How do i get to be friends with a group of people?

Question

I kno some people in the group and i have known them for about a year. We are friends but not good friends. Now i would like to hang out with their group. Im shy and i dont kno how to approach the group. I think they will think im werid fornot having approached them again and i dont kno how to become good friends with the group. Im still in high school and i would like to sit + hang out with them at lunch. How can i accomplish this and i kinda need specific help on this situation not just answers that say dont be shy anymore.

Answer 1

This is really tough, because rejection is tough -- especially in high school. First, get to know at least one person in the group. If you can talk with them, and do things together and still feel comfortable, then it'll be easier to get accepted into the group as a whole.

If you don't feel comfortable, then try new friends.

There's an idea that it's shallow and superficial to do small-talk and stuff like that, but it's part of communicating. Listen in to various groups, and see how they talk to one another. You can also pay attention when you see cool groups on TV (but be aware that TV is not real life -- something cool on TV might fall flat in real life conversation).

I think it's a good idea to just practice talking to a wide variety of people. Join extra-curricular groups, and meet with people outside your school (maybe as a volunteer activity) and practice talking with them. It'll get easier the more you do it! And you might find a good friend among them.

Remember, it's really hard to do at first because you don't have the practice. You probably don't remember, but it was really hard to learn to walk and talk and even eat, too! But you did it, you made some mistakes but you kept on trying, and eventually you got to where you can do it pretty well.

Oh, and one thing I read -- if you show up seven times, people generally accept you as part of a group. I don't know if that's true for kids, but it's worth a try.

Good luck!

Answer 2

When I was in HS we had several small groups of friends. I think I was in the geek group of girls.
Some kids just don't want others joining their groups.
I think if you take classes that they are in you could get to know them better.
Being friendly could help, like comment on something they have or something they say.
Maybe just walk by and say hi or do somekind of hand signal they use.
You could wear some different shirt and ask the ones you know if they think it is appropriate or if they think it is cool. Maybe then the others will notice you.
That's about all I can think of , hope it helps.

Answer 3

Well, you want them to think itz their idea to befriend you.
It makes you seem cooler in the long run.
Why don't u try this line, it worked for me to reconnect with an old group of friends?
Hey can I sit with you guys, I'm bored off just (fill in what you usually do)?
My Example: Hey can I sit wit u guyz today, I'm tired of going to M.E.S.A at lunch.
If that doesn't work try the slow and gradual way..
Just have one small converstaion with each of them everyday!
Even if itz just Hey! or Omg, can u believe how much homework _ _ _ _ gave us?!
Just let them =get familiar wit u, and soon u'll b part of the group.

Good luck!
=D

Answer 4

After one year with them, I guess you must have known the main subjects of their interest being in the group. If you share the same interest then develop and cultivate it and be self-confident to participate in the discussions and activities, be neither dominating nor withdrawing. But if you don't, I suggest you find another group in which you can evolve more about yourself and your interest.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

hey, you could maybe show up with them, talk a little to them. But dont be annoying, and if you sense that they want you to leave, just walk away and try again later.