I am 16 and i have really strict parents. They not allowing me to date and i can't cope. I do have someone who i care about very much and i have known for 8 months and we love each other dearly. But my parents think dating a guy is a NO NO. When i told my parents i liked a boy they almost had a heart attack but they said they will allow me to hold hands when i turn 18! They cant stop me for likeing boys its just natural. He parents like me a lot. But theres no way i can let him my own parents because they dont care if my boyfreind is a good guy or not. I just can't date. The only thing i can do is go where my brother goes and my bro is 18 and can't be around his little sister all the time! He even thinks it crazy because he knows how responible I am and I have good morals. I have three questions. What can I do!!? and is there anyone else who isnt allowed to date till 18? And how are you coping?
2007-04-18 17:29:37 · 12 answers · asked by sweetgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats the thing with my friends! They all have boyfriend and are into boys too! If i hang with them i have to bring boy anyways!
2007-04-18 17:37:36 · update #1
Well i actually know a few people who married there high school sweethearts.....
2007-04-18 17:55:40 · update #2
I wasn't allowed to date till I was 16 and I still dated anyways just behind my parents back... you're just gonna have to deal... sorry
2007-04-18 17:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. I'm 17 at the moment and not allowed to date till I finish high school. Which is when I'll be 18 anyway. I can totally understand how you feel as I've been in this situation myself. But honestly if the guy really does like you he will wait till you're 18. And if not you'll find someone much better and more mature by then. Your parents aren't wrong. 99.99% of high school relationships don't last, so why get yourself into the trouble?? If you really were mature enough to date you wouldn't question your parents authority and this is by no means an unfair rule. Just be patient... the right person and time will come along eventually.
2007-04-18 17:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your parents are making a huge mistake. They are only making something that can wait seem even more important to you than it is. Just realize that you will like not marry someone that you date in highschool. And, even though I dated in High School. I think all it did was cause me grief. What would become of it anyway? College is a good time to have a first important boyfriend. Why not wait? You may actually be able to marry at that age. And, falling in love in HS will just lead to heart ache. And, take you mind off school which is what will make your future. Your parents are just trying to help you. Not control you.
2007-04-18 17:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can remain just friends and express that you both love eachother. As long as you only talk about how much you love eachother and dont actually declare being bf and gf...well, you havent done anything wrong. Flirting wouldnt be out of line either, neither would hugging because friend scan hugh eachother.
And when you turn 18, you can hold hands? ....when you turn 18 youre an adult and you can do anything you darned well please. Hold hands, kiss, get married, etc.
2007-04-18 17:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Adam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents just want the best for you. Having a boyfriend is not something light, its a relationship that will have effects in your life. They just want you to be mature when you enter into that kind of relationship. Dont go behind their back, show them that you are indeed mature and of good moral character. It's not that they dont trust you, they are afraid of kid's impulsiveness. Someday you will understand and will appreciate their concern and love for you.
2007-04-18 17:38:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about talking to them and telling them how you feel and ask if they will compromise and make it 17. Don't be hard on your parents you may not think so but they love and care for your welfare. You have a lifetime ahead of you don't rush it..at least you get to go to his house and chat with his mother, and best of all she likes you. Invite him to your house or dinner at your house, can he really afford to take you out on a date? meet your parents half way and ask that they meet you the other half....
2007-04-18 17:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that how my gf parent was she is 16 and im 17. Her parent wouldnt want her to date but one day she invited me to dinner with her parent. At first they were asking me question about how i met there daughter. But now her parent treat me like im family. So invite ur bf to dinner and have a great time once they realize how great ur bf is then they let u date. so yea good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-04-18 17:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong if u just be friends for now with this guy and wait for another two urs untill u turn 18 ?
ur parents have some good intentions in mind for u .
2007-04-18 17:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell your mother that you really want to date. Try to bargain with her. Instead 18 make it 16. If all fails then just wait.
2016-04-01 08:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish my parents were more strict. They let me date at 15 and it was a BIG mistake. I wasn't ready for the responsibilities that went along with it.
You'll see when you get older. I promise you. You'll thank your parents.
Coping-get some girl friends to hang with. Find a fun hobby or activity that you enjoy doing and get good at it.
You'll be 18 soon enough.
2007-04-18 17:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋