I just lost my best friend and my birthday is the 19th. How can I enjoy myself without thinking of what happened???Help is greatly appreciated
God Bless
~Caleb
2007-04-18 12:21:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He didnt die!!!He just hates me becuase of someones lies
2007-04-18 12:28:05 · update #1
And plus the fact that he is still alive but he wont ever talk to me...His parents wont listen to me..No body likes me anymore...
2007-04-18 12:32:23 · update #2
Hmmmmm, it's tough to lose a friend. Especially when it's because of "lies". It sounds as though you may need to grieve for the loss, but then maybe move on. I'm sure it'll be a tough thing for you, especially if you were best friends. And right around your birthday, too. I think surrounding yourself with other friends and family for your birthday would be good for you! If you don't agree, think of some other activities you enjoy, and do them on your own.
I'm not sure how long ago you lost your friend, but it sounds like just recently. It's not easy, but you can't go backwards. If he won't talk to you at all, maybe it's for the best? I would think my best friend would maybe give me the benefit of the doubt in this situation...or at least talk to me to figure out what happened.
Regardless, I hope you have a good birthday!
2007-04-18 12:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by nicnacs30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. Many of us went through the same thing. I lost all of my buddies in combat in one day. My daughter just lost her best friend also. My advice has been collected over 20 years of consultation, and many books and audio tapes.
I can summarize it for you. Teach yourself to NOT look back.
You can't change the PAST. You can only control the Present and the Future. What you do in the next 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days is all you can control.
You can do this multiple ways. Write yourself several notes, post them on your bathroom mirror, vehicle dash, at work out of others sight. Write: LOOK FORWARD. I Can't control the past. I WILL BE HAPPY. I WILL OVERCOME PROBLEMS.
Repeat it 100 times a day, until you automatically see it.
It will take time. I did it. Others have done it. YOU can do it also. Whatever you do, don't hang around with any people who drag you DOWN.
Good Luck.
2007-04-18 12:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by FL inventor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Occupy your time with some fun events.
Depending on what you like to do for fun...
I'm not sure if they have a Dave & Busters or a Jillians where you live but a gorup of friends / family could go there for dinner and play games.
Cosmic bowling could be good.
Or you could plan a trip for the weekend. I'm not sure how old you are etc. but you and friends could go on a road trip to a fun city close to you and find some places to go there or some sight seeing.
These suggestions help you have new experiences that will burn on your brain rather than the freshness of the loss of your friend.
I'm sorry for loss.....I hope you have a great birthday!!!
2007-04-18 12:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
Death is part of life. Well atleast the end of every life. It will take time for you to be able to do things normally again. Just try to be happy at the times you two shared. Think of what your friend would want you to do. Im sure your friend would like you to be happy instead be in sorrow all the time. Time heals everything. So just carry on with your life and soon enough you will start smiling when you think of your experiences together.
2007-04-18 12:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by uknowitlikethat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold a party to celebrate your birthday and let people know that instead of gifts you'd prefer donations to an organization that was important to your friend and be sure to name it.
Maybe it is Make-a-wish, humane society, red cross, a youth group, meals-on-wheels, the local library to promote literacy. those are just a few of the many possibilities.
It feels good to do something for others.
2007-04-18 12:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 16:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person was really your best friend there's no way you can just NOT think of what happened. You have to. You cared about them. Just think that their in a better place and keep living. I know it hurts...but we live to die. Everyone has to die. It's how you deal with it that matters. You just have to pray over your loved one's and savor every minute you have with them. God Bless! :)
2007-04-18 12:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get some of your friends over and do the stuff your friend liked to do.You might also want to say something about your friend.You probably won't enjoy yourself completely because you have lost your friend but you will get close.
2007-04-18 12:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by ~SmileyFaceCrazy~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you like the most? Movies, skydiving, partying??
It sounds like you just need some time away to relax, i would recommend somewhere thats lively and active, if its too quiet you may start thinking about the past again
2007-04-18 12:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Wrekonize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sad to hear that u lost your friend,it's not your fault u know that it is god choice.And he is in a way better place.But what u should do is pray and don't stress yourself too much and have a good birthday.And happy birthday to u.
2007-04-18 12:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋