My wife cheated on me while I am in Iraq. I forgive her.?

Question

But how do I get over the anger and hurt? I do trust her. Are there any tips for putting a marriage back the way it was?

Answer 1

It takes time and effort. If u really want to forgive her, dont bring it up when u happen to quarrel with her in future. If u choose to forgive, u have to mean it and try to let go.
Its a gamble. Life is a gamble in many ways.

Answer 2

Perhaps some counseling so a non-biased (professional) 3rd party can make suggestions. Nothing will ever be just as it was, because this memory will be there for both of you forever. If you two have decided to stay together though, you have to learn together how to get past this, and any anger or hurt from it.

The relationship will be forever changed...but that doesn't mean the change won't end up (down the road) being for the better. Some people who go through situations like this end up with a stronger relationship than they had before.

Good luck!

Answer 3

First go to marriage counseling. With the help of a good counselor you can overcome your hurt and angry

As a side note. During the 1960's my cousin was deployed to Vietnam. He and his wife had 3 gorgeous little boys. While he was gone she started to play around and decided to leave town with someone she met in a bar. The towns chief of police found about it and took her into custody, telling her that the bf wasn't good enough to lick the shoes of or husband. My aunt and uncle managed to get my cousin returned home under through the Am. Red Cross.

In the end they worked it out and stayed married until his death in 2004. They had two more children.

If you love her and truly don't want to end your marriage. Work at it and find a good marriage counselor

Answer 4

How could you trust her??? While u were in Iraq fighting for our country she's here screwing other people, no way! I understand u still love her, but what she did was wrong, and she better realize it. Theres no way to go back to the way it was b/c you can't forget this and she hurt you. I'd say maybe counseling? Maybe take some time for yourself away from her? Do u have kids, cause if so it may be hard to get away? You need to look out for yourself. Good luck, and listen to your head not your heart!

Answer 5

Sorry, but a woman has to be pretty low to cheat on a man fighting a war in Iraq.
No, you can't trust her. If she would cheat on you while your life is in danger, what would she do to you in your time of peace?
Your marriage is basically over. But if you want to make it work and she does too, then it is SHE who better get some help.
She needs nore than tips, she needs counselling and a complete overhaul.
You get over the hurt by forgiving her and allowing God to heal your heart and life.
People don't cheat for no reason except they are CHEATS.

Answer 6

If you have decided to forgive her the best thing you can do is try to look at your relationship as a clean slate and try to move forward and trust her again until she gives you a reason not to all you can do is try to forgive and forget if you constantly dwell on the cheating and bring it up its just going to ruin any chance of your marriage getting better again -best wishes to you and your wife !

Answer 7

I suggest counseling. You can find some for cheap or free by searching online. Counseling will find out the true reason why she cheated and then you can find out how *you* can move forward in truly forgiving her. Nothing will be the same as it was before, I'm sorry. Just use this as an eye opener as opportunity to be more open and honest with one another. I'm sorry this happened to you. God Bless you.

Answer 8

Sorry, but you will never be able to go back the way it was. She changed all that by not considering how her actions would forever change your relationship. I don't really know how you could trust her again. But if you want to go forward and she is willing to seek counseling together, then give it a try.

Answer 9

That trust will need to be built over time. Obviously, she hurt you and if she loves you she will feel guilty for a LONG time to come. Comfort her and let her know that you forgive her and that you just want her to be with you. Let her back into your life and get reacquainted. You can use this as a springboard to a stronger relationship.

Answer 10

Have her get a thorough medical examination with blood tests. Wait for all the tests to come back. Then see if you both still want to start over. Get individual counseling for her and you and couples counseling.