Is this it?

Question

Okay - I am at a standstill - I have the house, the car, the good job, the kid and a wonderful boyfriend but I feel unfullfilled. I feel like there should be more, is this it, is this what life is? it all seems so mundane. Anyone else feel like this?

Answer 1

Have you ever tried volunteer work? There are so many different ways you can get involved in your neighborhood. Contact local charities and volunteer organizations to find out how you can help.

Perhaps you need a creative outlet. Take up painting, photography or poetry - something creative. Find a way to express what you're feeling. You might be surprised by what opens up in you.

What is your day to day life like? Do you do the same things every day or every week? Maybe you need to shake things up. Take a class at a local college. Maybe you might want to learn how to ballroom dance. Or maybe you'd be intersted in sailing. Check out some museums. Maybe you need a vacation to a place you've never been before. Do you have any spiritual beliefs? Find a group to help explore them and learn more.

Basically, it sounds like you're stuck in a rut in some way. Something in your life needs to change. Only you can figure out what's missing in your life and take the steps to change it. I hope one of the suggestions I've made strikes a note in you to help lead you to your path.

Get out there and enjoy life! =)

Answer 2

Man is never full of any thing. Its natural that when you have nothing you think i should have car,house and good clothes and when you get these things you think you are not done yet you need something else. You said you have boyfriend,house,car,job and kids so it means you have every thing and you are lucky that you have. Look at me i don't have kids but i have loving husband and good in laws who never ask about kids.

So be happy you are lucky and you have every thing. Pray to your God and if its possible go some where out of the country so that you 'll feel relax with kids and boy friend and be happy. Sometimes i also feel like some thing is missing and i know what but................ So cheer up and have a wonderful life. Best of luck

Answer 3

I used to feel like that recently due to retiring which I thought was going to be great. Well lets face it, after a year or so away from things like work and other stuff it just got boring. Whats the answer? It's something we all must work out for ourselves. What did I do? I formed a group on yahoo groups and have almost 800 members whic is a trade and barter group. We have picnics in the spring through fall, get togethers in the winter with pot luck meals and gift exchanges.
Maybe you need to go somewhere you never been to. Plan a secret date with your boyfriend to do something different a few times per month. Meet some new people and so on.

Answer 4

Everyone feels like that. It is called chasing the wind. True success and happiness in life is when you can enjoy each day, enjoy the people around you, eat good meals, have a glass of wine in peace, have good health, and pay your bills. You always have to set new goals. If you stop setting goals for your life then it becomes stagnant and dull. There is more out there to fulfill your life. Step out on the limb of life, that is where the fruit is. Take a class, go volunteer your time helping an organization that you believe in, find out your child's dreams and help her start taking steps to reach her goal...no matter what that goal may be. A girl may dream of being a professional ice skater, enroll her in classes. A boy may want to be a fireman...take him to the local firehouse and get a tour and meet the people. If you are without a spouse then you are not completely fulfilled anyway....you don't have it all. Date.

Answer 5

That's really sad. Instead of focusing on how negative you feel, why not start counting your blessings. Start with this: if you got out of bed using 2 legs, that's 1
If you used the toilet without someone having to help you, that's 2. If you had a bed to sleep in, 3. A roof over your head, 4. If you have a house with running water and a toilet, 5.
If that doesn't satisfy you, go volunteer somewhere and help people who'd LOVE to have your mundane little life.
http://www.volunteermatch.org/

Answer 6

There is something more...A relationship with God. There is a reason a lot of people said this same thing. We have it and it is VERY fulfilling!!!! Try attending a Christian church and joining a small group of some kind (doesn't have to be a "bible study" but do get into something where you are with other Christian people. Take your boyfriend too! If nothing else at least you will have a good time and make new friends!

Answer 7

Yep thats what life is unless you famous :(
You need to fill your gaps in life. There should be no stand still with a child. If you need more take a girls vacation every year and go wild with old friends or even family. Make sure its away from the kids and hubby so you have some you time and just let loose
:)

Answer 8

why not make some friends, so you can have some people to hang out with and have a social life doing things outside of the house where you can just relax and have some fun get togethers, or take up a new hobby, take a class in something that you have always been interested in.....

Answer 9

We all feel like that at times, and it's fine to reconsider fufillment of life sometimes. I suggest you take up a hobby, like sewing, painting, or baking. Or, get active by enjoying a hike with your boyfriend and child, or go on a road trip with them. Best of luck.

Answer 10

I felt the same. Then I took the same advice that Madbalds and 42 gave you above. We were made to fellowship with God, He made us to be His best friend. When we are not, we have a hole in us that will never be filled. I am serious when I say you will never feel fulfilled unless you seek God. He will give you what He gave me, because the Bible promises it if you follow Him; happiness beyond what I ever thought or imagined, peace of mind, and wisdom in my everyday life.