ok, im studying to be a fire fighter at the moment, im still living at home i cant afford to move out yet. to get in shape for the fire academy im starting to play water polo again. i played in highschool and was pretty good at it. my dad loved me playing water polo for some reason. i play the sport because its fun you know, i enjoy playing it... my dad starts with this "you should train harder and get a scholarship to get out of the community college, get a degree in business, or history, and play sports through college." even though i DONT want this, i want to be a fire fighter really bad, im working really hard for it. i started a kick boxing class and now he thinks im not going to do anything but kick box... its not true, i tell him im just doing it because its fun and it will get me in tip top shape for fire academy. i needed a ride to boxing tonight so i asked him, he says no because hes tired. but if i asked him if he could take me swimming at 1 AM, hed have no problem... WHY???
2007-04-18 14:03:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because he knows you work hard and he wants to be part of that he is just making sure you do not fall because he is right there to pick you up . I find that many parents who help their children in this way have one wanted to become that or two want to make sure their child is working hard at their goal and they will push them to get through it ! He loves you and wants to see you work hard and pass your training , he does not want to have to see you in pain if you fail so he is working double time for you to succeed ! Good Luck !!!!
2007-04-18 15:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's your Dad! He only wants the best for you. Like any other Dad, He wants you to have a better life than what he had/has. He sees a good life for you. I'm not saying being a Fire fighter is a bad thing, my Uncle was a Fire fighter where I grew up. He eventually became the Fire Chief! Don't be so hard on him, he's your Old Man. He only wants the best for ya!!
2007-04-18 14:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by scott m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on your dad. He's not simply a servant there to make sure you have fun all the time, even though he probably gave you that impression when you were little.
Be respectful of his time and needs. Don't ask for so much, so often. You can jump rope in the basement (if it's raining outside) or run around the block to train; it's not a requirement that you have FUN or that you create work for him so that you do what you want to do.
Be grateful for all he's ever done for you, and for allowing you to stay in his home at this time. Maybe you can do some serious yardwork for him; that would certainly help get you in shape!
2007-04-18 14:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your dad wants you to do what he wants because he's trying to live out his dreams through you.
I know you're having a hard time right now, but talk to your dad and explain to him that being a fire fighter is your dream, and that you hope he will try to understand and support you in your goals. and your dad may be worried about you. I'm sure you know that fire fighters have one of the most dangerous jobs in the world, and I'm sure your dad knows that too. and that could be the reason he's not showing you the support that you need.
just sit down and talk to him. tell him how you're feeling, and let him tell you how he's feeling. you might be surprised at what you find out.
dad's tend to worry differently than mom's. it's often harder for them to express how they're truly feeling.
Best Wishes.
2007-04-18 14:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is not sufficient data with regard to the background you have had with this guy (DAD)to offer an answer and or not it is honest to him or your self. With that pronounced if he has not been on your lifestyles or lots of the time you have been with him is destructive then its suited to leave it on my own. There are sperm donors then there are genuine dads. If he's not the latter then your greater useful off not having him on your lifestyles. If it develop into an uncomplicated element as a teenage disagreement with him then this is yet another tale.. the determination must be yours and yours on my own on the grounds that none human beings that are replying has walked on your shoes. sturdy success wherein ever determination you come to a decision.
2016-11-25 20:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by russ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im proud of you for what you want to do... being a fire fighter takes alot on a person. maybe you dad just never fullfilled his dreams and he is trying to fill them out through you. let him know that you need all the help he can give so you can accomplish your goals in life. good luck!
2007-04-18 14:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to have a heart to heart with the 'ol man. Tell him to listen to you and don't answer you. Tell him how you feel about becoming a FF. Tell him that his unwavering support will help carry you through the tough times (and there will be many, trust me), and remind him that it is YOUR life now, not his and this is the choice you have made. Good luck and NEVER QUIT. EVER!
2007-04-18 14:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bro, your father wants to live his dreams through you. most sons and daughters experience this as parents may think and feel that they know best for their children. just accept it or stand your ground. explain that no one can live anyone's life except oneself. you know how that verbiage goes, right? and plus, maybe your father has trouble truly giving you untainted unconditional love. it's not that easy to do so... it normally is not. but at least you are aware of what goes through a parent. i am a parent myself, so i know these things... be brave and hope you succeed in the fire fighter career...
2007-04-18 14:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
parents are weird i am one my daughter is really cleaver and i want the best for her ..obviously your dad sees this as a treat to what he thinks is best for you ...but he will love you regardless you are a motivated bloke and he knows that he is just trying to make sure you are directing your talents in the right direction (according to him ..lol) be patient you will be on your own soon i see a girlfriend getting serious ..you will be able to afford your own place in the next 12 months...
2007-04-18 14:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry....it isn't that he doesn't want you to have dreams and to follow your heart....it's just as a parent we can't help but to want our children to be safe and successful (not because they need to be influentially successful....but financially successful, that way we as parents don't have to worry that our children will suffer in life). It is not that he doesn't want to support you...it is just difficult to support you in ways that helps you go in a direction that he fears won't secure your future in a way that will keep you from facing some form of adversity in your life....forgive him....he just loves you and can't help himself.
2007-04-18 14:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋