I'm not sure if I have made the right decision, I fancy a girl at work and it was making me feel guilty (although I have done nothing with this girl) so I thought I'd do the right thing and split up with her seen as I fancied someone else I dont know if its because it was yesterday or something else but now I feel I made a bad decision my emotions are up and down. I'm 27 and need some advice thanks
2007-04-18 20:56:48 · 24 answers · asked by simonted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont want to be single this was a serious relationship
2007-04-18 21:01:28 · update #1
Be single, its fun and exciting.
2007-04-18 20:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by nanalynnminn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're feeling that you haven't done a good thing and that it was a bad decision you made, you should meet your girlfriend you split with and tell her to forget what you told her yesterday. Tell her that what you said was insane and you still love her and want to continue with your relationship. I am telling so, because you don't know what are the feelings of the girl that you work with. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she's getting married in a few months. You don't know whether this girl likes you or not, whether she's ready to build a relationship with you, a colleague of her.
On the other hand you know how your girlfiend is. You know that she loves you and you should know anything about her by now. I think that when you made this decision, you acted more physically than mentally and morally.
Hope this helps and good luck mate. If I were in your position I would take this advise because you're not secure about the answer of your colleague.
2007-04-18 21:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girl at work does she feel the same towards you or is it just one way? Your g/f must be feeling crap today to, its not easy breaking off with some one but you thought that you had done the right thing yesterday. Maybe talk to your ex and explain to her that you don't think you have done the right thing and see what she says to you. If you really want to be with her then you need to sort the feelings out with this girl at work as your relationship with your ex wont work. At 27 you should know what you want in life, I'm not being horrible but you have been with your ex for 18 months which is a long time and you obviously loved her or liked her a lot that why you did what you did yesterday so that you didn't hurt her. it show you do care about her.
Do what you think is right for you and your ex now.
Good luck
2007-04-18 22:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i broke up with my BF in sept last yr after nearly 6 yrs and was gutted. Although i was the one who broke it off, not due to another person, the relationship had just ran its course. I didnt no if i felt guilty or the sense of loss at the time, but i still think about him now and again . Are u hoping something will happen with this girl at work??? if this is the case then yes u have made the rite decision - and u will get over it, time is a great heeler although i doubt u will think that at this time. Emotions are the hardest thing to keep control of.
Or be single and enjoy it cause i am!!!!
2007-04-18 22:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is that easy to leave her after 1 1/2 years of a relationship, maybe you were not in love with her. You can't just leave someone you love every time you fancy someone else. There will be many times in life when you are attracted to someone else. You need to be mature enough and in love enough to avoid pursuing those women.
Have you ever considered that you just might not have met the right girl yet? Next time, if you realize that the girl is not right for you, don't wait so long to split up. You will save someone a lot of heartache.
2007-04-18 21:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and everybody else will always come across attractive people, sexy individuals and such. Very normal. Now, if you are actually interested in this other woman, you did the right thing. Obviously, you are not still into the girlfriend and to not end it would only make you a cheater sooner or later. So, I think you did a very respectable thing. If you are still in love with your girlfriend, maybe you need to do some soul searching of your own to figure out if she is who you really do want to be with or not. Only then, will you know if you've made a mistake by calling things off with her. Be honest with yourself and others. Nobody can blame you for doing that!
2007-04-18 21:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should of given yourself time. Your girlfriend i would imagine didnt see this coming and must be devasted! Meet up with her and be honest with eachother have a period of time say 7 days and meet up again and im sure you will know how you feel then.
Relationships arent meant to be easy, it is times that test your relationship where you will see whether you are meant to be.
I say all of this, as if you see my question me and my boyfriend have had a 7 day time break. He told me on monday and this is the hardest thing ive dealt with before. Mainly because im the cause lack of affection and being in a auto-pilot mode for the last 4 or so weeks! Anyway this is your question and i wish you the best, go and talk face to face dont leave her hanging
2007-04-19 01:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by Rose L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only split up yesterday so you're bound to be all over the place emotionally. Give yourself time to adjust before you start anything with this new girl or you'll expect her to be like your ex - and you'll be on the rebound.
Give yourself a time limit of 30 days or something, being single and if after 30 days you feel the same about your ex then make up with her. If not then get to know this other girl better.
2007-04-18 21:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think personally that the desicion u made was a bit immature.
U say u dont want to be single and the relationship u had was serious, so why the hell did u split with her, she must be devastated..?
How do u know that the girl at work wants a relationship?
I think that u have been thinking from that little brain in ur trousers...!
2007-04-18 22:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when you split up with someone we always think its the right thing to do at that time,for whatever reason,then as time goes on we miss that person and normally wish we were back with them,its a time thing that heals the wounds.what you are doing is rushing straight back out there to this girl at work and not giving yourself time.if you fancied her in the first place then maybe u didnt love your girlfriend that much.time will tell hope the new girl is all what she is cracked up to be,cause the grass isnt always greener on the other side
2007-04-18 21:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by fairy_gdmthr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no RIGHT advice... It is your decision at the end of the day...
Had things come to a natural end with your gf??? Was there a good chance that the girl at work was receptive to you???
Perhaps you should not have gf's and just find sex partners until you feel you are mature enough to have an adult relationship... :D
2007-04-18 21:01:48 · answer #11 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋