I went to my bf's cousin's funeral today. He died in a car accedent Frinday the 13th, he was only 11. I've went to the water park with this boy & his family, we had the fourth of july with him, & it was just so unreal seeing him so pale. Why do they do that? They had everyone that attended pass the open casket, even the children. Does this happen everytime the body is presentable, or is it (in this case the parent's) choice?
2007-04-18 12:50:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It is the choice of the person running the funeral. Some people plan ahead and make such wishes known, otherwise someone else plans it and makes such decisions.
It is done largely because many people think a person IS their body, or at least associate the person with that body. So the open casket and line is to get a last chance to speak to that body before the body is made unavailable.
Of course, if it makes you uncomfortable or you have different beliefs, there's no reason why you have to stand in line like everyone else. People at funerals are usually quiet and respectful, if emotional, so you'll probably get as much or as little space as you want.
2007-04-18 12:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an open casket, is the choice of the family of the deceased family/friend. Alot of families do have the open casket because it seems to help with the grieving process because you can see the body and say your goodbyes. I know it sounds maybe a little weird. But many families do it that way.
2007-04-18 12:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by JB 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is usually a choice of the parents/deceased/surviving family as the whether or not there is a open or closed casket. The only time i think they leave it closed, that there isn't a choice is when the body it to deformed or mutilated due to a car crash or a fire or something along those lines....
2007-04-18 12:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Nate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the casket is left open so that friends and family can say goodbye. It's never a nice thing to see, but it's a comfort to many people to have had the chance to see the person one last time. Try not to let it bother you too much. Think of the good times you had with him instead.
2007-04-18 12:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by lizard01007 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry that you did not want to see your loved one. But to me, its a necessity of saying goodbye, its the last time to see them on this earth and it helps to make the closure and acceptance of the death more bearable. When my best friend passed away, much to young at 47, her casket was closed and it felt like a slap in the face, I just wanted to see her one more time..Perhaps the next funeral you attend, just do not go to the casket if it bothers you but I am sure that most people agree they want to see their loved one at rest for the last time..hope this helps..
2007-04-18 13:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by birdiekac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the casket is open even if the body is completely mangled.
I REEEEEEEEEEALLY hate myself for forgetting the person's name, but there was this one black kid in the late 1950's who was beaten to death for whistling at a white girl. At his funeral, his mother wanted his casket to remain open so people could see the horrors he was subjected to. VERY potent move, that.
2007-04-18 12:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My uncle was hit by a car so his body was not in very good condition so they had a closed casket. I think it depends on the body and probably up to the parents.
2007-04-18 12:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cultures like an open casket as it can help the mourners come to terms with the death of their loved one. The deceased has no say in what happens at the funereal unless it's pre-paid. I think it's expensive, unnecessary, disrespectful and gross.
2007-04-18 12:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by J9 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's the family's decision whether it's an open casket or not.
Most will be so they can see them one more time and say good-bye.
Unless the body is bady disfigured it will be closed.
Like I said it's usually the family's choice.
2007-04-18 12:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by jillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋