wedding... and then flew off to Japan for 6 months... two weeks after my wedding !!
Of course, after 5 months of THAT deployment, we got the news that Saddam had invaded Kuwait !! We were extended for another 6 months. Of course, that was back in the days BEFORE email, cell and satellite phones !! You wrote a letter and waited 3-6 weeks for a reply.
I'm curious regarding your husband if it is HE who is being redeployed that quickly, or his whole unit ?
Personally, I think that Congress should give the US Military a MAJOR pay-raise for the duration of the conflict... to help the families and the service-members.
Take care, and thank you for your husband AND your service.
2007-04-19 04:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by mariner31 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Excessive?
I'm sorry to say that once the line is signed, our country comes first and the family comes second.
Besides, I don't remember there being a deployment limit mentioned in the contract.
2007-04-19 04:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
OMG....that's awful. my husband is on a det right now, but he'll be back and he worked hard to get orders so he could be an instructor in FL. this way he won't deploy for a few years. not that we mind the deployments, but he's REALLY missing our son right now...he's missing him in his heart and he's missing all of his "firsts"...steps, words, etc.
i just wanted you to know that i feel for you and my heart goes out to you.
take care.
2007-04-19 04:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋