I ( taurus) met a guy ( capricorn) and he and I started talking. B4 he and i had done anything, he had told me that he had just gotten out of a long relationship and he was already talking to another female. I assumed they were casual phone buddies. He and I had sex, right afterward, he told me that he had been married but was seperated. He had also begun to have sex with the other girl ( phone buddy), while he was having sex with me. One day he tells me that he wants me to get tested. I asked him why and he gets all offended and tells me that he doesn't know who I am having sex with. Maybe a month later, he tells me that he has a friend that he wants to hook me up with b/c he is developing stronger feelings for the other girl. I am extremely hurt. Then he tells me the reason he wanted me to get tested was because he and the other girl were having unprotected sex, he and i had only had unprotected sex once. Why does he want me to be with his friend why doesn't he jus break it off?
2007-04-19 01:34:46 · 19 answers · asked by trickortreat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for crying out loud, get out of there!
disgrace him in the worst way possible in public and get shot of him.
sounds likes he needs castrating!
(i feel so sorry for you)
2007-04-19 01:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by Stig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only thing I can say is this guy is an idiot.
I think some people in the world just tell lies to people and don't let them know that their sexual health could be at risk.
That is really inconsiderate not to tell you that BEFORE you had sex, though.
You really should get tested at a clinic or the doctor. You are also at risk of HPV if he is promiscuous and goes around having random sex like that.
HPV may not show up until a year or so later on a pap test.
I don't like the fact that he tried to set you up with a friend. He probably thinks he is being nice by doing that, but that's not cool to me.
This relationship sounds like it was all about him and what he wanted because he was having sex with two people at least at the same time.
One weird thought is he might set you up with the friend to keep you around in the (likely) event he drops the other girl.
People like this just have sex and don't really care about the other person that much, in my opinion.
Personally, I think I would let this idiot go and stay out of his social circle if it is practical.
I would also try to use protection when having sex especially if you are doing that with people you don't know that well.
And, lastly, I would try to find nicer, more considerate men to be around unless you are only interested in sex and not the companionship/emotional side of things.
This type of relationship only can lead to hurt for nice, kind people who care about themselves and others.
2007-04-19 01:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by KAR36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels guilty about having unprotected sex, and thinks there may be a chance that at least one of the three of you are infected with something. He may think it's him, the other girl, or you - I can't tell from what you've given us.
He wants to hook you up with the buddy, because he wants to be with the other girl more than you, but wants to let you down somewhat easy.
I'd tell them to all go piss up a rope, and then call your doctor.
2007-04-19 01:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just simply tell him "no thank you" on the offer for his friend... that you've already had a better offer.
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2007-04-19 11:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mark V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far far away from this guy. any guy whos friends would want his 2nds is gross. And any guy who would pass you off to someone else is a complete jerkoff. I dont' think the message could be any clearer.
next time a guy admits to "talking" to another girl, don't make the mistake of thinking phone buddy. Guys don't have phone buddys. Wise up, or you're going to be in for a lot of heartache.
2007-04-19 01:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have given him the power to abuse you. And you are asking him to decide to break it off. Sounds like you need to take control of your own life and regain control. You can stop this abuse and move on. The guy is a sleazebag. Dump him or you deserve the hear-break you get.
2007-04-19 06:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by estimator01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn from your mistakes and experiences. Stop believing in horoscopes and take a break from unprotected sex, it is DANGEROUS. They are using you. They have discussed you already now you seem EASY to them. STOP !!
2007-04-19 01:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ari-ah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, i feel bad he sounds like a player. Sorry to say. If i was you i might get checked, couse what he is doing is not even right. He might have something sexually transmitted ,you never know. And for him to tell you about his friend is REALLY MESSED UP!!!!!!!! It sounds like he is like pipen up out. I'm sorry to say, but i would get out. It might hurt like hell but you do not need anyone to treat you like that!!!! You deserve so much BETTER then that!!!!!! Mister right is out there for you and he is NOT it...
2007-04-19 01:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u have to be honest with u're self and u break up with him before u get hert more than now and try to ignore him and trust me u will find a boy who really likes u. cause if u stayed with him u will be as a doll in his hands. just leave him.
2007-04-19 01:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes a big player, and he don't care-about anyone or anything but sex.he can never be trusted, you deserve better, get away from him now!!!!!!!!!!he's pro bally just trying to see how many women he can do, your being used my dear, get away before he does give you something, in fact, if i was you, id get checked out and never go unprotected again!!!!!!!!!!!!!he's a pig, let him go
2007-04-19 01:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋