My 8 year old daughter and sex - help!!!?

Question

I am so mortified as my 8yo daughter took a "book" she made to school that had cut out cartoon pictures of sexual positions pasted it. I had suggested she do a collage of pictures cut out of magazines, and there must have been a Cleo or Cosmo in there with a "sealed" section or something she found. She knew it was wrong, as she started crying as soon as she knew I had been told by the teacher and she had labelled the "book" as "top secret". She is embarrassed and devastated (as am I!). I haven't given her the "sex talk" yet as I feel she is too young, but I am wondering what is going on in the playground that made her do this? I know that the third graders talk occasionally of "sex" but I sincerely believe none of them really know what it means. How should I deal with this problem? I believe she was showing off at school but I am wondering what on earth gave her the idea to do it in the first place! Her teacher is very supportive and believes the matter is at an end.

To LindaD - actually, I didn't buy the magazine in question, she found it at my workplace where she had come to visit for a while and was cutting out collages....also if you read the answers from everyone else, talking about sex or the concept of sex without understanding what is really means, is actually very common in playgrounds, so I think your head is in the clouds if you don't believe your 9 year old grandchildren have never heard the word from another child. It doesn't mean the children know exactly what this means!

Answer 1

Children are both innocent and inquisitive.
It seems that you left the magazines laying around for her to cut up and use in her book.
My wife and I have four children so I can understand your point of view, But you must understand that yes kid's do talk about it in school, It is hard for a child of that age to be near an older child and hear sex mentioned, then questions start flowing.
The trick is not to get angry with your little one and most of all don't make her feel guilty or upset, Because as she gets older she may be hesetant to approach you on the subject when she needs to know for real.
Till she get's to that age comfort he and tell he she did nothing wrong, but she must understand that there are certain books and magazines that she must not touch as they are not meant for her, And if at school her teacher believes the matter is at an end, then leave it at that, tomorrow is another day and your little one will have proberbly forgotten all about it in the morning.

Answer 2

We had the chat you are dreading at the start of the Easter holidays. My eight year old was coming home with the most amazing facts of life from the playground. I chose the holidays so we could have our chat, and let any queries come out and have it over and done with before school started up again. Some of the stuff they say in the playground is bizzare! and quite frightening to a sensitive kid. Did not have to give mine too much detail, but left the door open for further chats, and made sure the basics (mechanics plus our religious point of view!) were covered.

Answer 3

I think it's time to start the talk. Ask her what she already knows about sex. I can remember being very young but having a vague idea about sex and that was just from a perfume commercial! I even placed Ken and Barbie in strange positions just trying to figure it out. This was all perfectly normal. And maybe Cleo and Cosmo shouldn't come into your house anymore.

Answer 4

Wow! Now that is a shock! I would think that if you gave your daughter the sex talk, stating that it's is a private act between two consenting adults and not to be shared with everyone with in ear shot. That may help. I know that kids are learning things from friends that we didn't know until high school. Look at these cartoons and the way kids are dressing now. Tell her that if she wants to know things about sex that she should ask you not her friends who will be giving her wrong info. And good luck.

Answer 5

start up off by using in line with risk asking her might you elect for to have youngsters once you're older hunny? If she says specific tell her that once a guy and female love one yet another plenty ( that's significant to emphasis the affection area) they choose for to have a family members jointly so as that they have got intercourse to get a new child . Then in basic terms be uncomplicated say that the guy places his bits into the female no might desire to describe the rest yet! If she has any questions in basic terms answer them , she might ask how does that get a new child tell her that the guy gets seeds in him and whilst he has intercourse with a female he loves alot he places a number of those seeds in her and he or she will become pregnant. it would be a sturdy theory to describe with dolls. Theres some sturdy books you may %. up from you're community library and e book place examine them jointly so it is going to become a definite time for you the two , you do on no account choose for her to experience like she will't ask or talk to you approximately those issues.

Answer 6

Well you might as well talk to her about it now that she is already learning from magazines and no doubt the kids at school. But make sure to emphasize that sex is something for married adults. Tell her it's not for children or teens because they are not old enough to be married.

Answer 7

I think you should definitely talk to her about sex, find out what she knows and then go from there, she might not actually know what it is, tell her that kind of thing is not appropriate for school or for 3rd graders. Kids know alot more these days than we did, I blame it mostly on tv, movies and fashion. Good luck!!

Answer 8

your daughter is obviously wanting information about sex and that information should be given by you , the parent at various ages and stages right along as she matures. what a toddler might need to know would be brief and simple and geared to the age and stage of each child. there are many books out there instructing parents in how to present the topic of sex ed to your kids and its your responsibility to be the primary teacher of your children so if you have hang ups in this area its time to deal with them and get started with the job of teaching your child . if you do not do this she or he will get it somewhere else and in less desirable ways trust me on this . they will learn in other ways and from other kids and books ect. as they mature of course but they need to hear it from you first and to not only get the physical facts and psychological impacts of this topic but also your moral stand on the issues facing kids today. they may not always embrace your beliefs but they need a standard by which to judge things and to know that even when they might test them or disagree , mom and dad have standards and are firm about them.

i do not believe sex ed is a one time talk . its ongoing from very early on and as i stated, its geared to the age and stage of the child.

Answer 9

well she can't be that disillusion on sex if she can create a book. Believe me sex talk is more rampant then you believe. and if you do not teach her about the true meaning of sex now, someone in school or on tv is going to teach her wrong.

Answer 10

honey. your late on that talk. 8 year olds are having sex these days. i knew a 9 almost 10 year old who got pregnant in the 3rd grade. girls are starting periods as young as 6-7 years old now. due to hormones in food. get on to that talk before shes huge pregnant and you cant explain the weight gain or pain shes in.

that books says she knows what sex is and she knows its private