How do you try to stop being so judgemental?

Answer 1

first step is to actually notice it when you think to yourself
judgemental things. just watch yourself, don't try to correct it.
cultivate an awareness of your own responses and notice them. that is step one. do that first.

Answer 2

I wouldn't say having standards is bad, but judging people all the time does have a lot of drawbacks I would say it's natural to an extent (especially for females), but if it becomes excessive I would look into why you are being so judgemental. I would also look into what feature do you tend to pick on the most, why that in particular. I would ask when this part of you started, how it started and why. Do note that if people aren't what you expect, you might be able to still enjoy their company. In fact, sometimes the unpopular people can be as entertaining as the popular. People do have flaws, that's what makes them human. But having flaws also mean they can change that if they decide to and learn from it (it's self development). Try thinking people like pieces of art (since they are biologically). The way they are are masterpieces all purposefully constructed in a way that makes them unique and valuable. Appreciate the flaws as well as the strengths which makes them as perfect as they are. If you do this, I recommend you not to compare people with each other (it's not a competition). There are also other things in life which can also be at least as important as social value. It's important to be open minded about this and not get too caught up yourself about it. When you say personality is more important, do you believe yourself saying that and is that truely what you mean? If not, I recommend changing your beliefs by disqualifying the facts that support it. e.g. just because you're not popular, does not mean you're not interesting; what is more important, quality of friends or quantity of friends?; nice looking people can be a pain as well as not so nice looking people; etc. I recommend shifting from the looks of a person being the last thing you see and the mind of the person being the first. I would not more about the body language and refine the subtleties to see what they are communicating more than what they look like. This means you will need to train yourself in looking into body language on a deep enough level to tell what people are like without them telling you and you can do this in a split second (before you get the chance to judge his looks). For a guy to do this, it will probably take a decade depending on the type of brain he has. For a girl, it's much easier. I wouldn't recommend this, unless you have tried all other solutions. Understanding the following principles might help: beauty is only skin deep (e.g. looks is barely 10% of the person) having lots of friends can mean they either respect you, you are an exploitable resource or you have a lot in common the mind tells more than the looks There are other means of getting through this. But since I don't know about you, I can't give you more tailored advice. If all fails, I recommend counselling. Hope this helps

Answer 3

I stop and think about the person I am trying to judge and I ask myself, what if this was a person in my family, what if this was my best friend. When I do this I can usually see the situation on a more personal level which cause me not judge less and try to understand more.

Answer 4

Think about how you would feel if someone judged you on your looks and treated you different when you thought you were all that. It won't feel good when you are on the other side of judgement.

Answer 5

By respecting & caring for others, irregardless of culture or race. Appreciate the differences, just as one would marvel at the different types of flowers in a very beautiful garden, like the one we live in, the garden of Mother Earth.

Answer 6

If you can't walk up to a person and say how you feel to their face then it should'nt be said. If you really want to stop then pretend that the person you are judging is You. Then think how would I feel if someone said this or that about me?

Answer 7

You cant, Its just the way the world is today people judge people by what they wear, how they look. I know I do and nothing will stop me doing it

Answer 8

Keep an open mind.
Try to picture life in their shoes and not just try to throw your own beliefs into the picture.

Answer 9

maybe if u are more happy with yourself u wont feel the need to judge those around u

Answer 10

Good question!

I had to learn a whole new vocabulary--

'Whatever'

'What he said'

'Okay'

'Thinking about that gives me a headache'

'I've got more important things to do'

and it works!