I'm 16, and I can't get a girlfriend because I have no confidence. Everytime I talk to a girl, I have this awful feeiling that they're just standing there thinking bad stuff about me like "Oh, he's so weird" or "Why is he talking to me?" or "When will he go away already??". I've never even came close to asking someone on a date. I've never had a girlfriend, never shared any special momets, never had a kiss or anything. This is really starting to get to me, to the point where everytime I see a couple at school I just want to scream at them out of jealosy. I'm alone and I'm seemingly trapped because I have zero confidence. I feel like nobody would want me. What can I do?
2007-04-18 14:46:32 · 13 answers · asked by Zudd 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i dont know
2007-04-18 14:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to be just like you. If I could go back in time to when I was 16, the first thing I would do would give myself a book I read when I was twenty, called "How To Succeed With Women." by Ron Louis and David Copeland. It was written in the 90's, but it still applies today. You only really have to read the first half of it, the second half tells you what to do once you are in a relationship and want to keep it going. Trust me on this one.
Until then, always keep your head up and look confident, even if you are not. Say hi to all of them that you can and smile, and don't worry about rejection. If you keep doing this, you will become more confident and be able to go farther with it.
2007-04-18 21:52:59 · answer #2 · answered by jstor18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have also been in your shoes. In fact I am in them right now, minus the never having a date part. Anyways, just don't worry about it. Girls can be hell, I am one therefore I know lol. My friend once told me that when you least expect something it will happen and this has proved true many times, try applying this. Once you quit trying to hard, everything should come naturally. Don't think about trying to find a girlfriend, but think about just trying to talk to girls as friends and let things flow from there. Hope I helped!
2007-04-18 21:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by RahRah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relax, i've found that most of the guys who i end up falling for are the ones i'm already friends with. Instead of thinking that everytime you talk to a girl you have to try to get her to like you or have a deep conversation just try interacting more with girls who are in the same classes or clubs as you. if you are focused more on friendship than worrying whethor or not she likes your or trying to read her thoughts it will be easier. In case it helps, girls feel the same way. we worry just as much as you do.
2007-04-18 22:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not alone i have the same problem i have no confidence i cant talk to certain guys with out think does he really want to be my friend or is he just because of one of my friends i always thought it was because i didnt look just right in the guys eyes so i gave up but you shouldnt youll find someone eventually maybe not soon but you will at least thats what ive always thought about me.sorry i couldnt help you.
2007-04-18 22:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by eaw_mkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation.
You need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting her telephone number or a date.
The number one dating advice for girls is "play hard to get".
No one has ever seen the start of a relationship, and obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking girls.
2007-04-21 07:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young. At your age you should first try to find a girl who you find attractive and talk to her. Maybe just sit by her in lunch and discuss a subject that you share. It is easier to start a friendship and then friendships usually end up as more =)
2007-04-18 21:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your emotions are there to confuse you - don't trust them. ACT confident, even if you're not, no matter what, no matter if you fail and get humiliated - ACT like THEY are the ones humiliated. And smile.
Now, because I say this so often, wait about five minutes for me to post it, then go to myspace.com/thedavezone and click on the blog that is titled RELAXATION EXERCISES.
Write me if you need more.
2007-04-18 21:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i have TOTALY been there.
i found its mostly (if not totlay) in your head.
if the girls you want are jerks and dont care about you or anything like that, then why would you like them?
i would just do it.
the worst that could happen is she says no.
youll live.
beleve me.
just try to make friends with people and go from there.
or maybee some one is rite under your nose.
things will happen for you. dont worry,.
2007-04-18 22:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Boot-Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask a friend if they know any girls who are interested in you.join activities where girls are involved,smile,just make idle conversation about music,school stuff,etc.Don't approach girls with the agenda of getting a date,just try to make friends first.
2007-04-18 21:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by keith s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the worst a girl can say is no.
2007-04-18 21:58:51 · answer #11 · answered by Gloom and Doom™ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋