me and my ex had a messy break up 6 months ago and im with a great guy but now im finding it physically impossible to remember my ex. its like my mind is blocking it. whats wrong with me? should i be happy this is happening becuz it saves the pain of remembering? what do i do?
2007-04-19 03:09:10 · 11 answers · asked by xxsupergirl2007xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he spoke to me for the first time in 6 months... why is this
if u have an answer put it at the bottom of ur comment
thanks x
2007-04-19 03:14:11 · update #1
karey hates allen: that didnt help me remember... nice try though
2007-04-19 03:40:24 · update #2
Many people would find this a good thing.
On the other hand, it begs the question has your ex- done stuff that has traumatized you so much that you are refusing to remember it?
THAT in turn brings up the question - do you really wanna know?
Most people with this scenario would prefer to go about their lives happily and not be bothered by it at all. Sometimes people do try this and come to some kind of wierd block in the road - often some sort of a sexual dysfunction or a paranoia or some strange hangup that interferes with life. In this case they may elect to seek therapy and see if they can work through the problem. This might be a very confrontational thing.
2007-04-19 03:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is ... why do you want to? What difference does it make? I';m sure if you ran into him at the market you'd know who he was, but why do you force yourself to bring him to mind? Let it go and get on with life. Remember, however, breaking up is a lot like a death, you need a period of time to mourn, and it's obvious you haven't given yourself enough time in between relationships because you are still obsessed with this other guy.
2007-04-19 03:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sometimes takes 2 years for all to get tied up. You are blocking pain, and are only processing it bits at a time, perhaps in dreams. It's OK, but remember, if you are with someone else now, they want and deserve all you can give. If you find yourself holding back, you are not really ready. Go to groups like CODA to work out stuff.
2007-04-19 03:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person is not "bad" based on physical apperance. A murder is usually a bad thing but it is all circumstantial. Clearly you dont have enough information to provide facts. Everything you have stated is opinion. So clearly you are upset. Which im not sure why you sound like you are reading a book. Or a bad breakup with whoever. So to answer your question, no, you cannot be physically "bad" only mentally.
2016-05-18 22:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. Be happy with the guy you're with now. You're officially over your ex. Nothing's wrong with you, enjoy the present and forget the past. Congrats!
My big milestone was about 5 months after the break-up when I realized that the day that would have been our 3 year anniversary came and went, and I realized it two days later!
2007-04-19 03:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you're a glutton for punishment or this is becoming a creative writing forum. Why would you want to remember a painful experience instead of being happy?
2007-04-19 03:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physically may be impossible, but mentally you can, and you have to. Other wise you get physic. Good luck.
2007-04-19 03:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by manjunath_empeetech 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre happy. why would you wanna remember the other guy?
2007-04-19 03:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy. hes totally out of your life now.
2007-04-19 03:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.good for you. congratulation. you just moved on TOTALLY. and he is nullified. (- the hassle)
2007-04-19 03:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by ♬müsic-to-yoür-ears♬ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋