GLBT Folks: What do you think about monogamy in your relationships?

Answer 1

It's what my relationship of 20 years is based on..This is our unspoken agreement with each other. I guess it sounds kind of weak to say that we both feel more comfortable that way..but from our backgrounds that's the way we were brought up. I don't want to make us out to be prudish..but this is what we want. It's understood that if there is to be a change that we'd like to discuss it before it happens. From my point of view sex is kinda easy to get anywhere..a loving relationship lasts longer than 5 minutes and is much more fun.

Answer 2

I've had an open relationship, a polyamorous relationship, and am now in a monogamous relationship.

There's pros and cons. No std's or jealousy, cons are that I'm less busy(a polyamorous relationship takes quite a lot of your time). As for an open relationship, I barely ever acted on it, and when I did it wasn't great, so I can leave that one.

So yeah, it can work, does work, it's not weird, it's sorta nice in it's way. I mean now I live the normal life that most people complain that they don't have.

So yeah, monogamy yay.

Answer 3

We're for it in mine. We went from long-distance monogamy to "an understanding" to marriage in 14 years.

There was a while when our relationship was open. She was in NYC and swimmin' in women; I was in Orlando and had met this really hot guy. (I have been bi all my life, but at 23, had never had intercourse. I wanted this question answered.) We loved each other, and understood each other better than anyone else, but were scared of commitment, plus neither of us wanted to move.

This ended three years ago, when the hot guy turned out to be a jerk and she said she wanted me all to herself anyway. I moved up there, and I'm so glad I did! It's weird, but our relationship's even hotter now. I think the fact that we're just for each other and can trust each other has become a turn-on for us.

I don't see the situation changing anytime soon. We both look at others, but it ends there. We almost lost each other. I for one don't want to make that mistake again!

Answer 4

I've been in an open relationship for just shy of 13 years. We're both very happy. I know it's not for everyone but I get tired of hearing others say things like if you don't have monogamy it's not a real relationship, etc. Our relationship is strong enough that our bond is not weakened by having other sexual partners. I've also been in polyamorous relationships. It's all good for me.

Answer 5

I've been happily married to my wife for five years now, a marriage that weathered a rocky period during my transition. My wife had a somewhat difficult time with the idea of being married to another woman, and was resistant for quite some time as a result of this, but having here there with me to struggle through some of the difficult parts made the journey a little easier.

Now we have a marriage that is stronger and healthier than it was when we began. It is the most important thing in my life, and I would not under any circumstances do anything to harm her or my marriage.

I have always been monogamous, and I remain a one woman woman.

Answer 6

Buddhism purely pronounces which you're able to desire to not use your sexuality to reason harm and suffering. i'm questioning approximately monogamy myself yet i don't choose others and foist off my perspectives of ethics. To the fact approximately what went on in airport bogs: it is not any diverse than the hetero airline workers (pilots and attendants) who couple on the planes AND interior the bogs the place the two heteros will %. a bathing room and sneak the alternative intercourse in. do not even pretend that LGBTs are the only ones. additionally i think of once you are going to waste taxpayer money for stings against lesbians and gays interior the airport bogs, then a similar humiliation could desire to be utilized to those self same heteros. stop the insanity. _()_

Answer 7

It's a nice concept but I'm it's hard to do. I think men in general are designed to "spread their seed." And men, probably more so than women, are capable of recreational sex, sex just for fun. So for those who want a monogamous relationship, I hope your partner is faithful. For those who only require emotional monogamy, I think you have a better chance.

Answer 8

My partner and I believe in monogamy in our relationship. I'm not into the putting notches on my bedpost business, because I'm happy to be in a loving and monogamous relationship, she also feels the same way.

Answer 9

I understand that it is not easy to find a mate, regardless of ones sexual orientation, however in this day and age there should be no question that if one is going to get into a love relationship that it should be monogamous for multiple reasons.

The biggest reason is communicable disease. HIV is gaining ground in every sect of our communities across the country and around the world. If it is ever to come to an end people have to start looking beyond their sexual desires and really invest in loving relationships.

Peace!

Answer 10

I'm strictly monogamous. I would dump a girl on the spot for cheating on me. I can't trust a cheater. My girlfriend of going on 5 months agrees. We're both strictly monogamous and trust me, we will do more good for the sanctity of marriage than the 50% divorce rates of the heterosexual population.