some of the people in the fam are rude and greedy and unapreciative and competative and critical. should the couple just elope.
2007-04-18 07:15:41 · 25 answers · asked by L.A. WOMAN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES! Elope! I invited my family to my wedding and it was a big fiasco. Just elope and have an intimate ceremony. You can have friends go with you! Make it YOUR day! :)
Good luck!
2007-04-18 07:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hun...
All families have their disfunctional people. There is never a "perfect" family. And that also depends on what you would describe as disfunctional. If the couple want to elope, then that is what they should do. They need to remember that this is their day and that they need to do what makes them happy. But even as "disfunctional" (rude, greedy, critcal) they are, they may be hurt by not getting to share in this happy day. After all, they are still family.
If the couple is wanting a traditional wedding, with family and friends, then they should just bite the bullet and invite the family. Hopefully, they will only get married once, and it should be exactly they way they want it.
Although eloping can be exciting and spontaneous...make sure that this couple is doing what THEY want to do and not trying to please others. Good luck and congrats to the couple.
2007-04-18 07:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by rebel_cowgirl78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep do whatever makes them happy. If they want a big dysfunctional wedding go for it. Some people will enjoy being their and be happy some may suck just ignore them. But if you elope could also create more tension. Marriage is all about societal symbolism, which is BS anyway so if they don't want to deal with the family elope, if they do go for the dysfunctional wedding where they will only see the people they don't like as much at dinner for a brief period.
2007-04-18 07:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by kycougar_11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be up to you!! My brother eloped 20 years ago, and they are still very happily married!! If that's what you want to do, go for it!! You can always get remarried at a later time!! With or without the family!! Remember , it is about you and your mate living together and making the most of your life!! It is not about your families!! They won't be living with you!! At least I hope not!! Best to you and do what you feel is right for the two of you in your heart!!
2007-04-18 07:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lori F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is dysfunctional and I did elope when I was 22, I'm 34 now..
After just being in my 22 year-old sister's wedding (this past weekend) where our Mom burst in our room and started screaming at her for being a "selfish b*tch" for taking the morning to get her hair and makeup done - I fully support eloping.
My husband and I were saying how happy we are that we just went to the courthouse and did it rather than deal with crazy wedding problems.
2007-04-18 07:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by quentybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elopement is a great idea -weddings turn into a big production and most couples just can't wait until it's over. & it sounds like you would have a doozy of a time with your family.
Run away with your honey, and focus on your marriage, not just the event on the first day. Think of all the money & time you will save!
2007-04-18 07:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said couple, now im not sure if your asking for the sake of a relationship or for your own sake. however, if it's a couple issue. yes, you have to elope. It's not always healthy for a couple to stay under the same roof where his or her family is staying. A conflict always emerge. However, if it's your family, or the guy's family, treat is a challenge; however, for the rude and greedy aspect, the best way is correct them. otherwise, just ignore them
2007-04-18 07:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by paul g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether these people would just be guests or participants or what. If the couple feels that a wedding would be too filled with drama, I'd say yes. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-18 07:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in fact, I'd go to Vegas and get the wedding and honeymoon all taken care of at one time. I'm having the same trouble. My man and I are getting married in July, and my family members are acting like they can't be bothered to show up. We may do the Vegas thing ourselves...
2007-04-18 07:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what the couple wants. Do they want a traditional wedding with family and friends? Or do they just want to get married? My fiance and I are going to Vegas in October to get hitched, and we have great families. We just don't want a traditional wedding. Bottom line, tell them to do what THEY want. It's THEIR day, despite was any family member says.
2007-04-18 07:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mother Inferior 9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋