Is there any formula to a conservative father/mother live with such suspicions? Is there anything to do in order to change the nature things are? Is there some medicine?
2007-04-18 15:00:05 · 16 answers · asked by MS 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Stay away from the drugs, your generation must have thought that a pill will cure everything. When there is chemicals in our food, fluoride in the water, mercury in the vaccines, genetically modified food [GMO]already in our food chain, human genes in our rice, then you think you can change things with some medicine??? Learn to have the courage to accept what you cannot change, change what you can & have the wisdom to know the difference. Life doesn't always deal you a fair deck, but it's up to you to make the best of it. Be tolerant to indifferences in others. You wouldn't be the first parent, you certainly won't be the last, who may have a child that chooses an alternative life style, they are born that way. Appreciate him for his fine points & that he is unique in his own way. You'll do yourself a kindness this way.
2007-04-18 15:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright.. your son seems to be homosexual- that means maybe he's not.
I have no idea what age your son is, which is important data to include, so I play by ear--
If your son is really a homosexual and hiding it, there is nothing to be done; perhaps for you parents to go to therapy and learn to accept and love him anyhow.
If your son is a "softie" your pushing him around (be that the case) can make things worse. it can lower his self-esteem to a point where you will obtain the opposite effect.
If your son has a tendency for both boys and girls (sorry if this sounds crude) you have a moral issue to face.
I believe that the "medicine" you should be trying is both religion and therapy and I mean BOTH at the same time.
An advice from a caring mother; try to see things "his " way, to show him love and understanding. You are far more likely to modify his behaviour by understanding it than by trying to impose yourself.
All the very best
2007-04-18 22:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a parent, but a true blue and proud lesbian. I know its not the same as a gay guy, but everyone knows girls are more insitefull.
If your child really is Gay, They would want and need your support. this world isn't exactly gay friendly, so if they were going to come out of the closet they would need your love and care. But if you aren't certain, you need to be carefull. No straight kid would like their parents to suspect them of being gay. Just keep watching and listening, and if you have strong suspicions then talk to them.
hope this helped.
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2007-04-18 22:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by katsuyukichan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump to conclusions, don't make assumptions, realize that not everyone who "acts" gay is gay, don't mention it to your son unless he acts like he wants to talk about it (if he's not gay, this would devastate him - if he is gay, then he may not be ready yet to talk about it), love your son unconditionally, and if it turns out that he tells you he is gay, then walk that path with him in a desire to understand & deal with it. Above all, remember that a loving parent loves their child unconditionally and accepts them as they are. I too am a conservative parent and don't know what I would do if my son seemed to be gay. Still, these things are what I would be likely to do in such a case.
2007-04-18 22:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? He's your kid. Not saying theyre the same, but if you had a child that was born retarded, or unattractive or whatever - anything out of their control - you'd still love them unconditionally because they are your offspring. Be happy your son is healthy and happy. There are parents who have to accept much worse things in their kids than being gay.
2007-04-18 22:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do when your son seems homosexual?
Step 1: Run around house screaming obscenities at anyone you see
Step 2: Break all of the valuables in the home
Step 3: Blame the televangelist
Step 4: Love him with all of your heart and try to work with him.
2007-04-18 22:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF, and I do mean IF, he WANTS to change, there is a psychiatric disorder that MAY yield treatment with masturbatory reconditioning and other techniques. There is also a slim possibility he has Gender Identity Disorder.
If he doesn't, and he doesn't want to change: he's your son - love and support him. I didn't say approve - just love and support, make sure he knows it's there.
If you want, write me - tell me why you think he's gay, and we'll figure it out.
And, there IS a possibility he is not gay. My parents thought I was gay at one point - I just didn't like any of the girls at my school because they weren't very nice.
2007-04-18 22:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. From an unbiased standpoint there are masculine-acting males who are gay and effeminate-seeming guys who are straight. Really, one doesn't know his or her own sexual orientation until they grow up, there's no real way to make someone straight or gay. That's his decision when he's of age really. Not saying its a good or bad thing, but that's just the way things are.
2007-04-18 22:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dusk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you let him be who he is ? How would you feel if someone decided they needed to change YOU from being so conservative. It's just the way you are , and just the way he is. Leave it be . There are a lot of conservative homosexuals.
2007-04-18 22:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by htuch2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Open your mind and give things a chance. As tough as it must be - you cannot change what is. Do some studying on it and just remember that he is your son and you love him and want him to be happy.
2007-04-18 22:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋