Is it wrong to go out with your sisters ex-boyfriend, when really all they did was talk and they never went on a date, but she told me it was wrong to go w/ some one she talked too?
2007-04-19 03:17:26 · 38 answers · asked by steph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it's very wrong! Would you like her doing that to you?
2007-04-19 03:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mellycat123 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No it's not wrong. It could be ackward being with him at first but that will quickly fade. And I take it she's your older sister by what she told you about it being wrong. I have 4 older sisters and the one that's a couple years older than me always used to set me up with her exs. The relationships never really worked out because of distance and age difference but since she just talked to him, I can't see a reason why you shouldn't. If she really loves you, she won't stay upset for long.
2007-04-19 03:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Country Chick87 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've spoken to your sister about it, and she would feel uncomfortable with you doing it, then yes, it is wrong. They may have only talked, but she might not be over it yet. People can never do more than talk to each other and still have really strong feelings. Guys will come and go, but your sister is family for life. Just take a pass on this guy.
2007-04-19 03:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn Green 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This could cause some issues between you and your sister that will be there long after the boyfriend is gone....is he worth that??? If she has expressed her negative feelings about it then maybe she wanted more than just talking and she does have feelings for him. I think you should be considerate of her wishes, at least for now. You don't say how long ago he became her ex. Give it some time. Things must be too fresh for her.
2007-04-19 03:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by dana 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong of her to tell you not to, if it's something you really want for a good reason. But as her sister, you should respect her feelings. How would you feel if the tables were turned and she wanted to date your ex. There's plenty of other dudes out there, you don't have to overlap on your sisters old flames. Besides, it sounds like this is just your way of competing with her, or proving something to her, whether you know it or not.
2007-04-19 03:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by RainHater 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been there too, and it's definitely a tough situation. I agree that it's wrong to recycle your sisters ex's, but only to a certain degree. In my situation, my sister and her ex weren't serious, so it wasn't a big deal to her. But it was definitely something I brought up to her before pursuing. When all is said and done, he's just a guy, she's blood. I'd never want to hurt my sis'
2007-04-19 03:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by lehua 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie,i personally could never do that.In my opinion,of that as a whole,yes.If she is uncomfortable with it,i think you as her sister should respect that.Even if they didnt go on a date,it would still hurt her.I dont think you would like to intentionally hurt your sister,so i would avoid the ex.Simply,that is out of respect for your sister.I dont think,that if you were in her shoes,that you would be too happy about her "going out" with one of your previous boyfriends.Just respect your sister.After all,she is your sister and many guys are going to come and go but your sister is always going to be your sister.Despite how you may argue back and fourth and such,isnt that what sisters are for?Just respect her wishes.Ultimately,It is up to you,and no one can tell you the exact choice to make.This is just my mere opinion.Good luck hun,and have a good day!!
2007-04-19 03:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it all depends on the situation, how did they break up, was it mutual? the reason i say this is because your sister might not be as hurt if it was a mutual break up. It will how ever hurt her a little that you are taking him over consideration of your sisters feelings, I would sit down and talk with your sister about your feelings towards her ex boyfriend, you never know good things can happen. G'Luck
2007-04-19 03:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by kal_el_kitten 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is a reason he is your sisters ex and not her current boyfriend. You should know all the details before getting involved. Plus chances are it won't work out with this guy and you will be left with no boyfriend and no sister.
2007-04-19 03:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is so wrong. With so many guys out there, you had to go there??! What a way to treat your own family. I hope this guy is SOME catch to make someone do some S*#@ like this whether they were serious or it was just a petty relationship. Lines are drawn that really should not be crossed for, if anything, outta respect for your loved ones, family or even friend.
2007-04-19 03:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by CAT3172 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are calling him her "ex-boyfriend" so technically it's taboo. I don't really agree with that, however, as it depends on the situation. It's silly to say certain people are off limits just because they have had a past with your friends/family. If there is a special connection, it shouldn't be ignored. But it really depends on the specific case.
2007-04-19 03:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Lineya 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋