we're not close and i know she's choosing godmothers for material reasons. how do you politely decline an invitation to be the godmother of the daughter of a distant friend ?
2007-04-19 02:51:37 · 16 answers · asked by sirch 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
here in our country it is bad luck to turn down an invitation to be a godmother. my suggestion why not accept the invitation but tell her that you can not attend because you have a prior obligation.
As a godmother your obligation is to the child not to your distant friend, being asked to be a godmother is considered a honor and a sign of trust.
2007-04-19 04:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥♀VON♀♥~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow...that's a hard one.
If you live far away, then state that you would not be around in the child's life very much and she should pick someone that can be around to help.
If not that, I am really not sure. Perhaps you could say that you would love to, but know that you would not be able to hold up such a high honor due to--examples: being the godmother of other peoples children and having kids of your own, traveling a lot with your job, not being very religious therefore not thinking that you are the person that should help with spiritual development, etc.
Just thoughts, hope I helped.
2007-04-19 03:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that because of your schedule and the fact that you don't see each other that often that you would not be a good choice. Let her know that you want her child to have a good and attentive Godmother.
2007-04-19 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you already agreed to be someone elses godmother and so you dont believe in being a godmother to more than one child unless the other children are in the same family
2007-04-19 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you appreciate the sentiment, but you don't have the resources (time and care) to commit to the child, as any good godparent would, and you couldn't possibly accept the responsibililty and then not be able to carry through properly. This acknowledges the thought of asking (even if you believe it was only for material reasons) but allows you an out because you can't follow thru with the obligation. She can't very well say...."but I don't expect you to do anything?" because this would be really hollow and shallow.
2007-04-19 03:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly say you think there would be better choices for a godmother. What does she want you cause you're wealthy? If thats the type of person she is, then screw her.
2007-04-19 02:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patiently explain your feelings and your answer in a slow caring way. Be patient and understand the other persons feelings. That person is saying in so many words that you are special. And, you need to sound caring, kindhearted in the way you decline.
2007-04-19 05:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are flattered that you she thought of you. Let her know that being a God mother carries a lot of responsibility (for spiritual guidance) that you are not yet ready to handle especially if you are not close. She should understand. I hope this helps.
2007-04-19 03:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to define the reasons you were her choice. This may change your mind. If not then you simply tell her that you feel that she has other options and you don't feel you are the right person to fulfill this role/obligation. However, you are flattered. God bless****
2007-04-19 04:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you've given it much thought and came to the conclusion you won't make a good godmother, sorry, please choose someone else.
2007-04-19 04:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋