I'm so scared...?

Question

When I was 14 I was in a pretty bad car crash. I was told I would probably never walk again.

I had physio about 4times a week and now I can walk again, painfully.

In NZ you are able to get your licence at 15. Since the crash, I've been so scared to get in a car, let alone try for my drivers licence.

All my friends have it, and i'm the only one who hasn't.

Everytime I go to read the road code I get so angry and so upset I just sit there balling my eyes out.

My parents don't know how I feel, noone does. They all think I'm too lazy to go for it.

It's almost like this physically barrier. I really can't explain this type of fear. I've never felt like this about anything before.

I don't trust myself. I'm scared i'm going to kill someone else on the road.

Please, i'm desperate for help!

What can I do?

I was in counselling briefly. My counsellor didn't help though. But I was diagnosed with Post tramatic stress and depression

Answer 1

I am so sorry that you are still feeling the affects of the accident.I would let your parents know that you are somewhat apprehensive about driving. .When you decide to go for driving lessons I would suggest that you take lessons from a professional driving instructor.The instructors are trained to teach you the skills you need to be a competent and safe driver. You will gain confidence in your ability with the instructor as well.I think you might feel too nervous learning with family or friends. Another thing is that a driving instructor will teach you to drive correctly. You will offensive and defensive driving.You may be nervous at first but only a fool wouldn't be a little nervous (even someone who hasn't had your bad experience).You are more aware than most the impact that driving can have on your life. Do not be afraid to take that first step,even if you need to try more than once.There is an old saying that the only fear is fear itself. You have overcome so much and have accomplished it all ,one day at a time. You have proved to yourself you are not a quitter.It may not be easy but I believe you can also overcome this hurdle in your life.Take care.

Answer 2

once you hear the term no balls, it has a distinctive meaning to each and each guy or woman. No balls to a pair human beings skill being scared to get injury, or do some thing bodily brave. To others it skill being an avoider, fending off conflict, or war of words, or manipulating as a replace of confronting. maximum of my difficulty in life has come no longer from actually being an avoider, yet from being a shy guy or woman, and being seen as an avoider. i've got not got self belief human beings might desire to discover extra guts, through fact no person, along with me, has guts for all time, on a daily basis. i'm in straight forward terms a guy with a foul social distrust and soreness, and a few human beings see it as concern of war of words, and as a man or woman, I care what they think of extra desirable than I faux to care approximately them.

Answer 3

An accident is just exactly what it is Wabby; meaning that you did not deliberately plan it. Please do not blame yourself anymore. It is not only a physical barrier, but a mental one as well. You really need to talk to someone; someone to help you to see that you are reacting quite normally. It is a fear that is gripping you and holding you as a prisoner that is the fear you are talking about. That is why you need someone to talk to; some one who can help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. Wabby that light is there; it's waiting for you to come and see it.
You take care now.

Answer 4

You really need to share your fears with your parents. They can get you a bit of therapy or even just be there for you during the process. What you are feeling is quite normal. I once ran over a cat that was sleeping on the top of my tire. My mother had to force me to drive before I would drive again. (And that is minor compared to what you had gone through)

Answer 5

It is OK to be scared. Plus, you are still very young. If you really don't need the car, then I would suggest you wait until you feel comfortable, even if it is a year or two. In that time, talk to a counselor or anyone else who will listen to you and help you deal with your fear.

Answer 6

It's pretty logical to be scared Wabby. You might need to talk it out with someone. Bearing in mind it must have beena pretty traumatic event. I reckon you're quite brave just to be thinking about it. See if you can talk to a qualified person. Is there any financial assistance from car rego or insurance? Best of luck.

Answer 7

It’s normal to be scared. Talk about it with someone, it will help. Don’t be worried about killing someone on the road. You need to start slowly and learn in a big car park. You’ll be fine, just talk about what your feeling and I think you will be able to move on.

Answer 8

Dear miss waaby
As I totally understand your sympthom it's very common for this type of situation, the trauma could be a very fearful to any one, but yours was an accident, that does not mean there is nothing but accident & death now through the rest of your life, its a fear(opposite of confident&trust) as an attack in your life, for your to even further beleives into other labels but the spirit of fear always brings negative sinergy..that make you take a personal innervows as acurse to cause this handicap in life, all you have to do is to speak out forgive yourself as you forgive others for the cause of that accident,as Jesus christ has forgiven man for they don't know what they do, then renounce & denouce fear of trauma, fear of driving, fear of rejection, fear of man& all kind in Jesus christ name,just repeat this proclamation for didnot receive the spirit of fears but the spirit of power love & aperfect sound of mind and I can do all things through christ Jesus who straighenes me..as HE promises me, beleives waaby kiwi.. the LORD is your shepperd you shall not fear! the holy spirit is the driver & there will be Angels watching over you as they did for you to be free now, HE loves so much,that He did not act like coward,but instead HE in full paid for all your benefits & knowledge by being crucified, died and rose again like valintine flower. I have been there, hangs around true GOD people with positive energy, satan tremble at his name all the demonic sinergy in your life be gone in JESUS Christ name hold his blood again satan plots, plans & lies.now you are free read His word psalm23/ psalm 37.there is power in our tongue we can bless someone or curse someone, speak life or death , GOD iS good, and HE is LOVE, peace. amen.I bless you..The way .. The truth & The light.amen.@ vcc.org

Answer 9

Sounds like you're possibly suffering from post traumatic stress. you should tell someone because it can be managed.