Should I Quit Dancing?

Question

I do ballet and jazz, but i started high school this year (year 7) and i need extra time for homework and assignments.

Dancing used to be fun, but now it's just a hassle. I hate being in concerts and i hate exams. I also hate wearing all that make-up!

Plus, i have no friends - no one ever talks to me! And i figured out that we are wasting 1260 dollars per year (just for the lessons). That doesn't include costumes, shoes, concert tickets, etc.

The only thing is, i just can't come to quit! I go back to dancing on Saturday. I have to decide before that.

Do you think i'll regret it? I mean, it's not like i need the exercise, because i'm pretty thin. Imagine all of the things i could do on a Tuesday afternoon? Or a Saturday morning? But what if i regret quitting?

P.S. If i go back it will be the second term and we will be learning the Mid-year concert dance. We have three concerts a year. I'm the worst in the class...

I'm stuck, please help me decide?

I know i said i really hate a lot of it, but still... I like dancing. It's just that at this studio, when we have concerts, we have a dressing room for each grade and we're alone... So i'm always sitting by myself while the others are all sitting together and talking, laughing... I feel like such a loser at dancing.

I'm also not as flexible as they are. They can all do the splits and they can do acrobatics, gymnastics... I can't do any of that. But i still like dancing! Should i change studios?

I'm doing absolutely fine in school. I am currently getting the best grades in the year and i am in many programs for 'gifted children'. I have no trouble at school. I just think i could have more time to do assignments if i didn't do dancing. But i like it. It's just the concerts that I hate!

If i change studios, i might be in a class with someone i know (from school) and i really don't want that.

I just wish i could take private classes for jazz and ballet and not do any concerts.

Btw, i have friends at school, just not at dancing. The girls at dancing are kind of stuck-up...

Answer 1

you can't even imagine what happened to me. when I was 11, I joined salsa lessons, only 2 hours a week. then i really got into it. but my parents were scared the fact that I would become a dancer. cause i was a very good student and as every parent they did not want me to be bad at school. they tried to make me quit dancing. but i started to take extra dance lessons with the money that i saved in 11 years. that was enough for only half a year, though. when i first start, everybody was making fun of me ( you know those bitches) but i did not quit. because i loved dancing. then i entered a competition and i was the second one. my parents decided that I'm talented and maybe they were scared that I would leave home if they did not let me dance :) now after 9 years, I'm a professional dancer and I study in the university international relationships. there are still those bitc....s around who think they are the best. but I'm very sorry for them because I'm the one who won competitions and i know I'm better than them. just keep on dancing, you will get your award one day!

Answer 2

If you heart is not in it then you can give it a break for the time being so that you can get ahead with your assignments and homework. While doing the assignments you can use the opportunity to study.

You can always go back to dancing after you are a bit settled. All these concerts will take a toll on you since there will be many rehearsals. Occasionally if you feel to relax then you can take in some dancing. Nothing is wrong with that.

You have to make the right choice now under the circumstances. If I was you I would choose my education. It is the key to success.

No one likes exams but we have to do them. It puts a lot of pressure on us because we want to do good that is why we have to study. I have been through many of them before. You will be pressured if you have so much things to do. Do not wait until the last minute to do it either (cramming) because you are going ot forget some of it in the exam.

You probably have no friends because you are always going from one place to another and have no time to form meaningful relationships. Try getting a friend that you can study with and you will see that this helps. While revising, try telling others what you have learnt to reinforce it. Teaching is a form of learning.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

I dont think you should quit but I dont think you should continue with something if your so unhappy. You know rome wasnt built in a day and after ten years your very good i imagine So why not stay in a little longer and become the best? Another option is you could always switch to a different style like I was in ballet and switched to salsa. I enjoy it more for some reason, But you can still dance and still use all of your skills just switch it up a bit. I think you should at least stay for this one routine before you quit and take some time out of dance like 6 months then go back in just remember to keep training! Everything will work out dont worry

Answer 4

OK, sit and think what you really hate, what you like and what you're missing in your life right now.
If you had friends you'd probably be much happier about everything else, dancing too. We dancers have busy schedules without much room for other activities, but you say you don't really talk with other girls from your dance class too. I suspect it's not about dancing. It's about interacting with other people. Maybe this particular crowd is not your cup of tea, maybe transfer to another studio.
But if you're sick and tired of dancing and it doesn't bring you any joy whatsoever then why do you have to suffer. You should find some other activities for yourself that will make you happier. Don't just quit and do nothing, or you will feel empty and bored. It's not like all of a sudden you'll get tons of friends if you stop dancing. Find something else to do, this is how you can meet other people. And one more thing - you DO need exersise even if you're thin.
*****Edit
After your last comment: If it's those stuck-up girls who make your dancing life misearble definitely try another studio before quitting alltogether.

Answer 5

It can be really difficult to make decisions like this. Perhaps trying another studio might be a good change for you. Have you thought about trying another style of dance? If you feel that you aren't as good as the others in the class, maybe in another dance style you could be the best in the class. It might be worthwhile to take a break from what you're currently doing so you can really think about things, and decide how much you miss it (or perhaps not). If you're taking both ballet and jazz, maybe you could focus on just one of them.

Answer 6

well...here's my story. My parents stuck me in a ballet/jazz class at age 3. I got bored with it at age 10. I wasn't as flexible as everyone else and I wasn't very good. So I quit. Every time I saw a dance recital. I regretted quiting. I ended up missing everything I used to hate. So here I am, age 14. I couldn't stand it anymore so I built up the confidence to rejoin last September. I could be so much better by now. I missed 4 years. And sometimes I still feel like quiting. I get intimidated by the other girls and I feel like the worst in the class ( which I probably am) But my choir teacher said something that I try to remember every time I feel like a loser. He said he never wants to hear us say "I can't" because you CAN. Instead, he told us to say "this is difficult for me right now, but I will improve" I really like dancing, and I won't let myself quit over feeling intimidated or left out ever again. I'm doing this for me, no one else. I need to dance, I love it too much to give up.

Answer 7

Sounds like your dance school is the problem. Maybe you should try and find another that is a little more laid back. I reckon you might just regret it if you gave it up and why should you give it up if you like doing it. Take some pressure off yourself and family and find a new school that just has the one annual performance or don't dance in the concerts and focus on dancing exams....you never know..... you could be a teacher yourself in the future.

Answer 8

ok you're probably not the worst in the class so don't be so self concsious. maybe if you do your homework right after school when you don't have dance class then you'll have more time for dancing. ask your parent or legal guardian to write to your teacher and ask if you can miss the show this term explain to them why you want them to write the letter and tell them you're thinking of giving up your lessons. it's very plain to me that you love your dancing lessons. obviously it's really important to study and school work should ALWAYS be a priority but that doesn't mean that you don't have time for fun. i think you really need to close yourself away in your room on your own and sit quietly and listen to your heart. i think you might regret giving up your lessons

Answer 9

all i know is if you really wanted to dance and you loved it and couldn't think of any reason why you would ever want to quit then i wouldn't quit


if you love something stick with it


if you don't love it don't stick with it and move on and do something else


if your worried about not having friends maybe that's cause you a loser or you just don't talk to people and you are shy.


i'd stick with dancing but it's important to have a life too

i just don't know why you say you have no friends!

take a break from dancing i guess and see if people magicaly start tatlking to you

lol

well good luck!

Answer 10

u have a tuff descion! honestly if u hate it that much and are unhappy then ur wasting ur time! But if u do like it and quit u will deff regret it i totally do! i used to dance 3 times a week and my parents were like its totally exspensive! if u dont like it that much then u probably should quit. so i did and now i completly regret it! follow your heart <3