His wife stood there and let him punch me and didnt do nothing. I'm pretty sure he beats her cause thats all he used to do to me. He don't pay child support and he stands the kids up so thats why I don't let him get the kids often. What should I do?
2007-04-18 10:32:50 · 21 answers · asked by tjohnson1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have a restraining order against him already but he left before the cops got there and they went to his job and house toservea warrant be he is nowhere to be found
2007-04-18 10:53:51 · update #1
Hopefully you file assault and battery charges on him. There will be a bench warrant issued for his arrest once they find him. Also inform the police hes behind in child support payments. Also be very careful as if your divorce decree entitles him to visitation rights and you with hold the kids from seeing him no matter the reason, on your own, you could be held in contempt of court too no matter whether hes abusive or not. File a complaint of abue against him and let the courts find out whether he is or not and then adjust his rights accordingly. Hopefully you have concrete evidence to support your accusations against him of abuse as this is the only way the Judge will deal with this and help you. Now if the kids themselves refuse to go with dad, then thas another story but dont you stop them without the courts sayso. Good luck
2007-04-18 11:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him. Run. Fast. And far. Do it for your kids. You're divorced (FREEDOM!) and it seems that you have full custody? Yes?
Go somewhere else, maybe stay with family, friends for a while. But don't talk about it to anyone. Just do it. If he doesn't pay child support, it doesn't matter anyway where you live. You're on your own anyway. Plus, I bet he isn't treating your kids so nicely either. In this case, it's better if the father is out of the picture. They'll probably thank you for it! Kids are smarter than us grown-ups!
You can do it!
Good luck!
ADD:
Good that you have a restraining order. Then it's even more reason to pack up and leave. Don't endanger yourself and your kids. The law can protect but sometimes things happen fast. And then that piece of paper will not do you any good.
Perhaps contact a women's organization to get info on how to move and help you settle somewhere else?
All the best!!!!
2007-04-18 10:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it? Listen, I'm 56, almost 57 and I was 53 when we married...he had been divorced for 30 years....I had been separated legally for 10 years and divorced for almost a year....... If you are going to be jealous over things you can not change, and of a time in his life when you did not even know him, then you still having some growing up to do...and EVERYBODY has a past-you just can't wipe it out because you feel insecure over it or want the fantasy of being his 'only one' to be true... Your jealousy over his other child is shameful...that poor kid....YOU and your child have your husband as part of your family and you begrudge the 'tidbit' his 4 year old gets to have of him when he visits him/her???? You need to re-examine your that statement that you've 'matured quite a bit'.....obviously not enough otherwise you would NOT begrudge a child what small amount of time he/she has with her/his father. A FOUR YEAR OLD BABY for Pete's sake...you are jealous of a 4 year old baby! JEALOUSY IS A SIGN OF IMMATURITY....and insecurity. Those are issues within YOU that you need to correct or eventually it will sour your marriage, and then your child too will know what it is like to have a part time dad.
2016-05-18 02:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that kind of situation before, first I knocked him out with a can opener, then I kicked his girlfriend's butt, then I went to the cops and put an order on them, and i also took the kids away from him, he is alound to see them now and he has not ever knocked me around again, and I did not get into any trouble becasue I was defending myself, and had witeness who also called the cops
2007-04-18 10:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by rednascarmykids 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the Police on him. What he just did to you is ASSAULT. If I were you, I would press charges against him, then take him to court for child support. If he doesn't pay now, the court will make him pay, that's for sure. As far as seeing your kids & being with them. You should tell him he can forget about that. You need to tell the Police & The Court that this man is Physically Abusive. How do you know he won't do that to any of your children? You need to be smart about this. Protect yourself & your kids. As for his wife, I really don't think she has any control of who he's going to assault, whether it's you or her, so FORGET HER. Just be glad your not married to him anymore. DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS.
2007-04-18 10:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to take this and it has nothing to do with her, she has her own set of problems. You should call the police and have him arrested. Take him to family court for child support and never ever let him near your home. If he does get the kids take them to the local police station and he can get them from you there. This way you are safe.
2007-04-18 10:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur an adult,call the police,report it and get a restraining order on him.why let him come to ur house at all?and ur worrying about him beating her?think of urself and ur kids first.get a court order for child support and full custody of ur children.don't worry about his wife.she stood there and watched him beat u and she didn't do anything,and here u r thinking of her well-being?that sweet of u but honey please,get the help u need.thats why he's ur ex.
2007-04-18 10:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by leen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze are you serious??? Call the police and file restraining order. Can't believe you just stood there and let him do this to you.
2007-04-18 10:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police, file charges against him, and get a restraining order so that he can't come near you or the kids.
2007-04-18 10:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops already and get a restraining order
2007-04-18 10:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋