I recently re-united with the best friend I've ever had. I dated him for about 4 months towards the end of 2005 and then we broke up and decided to be friends... I still had feelings for him but I had the hope that we would get back together. For the next year we were inseperable, we did everything together. I found it difficult to maintain the friendship because it hurt me to only be his friend, but I did. 7 months ago he decided to just walk away from our friendship without any explanation. I tried to find out from him what was going on but he refused to speak to me. Just a few days ago he got into contact with me and he told me that I was the best thing that happened to him and that his life wasn't the same without me and that he couldn't get me out of his head... I'm wondering what I should do? being his frined for a year... I would like some opinions on the situation... Thanks!
2007-04-19 04:12:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm wondering if its possible for him to be looking at me in a different light now?
2007-04-19 04:13:50 · update #1
No... It was not a se xual relationship when we were friends...
2007-04-19 04:20:22 · update #2
I believe in my heart that if that sometimes you dont relize what you've got till it's gone, I know it's a cliche. look him in the eyes and tell him you want to be more than friends and you'll know one way or another if you have a future together. because you'll see that tell tale spark in his eyes. good luck
2007-04-19 04:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Suzie V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just walked out 7 months ago after a year of friendship with you because he finally realized that you're the one for him. Maybe he'd been thinking of it a while that's why he walked away & not told you why because he's not yet ready for you to know. And now he decided to come back to show his feelings! It would be better if you two talk one on one and let your feelings be said once & for all. Maybe now is the right time.Do not make it difficult for both of you. Act now or you might regret it.
Good luck girl, you can do it!
You're in love with your bestfriend & that's cool!
Nice story!
2007-04-19 04:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by malyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he has finally seen what a catch you are, but proceed with caution. It bothers me that you two could be such close friends, yet he can walk away from you so easily without even considering your feelings. Either he's young and something scared him away, or he is just a tad self-centered. If you do decide to give him a chance, keep your eyes open for any red flags that he might not have his whole heart invested. You will have to be your own advocate or in other words, don't invest your whole heart until he has proven himself worthy of your love.
2007-04-19 04:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him if he feels the same way that your feeling he doesn't need to walk away he should ask u if his feelings are still the same way. If there the same way and u know that he really likes u and u like too u shuold guve him a chance. But if he doesn't try to forget about him and don't do nothing crazy for love if he doesn't want u he just doesn't know what he is missing! =)
2007-04-19 04:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by yadira c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....let me tell it this way....alot of men keep female friends for the idea of "keeping our options open"...when he walked away as you explained its a safe bet that he went with what he thought was a better option (aka another woman)...that recent option probably didnt work out for him, so in efforts to re-establish you as an option he reconnected to reopen his "options"....this is the game that a lot of men play....He is playing this game with you....don't be played....move on
2007-04-19 04:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by sterling_love@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you want this to work out. Does he want a relationship with you now? Ask him open ended questions. If he can't answer them then it's time to move on. Good Luck!
2007-04-19 04:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He walked away once without an explanation, what's to stop him from doing it again?
2007-04-19 04:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is a sticky situation
i think you should tell him how you feel and see what he says
if he doesnt have the same feelings for you, break off the friendship
2007-04-19 04:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you his friend plus sexual partner? That may have something to do with what's going on inside his brain..... It's good to marry your best friend.
2007-04-19 04:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has strong feelings for you and didn't know how to deal with it, now it sounds like he's ready to accept them.
2007-04-19 04:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋