which should u value higher......your child or ur moral values? and why?

Question

really think bout it and please give a gud reason.....best one wil get picked as best answer.

Answer 1

This is a tough question because it brings back so many bitter memories. My wife and I are both 65 and have been married 43 years. We both come from very conservative evangelical chirstian roots. And we both have more formal education than most folks.

Early in our marriage we decided to make our moral values the focus of our family and to instill those moral values in our children. Sometimes it seemed that we failed to do that but in the end it has proven out that we made the right decision.

Our oldest son was gay and died of aids in 1997. We never abandoned our moral values but we never quit loving him either. We were with him when he took his last breath. Prior to that we were delighted to hear him tell us he had been raised right and he thanked us for having attempted to instill our values in him.

Our youngest son was adopted. He rebelled and went into drugs and booze. He is now 36 years old and has finally become the good person we always knew he was. Last week he apologized for all the hurt he caused and he thanked me for having instilled in him moral values he now realizes he needs desparately.

Our daugher is now 39. She never gave us any trouble at all. She is a pharmacist and is very successful. Unfortunately she can not have children and that fact has really worked hard on her. She has told me on many occasions that her success in life is because of the moral values we instilled in her early in life. And she also told me that it is much easier for her to accept being childless than other women she knows with similar backgrounds because our moral values have given her a sense of worth and purpose that carries her through.

So the answer to your question is you don't have to choose one or the other. Stick to your moral values and instill them in your children. Do whatever it takes to instill your moral values in your children so that they are not adrift in life with no sense of worth.

After having lived a long time and seen a lot I am absolutely convinced the worse thing parents can do to children in the moral realm is fail to instill moral values in them. Children want and need direction and rules and values. Chidren are very comfortable when they know what is expected of them and they are very uncomfortable when they don't have a clue what the boundaries are.

Answer 2

Why would I have to choose?

I cant think of any external or internal factor that would make me have to value one more than the other - as they are completely different - one a belief system, the other a being.

My personal values have no bearing on whether I value another - I can agree or disagree with THEIR values and simultaneously value THEM completely.

Good question, I really had to think about it.

Answer 3

The welfare and happiness of one's children ought to be part of one's moral values. If they conflict, the child comes first. Many moral values are arbritrary or often handed down to us from someone else... and may need modification from time to time.

Answer 4

if I ever have a child my child is the one I would value the most

Answer 5

I would say your values, because you can't dictate what that child does. I would have to agree with reneejah though, you shouldn't have to ever chose.

Answer 6

Your children, they're your flesh and blood.