2007-04-18 08:25:20 · 58 answers · asked by Halo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Some of the answers are judgemental. My friend is in the medical profession , already has two children and is deeply upset. I want to be supportive but sensitive to her feelings.
2007-04-18 09:24:17 · update #1
I would still send a card, or even call her and ask if you can help in any way (with the other children, or with meals) She still has a baby that she does/will love very deeply. Who is just as "normal" as any of the rest of us. It is VERY normal for her to feel "jipped" or go through a "mourning" phase after learning of the disibility. But she will come around, and when she does she will love you even more for your support and for you treating this child as any other.
2007-04-18 12:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cristi H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the mother of a child with Down syndrome, I say send her a card and congratulate her. I received two sympathy cards when my son was born and that hurt more than anything. The birth of a child is something to celebrate. So congratulate your friend and ask her if there is anything you can do to help her out...any new mother could use a helping hand. Assure her that everything she is feeling is perfectly normal, but the fear will soon be replaced with amazement and incredible love. Children with Down syndrome have opportunities like never before and they grow up to lead very normal lives. Fuss over the baby (I'll bet he/she is adorable) and just be a good friend. This baby will transform lives...I guarantee it!
2007-04-18 18:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Smom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to this email. I had a baby with a rare syndrome. It wasn't Down but I had been through all the shock and grief and depression. I absolutely ahted it when people would congratulate me like everything was ok. It wasn't. If you really care for your friend and are close to her she wants a hug a shoulder to cry on and to know you are going to be there for her when everyone else disappears. having a baby that isnt born healthy or normal is like a death. You woul;dn't congratulate the survior at a funeral. This is sort of how she feels. ASk her about her baby. Will the baby need surgery? Be there for her for that too. Kearn about DS and help her out for life that's best. So few people ever stick around as friends when one of us has a syndrome baby. The sort of vanish. The best thing is visit her and bring her something for the whole family - a comedy and popcorn or a certificate to movie and a pizza. Uh my heart drops everytime someone starts on my path as a mom of a special baby.
2007-04-18 10:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card an congratulate her.
-dad of a daughter with Down syndrome
2007-04-18 15:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her and her partner a card and offer your support. My friend has a downs syndrome child who is now 9 years old and she recalls the hurt when people crossed the street to avoid her rather than say hi how's things.
She may be in shock but I bet she loves this child unconditionally and is a little daunted by the future!
You know the answer deep in side, now go give her a hug.
x
2007-04-18 10:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, positively send a card to congratulate her on the new baby. The only way I wouldn't is if she was giving the child up for adoption or something.
ALL babies are a blessing and should be celebrated.
2007-04-18 09:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Do you think that because the baby is disabled means that the mom doesn't love her child or is unhappy about the birth??? Send a card and congratulate your friend. A child is a blessing NO MATTER WHAT.
2007-04-18 08:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do The same thing!! Just because the baby has DS doesnt mean you or anyone has to treat her/him or the baby differently! They have feellings just like anyone else. Send the Card Congratulate your Friend for delieverring a beautiful baby!
2007-04-18 08:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing! Send your friend that card! She's just given birth to a beautiful baby and its worth celebrating. She will need lots of support and encouragement and what better way to let her know that her baby is no different in your heart to one that was born without downs syndrome!
2007-04-18 08:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by maria b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same, assuming that are coming to terms with their situation too. They are still to be congratulated on suuccessfully bringing another life into the world, who will bring much love and joy to his/her parents. Like any other baby would.
Please try not to be awkward about this, the parents will appreciate your openess. I know from (different) experience how hard it is when there is a subject everyone is avoiding.
2007-04-18 08:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋