I've noticed - a lot of people seem awfully permissive with their children - resulting in a noticeble increase in rude, surly, ill-behaved children. I fear this doesn't bode well for our future (her in North America) - - I mean, I was beaten as a kid - as one of three boys to a single mother I suppose it was all she could do to gain the upper hand.. I certainly wasn't *ABUSED* - but the threat of corporal punishment was always there.. and I turned out alright (twitch-twitch).
what say you -?
2007-04-18 08:45:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was spanked, and if I did something which deserved one in public, my mom would promise to give us a spanking when we got home . Then remind us what we were getting punished for, she was fair but made sure we knew what was expected There is a lot more respect from kids then.
Now with the so called new ways to punish, we are seeing less respect for parents and authority. We have 12 and 13 year old kins running around the city beating on the homeless and are proud of the deed. They call it "wilding". Without simple respect they will not be kind as adults.
I turned out ok myself, and have a conscience as well.
2007-04-18 11:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by stbill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 17 year old son. I think I've spanked him maybe 2-3 times in his life. I always found that grounding, extra chores, taking away a favorite toy, etc, was a more effective punishment than spanking him. And I think he's well adjusted, polite (or at least capable of it), and in general a good kid.
As to the # of rude kids around - yeah, there are a lot of 'em, but then again, we were when we were young, too. It's part of the process of maturing. Most will eventually outgrow it, I think.
2007-04-18 08:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say yes. I have never seen so many kids talk back to their parents as I have in recent years. Hell, I think most parents are afraid of their children....I will never have this fear. I was raised where, if warranted, we received a little physical punishment (not abuse). I understood and respected the rules because of this. I was also respectful to my parents and family. I have been most afraid of letting them down in life.
I also think that we need to start forcing people to get a license to have a child....I have seen some very pathetic parents as well.
2007-04-18 08:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Damon S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I turned out just fine my self. I don't like the way kids are being raised these days. Anyways with mine I sit them down and have long talks with them; long talks on how they should behave towards one another, when they get into an argument there are certain things they are not allowed to do, such as refer to one another as rude colorful metophoric names. I instill in my kids honor for family first and after the world. There are ways to accomplish this even with sparing the rod.
I have one simple rule or whatever you want to call it. I mean what I say and I say what I mean. I also keep as close to it as possible. When I do something wrong; I humbly apologize; after all kids are human. In ending I could go in with the story of the boy who was bullying the other kids and there was his mom passed out on the couch like a drunken sot.
2007-04-18 08:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it has spoiled the child. You ever watch those uncontrolled teen episodes on talk shows? Sure it's just TV, but much of it is based on fact.
Those kids are out of control because they haven't had their *** whupped to teach them some manners. Negative reinforcement is needed sometimes. Simple as that.
How many times do most people touch an electric fence? Most likely in the single digits. (most people, not the super idiots)
2007-04-18 08:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
spare the rod and spoil the child does not mean just spankings. it can also mean to be firm and unbending. when parents do not back what they say or have inconsistent rules and guidelines the kids learn to wear the parents down and can start to run the household. i see this alot in divorced families or in families where mom or dad wants the "perfect" happy family. we put alot of pressure on ourselves to make our children happy, put the kids first, increase their self esteem ect. and yes we should do these things but i feel the balance has shifted to far in favor of making the kids happy instead of teaching them to find their own happiness by hard work and fair treatment of others.
2007-04-18 09:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a single whap on the butt is considered abuse, but no more than that. I know plenty of people who don't spank but do monitor and correct their children, and their kids are great. The ones with unruly kids let them run in the street, dump out sugar caddies at restaurants, etc, and don't bother to reprimand them! It's like they just don't care. Blows my mind.
2007-04-18 09:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by lei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am afraid so. My mom would never need Nanny 911, she would be embarassed to admit that she couldn't control her children. All of us (4) turned out fine. The bottom line was that even if we were punished we knew she loved us.
2007-04-18 09:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is spoiling the child. I don't think that you should use belts or switches or things of that nature but spankings are necessary. From what I have seen parents either (1) don't care what their kids do or (2) think that if they discipline their child that they will be punished themselves with "abuse" charges.
2007-04-18 09:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by zezy02 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you are right. But it is not just corporal punishment, parents are letting their kids get by with anything and hardly even say a word.
We better start building more and bigger jails.
2007-04-18 08:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Indignant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋