We got back together, and now it seems he is stuck that because I left that I caused the problems. I just want everything to be happy, I know I made a mistake when I gave up, but I was stressed out and I didn't want to lose the baby I'm carry , so I need some time to relax, But now I dont think he will ever get over the fact I left. He is still hurt,and since I can back its like nothing is there anymore. He wont sleep in the bed with me, he doesn't talk much and when he does it about the show thats on or a friend, but wont touch "our" relationship. I want this to work I know I made the mistake but how do I fix it?
2007-04-18 10:22:56 · 7 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't apologize. I don't know the details but maybe that was the best thing to do at the time. Everybody maybe needed time to think and address whatever the problem was. Hey, he's withholding. Not fair. He's withdrawing, Not Fair. Be understanding but he needs to be understanding too. Tell him, it's nothing against him personally. Tell him we both needed space to think about our relationship and address the problems. Hey everybody has problems and you're back together again. Tell him not to withhold that is unfair in a constructive relationship.
I'm very happy that you're back together, I hope this time it will be forever.
Tell him, you both need to work on things. Together,no more placing blame. Be kind, Be empathetic.
2007-04-18 11:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a while.
Look, you gave up on your marriage for a bit. That really hurt your husband. Imagine if the roles were reversed - you'd be hurting too. He's going to be distrustful for a while, and he should be.
You need to be there for him, calm his fears, make sure that he understands that you know you've made a mistake, and that you won't make it again.
It will take time, but he will come around. Right now, what he needs most is time.
2007-04-18 17:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sleep with anyone while you were 'relaxing'?
If you did... either arrange for him to have just as much sex with another woman as you did with the other guy OR take your licks and move on. If you both don't like the idea of letting him get some new sex... (women rarely are as accommodating) you had better make EVERYTHING be about him and what he wants for a couple of years. If that sounds too tiring for you, then you don't deserve to go back to him.
If you did not sleep with anyone else, then I suggest you do something so monumental for him that he can see that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get him back.
2007-04-18 17:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mindlessfun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Counseling
2007-04-18 17:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left him. People leave their spouse because they no longer wish to be with them. You came back, but he isn't magically forgetting that you DID leave him. Will he get over it? Nobody here can know. All you can do is hope, and take it day by day. I wish I had something better, or more hopeful.
2007-04-18 18:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling - talk therapy will help him and you, and talking to someone else will also help.
2007-04-18 17:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a doubt is created..it will be there forever..no matter what u do..u have lost the trust
2007-04-18 17:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋