What are the important things to ask/know when considering a relationship with a man that has been divorced?

Answer 1

First you need to know if he really is divorced or just telling you that.

You need to know if the ex is psycho and/or are they are friendly. You also need to know if he has already had "transitional girl" or are you her. What is his relationship with the kids and are they nightmares, and last did the ex take him to the cleaners.

Last don't ask him about why his marriage failed, he doesn't want to rehash that and it's way to personal at an early stage. Many women have screwed this one up.

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Answer 2

1) Why did he get divorced?
2) When did he get divorced?
3) What does he think of his ex?
4) What does he think of his mother? (whatever he tells you to this question is what he will eventually say about YOU)
5) How many kids?
6) Has he been married more than once?
7) Does he have custody of the kids?
8) How much child support does he pay? (You will have to help pay this, you know! Even if he pays it all himself, other bills that he would have paid will be given to you to pay)

You should date him until he has been divored for one year. Whether he knows it or not, he may be looking for a replacement for his wife. Someone to go to work, bring home a paycheck, take care of kids, do work around the house. Think about all of this. You can get yourself in a mess. Also, it is important to find out who filed for divorce and why? Good luck.

Answer 3

If he has kids, his involvment with them. Kids and stepkids can really impact your relationship. You have to decide if your ready for that.
At first you should just get to know him without asking too much about his divorce, as you decide if you like him a lot then ask him why it didn't work. I met a man that had kids from a previous relationship and I would have never thought i would date someone with them, especially cause i was very young at the time, there are only certain people cut out to be a step parent, and i definetly fell in love with the kids and him, but fell for him first. 9 years later they love me and accept as if i have always been there.

Answer 4

Make sure he is divorced first. Very important. Heard of too many women getting involved with men that say they are divorced but really aren't.

Also ask about children, visitation, etc. You will become a part of that too.

Answer 5

First thing first....make sure the man truly is divorced and not a married man lying about being divorced.

Answer 6

How long he has been divorced. If he is just divorced then you are the rebound girl. If your ok with that then go ahead.
also find out how many other girls he has dated since then.
Now once all of that is done, and he is in the clear. find out if his ex and he have a friendly relationship. That helps the stress.

Answer 7

Same things you'd ask a guy who hasn't been divorced (but has been in relationships)....how many serious relationships, how long did they last, what caused them to end, any children, any issues with exes, etc.

Answer 8

Well if he has any feelings for his ex and if he ever thinks they will get back together.
Why they got divorced in the first place and if he puts his relationship first and makes it his number 1 priority.
If he has ever cheated
if he likes to go out and have fun

Answer 9

I'm not sure. I guess I would want to know (in his opinion) why the marriage ended. Keep in mind that you are getting his version of the story and it may be told in a way that makes him look better than he is. That being said, a lot of marriages end because one or both spouses are just too lazy to put in the work that it makes to sustain the marriage.

Answer 10

Most Important.......ARE YOU OVER HER? That one if he says no, run for the hills. If he says yes, keep your eyes open for red flags. The ex generally causes a lot of problems, a lot of the times she doesn't even know whats going on. Good Luck