Who is the person that made up terms like "verbal abuse" "emotional abuse" "mental abuse"

Question

I would be it was a female divorce attorney trying to rip off some poor guy who hadn't really done anything wrong but they needed to make him look bad in front of the judge!

Outside of threats of violence, which are wrong and should be reported to the police, there is NO SUCH THING AS "mental abuse"! Every thing else is just nasty words. If you don't like what someone says to you, leave but spare us the "emotional abuse" crap!

Answer 1

Its amazing you have the same name as my ex and not only did he physically and mentally and verbally AND emotionally abuse both his wives he did the same things to his children. There is too such a thing as mental abuse - controlling behavior and threats are mental abuse. Harrassing and stalking and alienating your spouse from their family is ALL abuse and that person should be punished and possibly reformed.

Added - I know you are not my ex because your other questions dont resemble his mental capacity even though this one does.

Answer 2

Actually those terms are very accurate. It doesn't necessarily mean it only happens to women, many men are also abused in many ways and so are children. Verbal abuse is an attack of words to be little someone. People that use this method do so to feel superior. Mental abuse occurs much in the same way and often when one is first verbally abused so bad that they are led to believe after a period of time of being worthless or not capable of certain things etc.. Emotional abuse well that occurs when one knowingly plays with ones emotional senses and developement especially in that of a young child. I would have to say that you obviously have never lived such a life and be thankful for that, but why do you judge so many others. Also I do believe that it is over used in courts and think it is wrong and think that maybe people like yourself and those that miss use these terms should do some research on it and the true effects it has on people. Glad you aren't another statistic of abuse, just a jerk!

Answer 3

I disagree. There certainly is such a thing as mental abuse, emotional abuse, and verbal abuse. But…walking out the door is all it takes to get you out of the line of fire. With that said, when children are on the receiving end, it’s a totally different story, because they don’t have the option of walking out the door.

And I do agree that some people use these terms too freely, which p*sses me off, because it has a bad effect on those who are *really* suffering from it.

But if I get angry at my husband and call him an *sshole, that’s not abuse. That’s my opinion. I have the right to have an opinion and I have the right to voice it. Just like he has the right to leave if he doesn’t like it.

However, in 18 years of marriage I have never once called my husband a name (and sometimes in the heat of the moment, I wanted to), because I have enough sense to know that words are a powerful thing. They have the ability to cause great hurt and damage. And once you say them—no matter how much you regret it or apologize for it—you can never ‘take them back’. It’s a shame more people don't have the common sense to realize this.

Answer 4

Sorry fella you are wrong it may have been a women but they are terms used in everyday life and they are real. Mental abuse is the combination or verbal and emotional abuse they are termed like this because they are used to determine what someone has gone through. Physical abuse is the most common but really if you look at any case verbal and emotional abuse usually start's before the physical acts.

Answer 5

Some times it's not as easy as "if you don't like what someone says to you, leave". The issue of emotional and mental abuse is so much harder to see and know what's happening. I was married to a man that did both to me. It started out with him convincing me that I was depressed. I went on Prozac to change. It didn't help. Then he wanted "space" to think about things and if I didn't change, the marriage was over. Then it was that I wasn't a good enough house keeper. Then it was that I was a lousy mom. Finally he pulled the "I need space" card again and when I moved out that time and tried to stand up for myself and make it stop, he filed for divorce. I've been so much better emotionally and mentally since he and I divorced. It's amazing to me just how much control he had over me while we were married. I thought I was a strong person until the divorce was final and I realized just how deep the abuse went. So yeah, a woman might have come up with the words, but she didn't come up with the ability to do it!!

Answer 6

I'm ok with the terms, as long as they are applied equally and must be proven.

Just saying "He made me feel bad..." isn't going to fly. Bringing a video tape where she calls him a worthless excuse for a man should be sufficient.

I do believe there is emotional and verbal abuse.

I simply disagree that men are the culprits in every case. Most things I've read indicate that women have superior verbal skills, including having a more vicious tongue.

So let the terms stand, but let's look at the behavior of both parties in a marriage.

Sadly, no-fault divorce doesn't let you look at any behavior, which I think is the bigger issue.

Answer 7

The problem with those types of abuses as they are so subjective. Definitions are open to differnet opinions. Abuse for person A may not be so for person B, whereas physical abuse is more clean cut. I'm sure my ex believed she was mentally abused when I wouldn't buy her a new Corvette because the transmission on my 84 Civic went out.

Answer 8

whilst i grow to be sixteen I objected to the term- my son- which got here from no longer my father yet an entire stranger. My mate hates being reported as a Chav, i won't be in a position to stand the term midsection elderly, it sounds extra like midsection a while ! Geriatric is yet another bone of rivalry ? What approximately Recycled teenager or lively Pensioner ? i think of I choose Senior Citizen, yet there lower back it is in basic terms my own own view. it is the difficulty there are continually people who choose for to pigeonhole and steriotype absolutely everyone, yet absolutely everyone seems to be a guy or woman, at each age point and what seems to be the two acceptable to the age attained, the guy may be the two forward or backward to those years. a chum of mine is 40-one yet acts like a eighty twelve months previous, my mum whilst at eighty acted extra like a teenager, so as that leaves the question why catigorise contained in the 1st place? we are all area of the human race, as long as we don't come final who cares !!lol!!

Answer 9

There is a such thing as all those forms of abuse... I know first hand because my ex-husband did all of it to me and our kids.

Answer 10

As long as women can be sued for it too for saying things like "I should've married Howard Festerman" and "'i've seen bigger ***** in my time" and "did you come yet? oprah is on" and "the baby is yours" and "you'll never understand me you insensitive asshole" and "no that wasn't what i was thinking - try again" and "nothing" (in reply to "what's the matter?") and "not tonight - i'm tired" (for 12 years straight) and so on - then let the terms stand.

Applying them only to men is a clear-cut case of sexism which women everywhere should deplore since they hate sexism in any form.