They are as much victims as the people he killed, they have probably already received death threats. They will have to bury their (admittedly crazy) son most likely without a funeral, and although some might blame bad parenting, it is not their fault that this happened. What do you think?
2007-04-18 17:36:41 · 17 answers · asked by The JZA 2 in News & Events ➔ Current Events
This is exactly why I am scared to have children, what if they are a failure to society. You can't predict what another human being will do even if they are your child. I doubt his parent thought he had this in him. I feel bad for them because we all know that there will be nutcases out there that will make racist comments and gestures to them or even threaten to kill them...no one wins in this situation.
2007-04-18 19:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Superfly21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly could not imagine how these poor parents are feeling. Go over to the parenting sectionhere and you have mums stressing out about their 12 month old nicking toys off other children. It is not only their shame in what he has done, but they also have lost a child. Children are not supposed to die before their kids, whether from a disease or through the sickness that he was obviously suffering by causing this.
I feel very sorry for them. In the Korean culture too, the shame that is bought upon the family is different in Western cultures.
Very sad for all. I do not feel sorry for Cho though, I find he was sick and it is sad either parents, students or teachers didn't REACT to his odd behaviour. We as humans do tend to bury our head in the sand sometimes.
2007-04-19 00:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by jayger04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel bad for them. Can you imagine raising your child to be the best person you think he/she can be and then you read the papers or watch the news to find out that he killed a bunch of people. It must be tearing their hearts up. I mean they love him because he is their son but must be completely ashamed and deeply saddened by the events that happened at their son's hands.
No this is not bad parenting, he acted because he was mentally ill. Of course there are some studies that have shown that early child abuse can lead to mentally ill problems when the child has reached adulthood, but that information has not been presented in this case as of yet therefore I am not even considering it at this moment. He had mental issues and that is just that.
2007-04-19 00:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Spyder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for them.I realy don't feel that this is any fault of theirs.Sometimes a person just goes off the deep end with no influence from their parents.My father and mother were good christian people and my father is curently an ordained minister.But I spent 3 years on a 5 year sentence in for stabbing somebody .I regret what I did but my parents had nothing to do with it.
2007-04-19 00:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Snowman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heard rumors that both the mother and the father have attempted suicide and are currently being hospitalized. according to the korean news, the father is already dead. none of the news in the us is focusing at all on his parents right now so theres no way to be sure.
the mother works at my high school as a cafeteria lady and thats what has hit me the most today... that i talked to her almost every week, never to expect something this crazy to be associated with her. i dont know what to feel about everything just yet but i really would like to hear more information about the parents. please dont assume anything this early in the situation.
2007-04-19 00:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by Carmen D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do feel for them and it was their son not them who pulled the trigger and killed those people, but, as a parent myself, I wonder how hard they tried to get him to get help? A parent hates the thought of something being wrong with their child, but at some point common sense has to take control and let you realize that your child has very, very deep emotional problems. Yes, he was an adult, but as his parents wouldn't they have been able to have had him committed somewhere? Plus I wonder if the fact that they came from a different culture than the U. S. perhaps that may have hindered them from helping him seek appropriate care; like perhaps in South Korea society isn't as open to mental health issues and/or care as we are in the U.S. But all in all, my heart does hurt for his parents just like it does for the parent's of his victims, for they not only have to deal with the loss of their son, but also with the fact he took the lives of 32 others.
2007-04-19 00:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Doogie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I blame them. It is THEIR fault in a way, for not having tried to institutionalize their madman son and gotten him the proper medical care (mental) when they KNEW he was depressed (it was reported they knew he had been depressed). Also, it was reported they may have left S. Korea 14 or so years ago to get their son out of there after he pulled some stunt or other. This guy was the bad seed if ever there was one and I think his mother and father ARE indeed to blame (at least partially) as they KNEW ABOUT HIS MENTAL ILLNESS! Again, the BAD SEED!
2007-04-19 00:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure they didn't have something to do with his mental problems? I read his 'plays' and had the distinct feeling that something had happened to him. He spoke a lot about sexual abuse in those 'plays' and that really made me think that maybe something like that happened in his past that caused his mental problems. If that is the case, his parents must retain some of the responsibility for what happened. I do feel sorry for them in one sense - I cannot imagine the horror they feel knowing they have lost their child forever and knowing what he did before he killed himself.
2007-04-19 00:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel horrible for them. Their pain is like that of anyone victimized by the Virginia Tech killer, only more so because their son betrayed all values and respect for human life. He is ultimately the cause of everybody's suffering that day. The parents have to come to terms with that, in addition to losing their kid. It's tragic all around. I don't place the blame on them.
2007-04-19 00:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dalarus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This kid definatly had a severe case of schizophrenia. I read that when his parents found out about this, his mom fainted and his dad had a heart attack (internet rumor) His family is actually currently in hiding, cuz of their shame, but they were aware of his mental ilness and were concerned.
And his rant about hating rich kids, its BS. His sister graduated from Princeton University, which is $40,000/yr. His family was in a sound financial situation
2007-04-19 00:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by woah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋