I am over 35 and he calls my mother and tells her every littile thing and my my mom comes after me.I am so sick of this
2007-04-18 10:36:00 · 20 answers · asked by broken heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack his bags and take them to your mothers house. Tell them that you had enough of them both and since they love each other so much they can have each other, then go out and have a wonderful time on your husbands money.
2007-04-18 10:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How annoying this would be!!! . I think you need to have a talk with your Mom. Explain to her that it hurts and annoys you when she backs up hubby all the time. She is your Mom, not his and she should be supporting you, no matter what! Tell her that your marriage problems are exactly that, yours alone and you would appreciate it if she would just tell hubby that next time he rings and then firmly hang up. Say it would be nice if she could be there for you sometimes, you'd like to be able to open up to her and share a closer relationship, but as she is always speaking to the hubby you dont feel comfortable speaking to her, and dont feel that she is there for you at all. Say this is damaging your relationship with her.
Then tell hubby to grow up and be a man and stop running to your Mom everytime you guys have a problem. Tell him it is affecting the way you view him as a man, because he cant fight his own battles without Mommy. This should hurt his ego a little and hopefully make him think twice before phoning her. But the most important thing is to get your Mom to stop taking his calls. Once she stops listening to him it wont be worth his while to call her any more.
2007-04-18 17:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are but you can tell them both you won't listen to them any more and mean it. The worst thing would be if he called HIS mother and told HER every time you had a fight.
Take your rights back and refuse to talk to your mother if she berates you. There comes a time when a daughter deserves some respect. You may have to demand it and then stick to your guns. Don't listen when either one tells you what you "are like". Be Stronger!!
2007-04-18 17:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this is pathetic. I would tell him if he doesn't have the balls to communicate with you then he shouldn't have gotten married. I do not think parents should get involved with the marriage. I think you need to talk to your mom and tell her if he calls again that she is to tell him she is not getting involved and that he needs to resolve any matters concernig you or the marriage with you period. What a goofball he sounds like he is 2 yrs old crying out to momma and the strange thing is its your mom.
God Bless and Good Luck.
P.S. Tell him to grow up.
2007-04-18 17:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you married someone who can't defend himself that he has to go to your mom thinking that your mom will straighten you out. He needs to stop what he is doing and keep your mom out of your business. He needs to work out your problems with you and not your mom.
You also need to ask your mom not to intrude in your marriage and she needs to stop defending him. She needs to not accept his calls and stay out of your business, period. What they are both doing is wrong. If you want to make things better for the both of you, stop all the fighting and get along!
Consider reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage."
2007-04-18 18:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to tell your mother to get out of your face about your personal life. Boundaries! Set some and keep them!
Second you need to get some marriage counseling. He needs to learn that Mommy and Daddy don't fix their adult children's problems. You two need to learn to communicate, and learn new coping skills.
2007-04-18 17:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mother to back off, you'll handle this. Then go after him and let it be known you have no problem shoving that phone up his ***.
2007-04-18 18:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! he is def. a mommys boy.....how long have u put up with this crap?
there is little hope he will ever change?!!
do you, at least, get along with HER?
sounds like some boundaries have to be set..and if he cant do that.....time to go.!
2007-04-18 17:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by STARZ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it cute and kinda funny, well think about it this way at least its your mom he talks to.
Any way there are some son in laws that find their ways to mother in law heart.
Its all good nothing wrong with that.
2007-04-18 17:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by none 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him and your mom that you are adults and need to handle your problems together.
Tell your mom that she is hurting your relationship and not to accept his calls when he starts telling her personal stuff between the two of you.
Tell your husband to grow up!!
2007-04-18 17:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋