Please HELP me!!!!?

Question

So imagine you are kind of "seeing" this guy and he says that he loves only after about 2 months...you deffinitly don't love him. You try and cover, but end up saying it back just to get him to shut up....4 months later, you are miserable and feel almost like he is stalking you....you can't seem to get rid of him...he is always there, every day. He calls you all the time, even when you are in class, and trying to sleep, and he leaves a hundred messages on your messenger and email...How would you tell him that you don't love him without totally ruining him and making him go crazy????

Answer 1

Hi.. there the problem your facing is usual type.. hmm if i were in your position, i'll tell him frankly that instead u making me happy, your making my life miserable that the honest truth rilly you should stop. it's getting out of hand.

behind all those scenes that you told me.. his friends is motivating him so .. he won't be that determined if he has no support.. but if he doesn't stop you gotta do wat you gatta do.. use force.... gudluck friend i know love can be carzy sumtimez ,as guy i also feel like dat.. lke crazy for a girl... but life must move on there, the world rotates everday it does wait for 4 u..

Answer 2

He is stalking you and when you were with him he used controlling behaviour.

You should not tell him anything, screen all your calls, but it's better on your nerves if you have his number blocked, the phone company will do it for a fee, when he appears when you are with others, ignore him and block him on your e-mail. a friend will know how. If he confronts you, tell him you are not interested and walk away. call a friend right away on your cell phone right away and keep talking to her until he is away from you.

Your right about crazy, calling and leaving 100 messages on each is crazy, crazy enough that he may hurt you. You gotta put distance between yourself and this quy that he can't bridge. You have to literally get out of his life so he can't do the things he is doing.

I know it's unfair, the expense and the effort, but it's the only way. Getting a restraining order can sometimes backfire.

But you should never had said you cared for him to spare his feelings. By keep saying over and over again that he loves you and not letting up until he gets the same response from you definetly controlling behaviour.

You should talk to someone professional about him and especially learn what controlling behaviour is.

Answer 3

"Say no" Don't lead him by being ,simply nice in your mind ,
tell him "lay off": and mean it ! Mean it dam it!!!Hes not playing fair , and will will led on by you in the least nice your
simply being as you would to anyone else."End it" ...Neither
which you do will prevent this guy from being a nutcase if he is
Do not talk to him after the first tries to break the lttle relationship off ,dont contact him ,dont let him contact you and make it well known if you want nothiong to do with him,
But I hope he understands you withinbn your friendship may not have behaved correctly.Have you told him you loved him?
Have you said things so damn personel .You already know you dont have ideas of permenence or marriage now ,"Why would you let down your facade on any boy or young man?
Then again why would they think you would want them?
When they have aspirations also too that dont include you ?
Then again...STOP SEEING HIM TALKING TO HIM !
if theres something wrong with him every little thing will lead him on.....!!!!!!! Move or change schools ....You are using the word love ...... Talk to your friends ,parents,school, and once you do ..DONT ANYONE OF THEM CATCH YOU TALKING OR CALLING HIM AGAIN....

Answer 4

There isn't any way to dump him and also not upset him. He will be upset. The only way to do this is to just cold turkey drop him and let him know you just don't have any interest in continuing. Then, never, ever answer or respond to any emails or phone calls. Stay consistent and that's the best way to keep yourself safe and him out of your life.

Answer 5

It depends if you still want to be with him or brake up... just let him know that it makes you uncomfitable when he doesnt let you have any space to breath... but you have to tell him that you dont love him if thats how you feel just let him now that your at the same level in the relationship as him...
hope all goes well for you and hope the answer is useful.

Answer 6

hmmmmm I'm no expert but....
if he really is getting to u, tell him to back off ( just a bit nicer than that.. ). try explaining that you need some space by yourself and he's crowding you with all the attention... also meantioning that you dont love him the same way he does you might be a good idea, but definitely do it gentally....
and if he keeps it up tell someone..... sounds like a bit if a stalker.....

Answer 7

Honesty is the best thing. Sit him down somewhere quiet and tell him "I'm sorry, but I just don't feel about you the way you feel about me". Let him know too that his attention is not doing you well.

Answer 8

Giving someone mixed messages brings about mixed results. If you interested in ending things, be clear with him and yourself and how you want the relationship to be -- and then stick to your guns.

Answer 9

It's not about him, It's about You. And You are important. Enough already. Be honest with yourself and with those that affect You. Be sensitive with yourself and respect the other person enough to not lead him on with lies and sympathy. Just don't let anger creep in, Please.