Does He Love Me?? Is this Abuse?

Question

My Boyfriend takes his problems out on me , like if he's had a bad day he's a big dick head to me. Today he called me (he's out town for the week on buissness) well i told him on the phone that theres a POSSIBILITY i might get cut off unemployment this month therefore im going to go hand out resumes. Before i told him this i could tell he was having a bad day already. But after I told him he bagan yelling and screaming at me about the chance that he may have to cover the rent himself this month. This got me angry so i raised my voice in defense and told him the way he was treating is innapropriate... he fired back "Dont take that tone with me".... So I hung up on him. I dont see what his problem is... this would only be a one time thing, and its not even a sure thing that i will get cut off. He makes VERY good money and could cover it easily plus have alot of money left over. Why do i always get the effects of his bad days and frustrations? What should i do?

Answer 1

We hurt the ones we love the most when were hurting. He needs a healthier way to express his stress and you guys might be in a better place. Seems he likes to think that he is the one that carries all the burdens, why he thinks this way, and what you can do to fix it, is going to come down to communication. Which whats breaking down here, he isn't telling you everything going on in his head, which isn't in its self a bad thing, but shows he lacks an ability to be completely honest in a relationship. Talk about not the effects of his problem, but the cause, which namly is his inability to handle the stress appropriately... just don't say it like that, but understand thats were the problem lies....