I read a book that said a wife would appreciate a husband who willing ease her work load at home by doing stuff around the house without being told. My friend has been married for ten years and says that it is better to allow the wife to carryout her wifely duties but help her when she needs assistance. What do you think?
2007-04-18 08:30:30 · 17 answers · asked by Will 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men have this thing that when they get married the think to themselves "now i have a housemaid that will sleep with me, cook for me and give me children!" that's not how it's supposed to be. I live in CA and it's rare that the wife gets to stay home so here most couples both work so when the wife gets home she has to clean the house, pick up the kids from school, make dinner, help with homework, do laundry etc etc adn the man just comes home, eats, watches tv and goes to bed. The man should help the woman out. Alot of men don't because they think it's the duty of the wife to do all the chores etc but they don't realize how tired she must be and that she might need help. Here's a tip to all married men- help your wife out around the house & with the kids and MAYBE you will get "lucky" at the end of the day. HE HE HE but guys are so dumb they don't realize that by doing just that can help the marriage allot and guys wonder why they hardly get laid when they get married.
2007-04-18 08:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wife really shouldn't have to ask for help with the "wifely" duties....that kind of sounds old school....duties around the house should be shared....and even if she DOES carry the load, it is totally better to help out without being asked....it shows initiative and that you care about her
2007-04-18 08:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sinking Slowly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some women like complete control of the house hold duties. Some would appreciate the husband actually doing tasks all on his own.
Ask your wife which she prefers, then do it.
2007-04-18 08:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation, and yes, it makes a world of difference if he helps out with being asked. It shows initiative that he's in this with you and that it's not all just on the other person. Like a team. I don't think men and women have 'duties'...it just depends i think on what you're comfortable doing. For example: I'd rather clean up after dinner than cook; and my signifcant other loves that idea! He can do the laundry and fold as well as I can...bonus!! As well as cleaning! We wouldn't be known at the traditional couple, and I like that =)
2007-04-18 09:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The nicer you're the less sex you get.... nice guys always finish last... Thats why i'm a a** hole and i always get what i want.. and if you start doing all the house work your wife will turn in to a hog sitting around with nothing to do you must think of her health also you know.
2007-04-18 08:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a man who refers to the hard work of being a wife as "wifely duties" might not make it to the 11 yr mark. And I think you should most DEFINITELY look for someone else from whom to take advice on how a man treats a woman he loves.
2007-04-18 09:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by DL G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's good for a husband to chip in when needed. Doing stuff on your own is a good look. A good wife will appreciate the thoughtfulness.
2007-04-18 08:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the book is correct. I do many of the household chores (dishes, laundry, cleaning the animal cages/litterbox, etc.).
When my husband comes home, and puts a load of dishes in the dishwasher, or does some laundry....
It's wonderful. I do not feel that I should have to ask/request for him to help take care of the house that he also lives in.
2007-04-18 08:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what else is going on with the wife. If she is a stay at home mom/wife and her "job" is the house then it should be getting done anyway. When a spouse steps out of their "role" and helps out it is always appreciated.
Doing something thoughtful just because you want to is awesome. Doing something because you "expect" to have a certain response or reward for it is pointless because it loses its value.
2007-04-18 08:46:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am living like that. i work full time an look after 2 kids an do the house work my husband never does anything not even when i ask him. take my advice its not good it would be nice if i come home one day to find he has done something round the house without me having to of moned at him. not that that would move him off the couch
2007-04-18 08:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by lizjess2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋