2007-04-18 14:48:32 · 19 answers · asked by Christopher C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If someone asked me directly that specific question, I would have to be honest and implore them not to say that I told.
P.S. I would not be a friend to a person who cheats. I don't believe in it and yes I have ended friendships based on my friend cheating on their spouse.
2007-04-18 14:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would probably say something like I do not want to be in the middle of this situation but if I were you I would ask for yourself and see if your spouse will be honest with you . Then if you know the spouse is cheating and that person lies then I would tell your friend the truth .
2007-04-18 14:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tricky thing. You don't want to lose your friend,
but if you're also close with her/his spouse, you could feel
loyalty there also. A lot depends on the relationship this
couple has had. If the spouse has been abusive to your
friend or has cheated on her/him first, I'd have to say that
I wouldn't tell. My first inclination would be to say "this is
a personal matter between you two and I'd rather not be
involved because I really like you both".if this were the
case. My advise to couples is to keep your indiscretions to yourself.at all costs.
2007-04-18 15:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Even if he is A Homicidal maniac. Befor I would answer the spouse I would call the other involved and answer the question as I am talking with them both.
2007-04-18 15:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by walter c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's hard. Yes, be honest about it. Tell the spouse and make sure that your friend doesn't find out that YOU were the one who told him/her.
2007-04-18 14:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation. Im in abroad working and have some friends from the same hometown. I knew all their dirty laundry here. Everytime I go home, their wives always ask me how's my husband? But I never got the nerve to tell their wives their husband have no.2's. I don't want to be the bearer of bad news. I want to help but I don't want to get into their lives. It's their life so I better mind my own business.
2007-04-18 14:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by alexynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're asking about it, they are already suspicious, or just seeking confirmation for what they know. If you don't want to tell the spouse, just give the usual "I have no idea what you're talking about" kind of line. Then warn your friend.
2007-04-18 14:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they asked I would be honest.People say mind your own business, but if your friend told you about their cheating,they made it your business. You shouldn't lie to the spouse. Wouldn't you wanna know the truth if it was you?
2007-04-18 14:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by k.webb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is a very touchy subject because my husband and I have already discussed this situation before, if it were going to happen to us. I said that it depends on the people involved and their relationships and your conscience. I would want someone to tell me, so YES I would tell them and TRY to explain why I fessed up to tell them. On the other hand, my husband totally agrees with me but, HE personally would butt out and NOT say anything because he does not want to get involved with drama. You also have to think about later on. What if they find out later that you knew all along and never said anything OR they may blame you for telling them and wish you never said anything and just lied to them to spare their hurt feelings. I hope you do what you think is right.
2007-04-18 14:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the friend was cheating with you would you be honest enough to tell them? I think not.
2007-04-18 15:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Simply Fabulous! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋