And then he dumped you and said he wanted to stay friends. What would you do.?
2007-04-18 07:24:21 · 27 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
kick his ba**s.. and they kick his a**..
No i just never talk to him and keep faraway in my life..
2007-04-18 07:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by **2005** 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay friends. Everytime that you see him you are just going to think about what he did to you. Not to mention that when he does get a new girl, the hurt will be tremendous, especially since you guys have a 4 year history. Also, if you remain friends what are the chances that you will wind up back together? I don't know the underlying circumstances, but do you really want a relationship with this guy after he has already dumped you once?
2007-04-18 07:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by godsfire44 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drop him!!!
He lost you when he dumped you! You deserve someone a lot better!
It just strikes me as wierd how he dumps you and still wants to be friends, do not fall into that trap!!!!
He dumped you and he did you a huge favor of finding another guy out there and there is, and for your life to be happy!!!!
He is just saying he wants to be friends so he can still have some sort of "control" over you.
Do not let that happen!
2007-04-18 07:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the split goes. Do you each split property equally? Who gets the house/apartment?
If it's the type of thing where each person can take their stuff and go their own way- I would do just that.
I am not so sure about the friend thing, but if a guy doesn't want me, first I want to know why, then I hit the road.
There are plenty of others who would want to be with me, so that wouldn't be a problem. I would never want to be with someone who didn't want to be with me and chances are you can't talk them into it- that is just plain annoying.
2007-04-18 07:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by gawd0 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is really hard. I would be sad and bitter for a long time. But then, eventually I would have to get over it and move on with life. I don't believe many people can be 'friends' after having a long-term relationship. I really think it is best to have a clean break, otherwise you will always be hoping that you will get back together.
Good luck, this is a terrible thing to have happened to you.
2007-04-18 07:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by HiLight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Consider it one of the longest lessons of my life and vow NEVER to repeat it with another!
Time will tell if you two can manage a friendship - I'd be rather doubtful of that if a) it was a 4 year period and b) you lived with him all that time...I'd let some time pass seriously, before I would entertain the idea of a friendship, under the circumstances.
Goodluck...you could use it!
Grace
2007-04-18 07:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would be really hard. No you should not stay friends you cant be in love with someone for four years and just say hay lets be friends. try to move on from him unless you have a child with him and then yes you should try to be his friend. Most men say that to try to ease the pain he is causing you but in the end it will only cause more pain .
2007-04-18 07:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Nish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him yes you would love to stay friends, and then every time he calls, don't answer, don't email or answer emails and if you happen to run into him and he asks the stupid question. I thought you said we could stay friends? You can just tell him, well I thought you said we would be together forever? S hit changes, so piss off.
2007-04-18 07:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would move on, and find someone else to be with. But I wouldn't waste 4 years next time waiting to get married.
2007-04-18 07:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends that a way of trying to break up gently don't go for it! What if he gets a new girl are you ready to see that?? if not don't go for it you will only get hurt more sorry. good luck you will be better off with out him
2007-04-18 08:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget about him its his loss.there is always someone out there that will respect you for who you are.
Ive been with my lovely partner for 5 years and i have never stopped loving him. My point is that there is men out there wont hurt you in anyway or leave you. not all men are the same, just cos you had one loser doesn't mean the next man u have will necessarily be the same. good luck for future.
FORGET ABOUT HIM.
2007-04-18 07:34:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋