my husband drinks a lot and i dont like the person he is when he drinks so i asked him not to drink in our house or around me. he can go to his freinds house to drink. he can stay there and chill with them and get all his problem off his chest.
we were both in the military he just got out i rejoined now he rubs it in my face every day that im still in the military while hes out getting drunk in the middle of the day. the reason i rejoined is so he could finish off his school. but that hasnt happend yet.
he says all i do is nag him and i do because i want him to start doing something
my question is am i wrong?
2007-04-18 12:59:12 · 7 answers · asked by kas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should call Dr. Laura she has a lot of moral clarity in situation such as this!
2007-04-18 13:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have either of you been overseas during the war? Your husband could be trying to deal with that and I am not excusing him for his behavior, just noting that if so, he needs some help. That doesn't necessarily mean the two of you are going to stay together given the circumstances. You aren't wrong for feeling the way you do but he may need some serious help so he can maybe move toward a more productive life with or without you. Give it some thought and see if he will work with you. Good luck.
2007-04-18 20:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your husband is an alcoholic. Unfortunately there's nothing you can do to help him until he wants it If he's drinking to deal with his problems, that's a problem drinker. You need to give him a choice and follow through with the consequences. He either enters rehab or you'll leave him.
I know you may love him but as long as he's drinking you won't have a healthy relationship, and everyone deserves one. And you do not want to bring children into this enviroment it will only escalate the problem, I know my biological father is an abusive alcoholic who drinks to deal with his problems and it has left its mark on me.
While it might be painful you need to look at the reality of the situation and do something before it gets worse.
2007-04-18 20:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by Hillary J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously an alcoholic. He does not appreciate the fact that you rejoined the military to help him get through school and is not even trying. Face it...you may as well give up and move on with your life. Find someone that will appreciate your efforts.
2007-04-18 20:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by susie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't respect what you've done for him and takes issues with the sacrifices you've made so that he can acheive his goals. on some level, he isn't really ready to do so, but you've done something, and he can't get over the guilt. either you need to leave him alone, and need to find some other way to get by in life, or you two need to go to counseling. if he drinks a lot there were probably other issues he was dealing with to begin with, as well as depression, and perhaps you just didn't want to see or deal with how those issues would come between you two.
2007-04-18 20:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an alcoholic. Don't expect logic, rational thinking, or reasonable behavior from an alcoholic.
2007-04-18 20:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him and move on unless you like to be abused
2007-04-18 20:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋