Lost my baby....?

Question

I am 6 weeks and lost my baby yesterday. Just day before I saw my baby on ultrasound and yesterday I lost it. I understand that is natural protection, that something was wrong and ect., but HOW TO EXPLANE IT TO MY HEART!!!???

Thank you for everyone for their answer. Them who think they are funny I wish you never fill what I fill now. I wish nobody ever fill that way.

Answer 1

I am so sorry, Yulia. I have never been pregnant and want a child, badly, but I need to wait until Sept when it's been a yr since my surgery. That's why it burns me up to see obviously pregnant women smoking and drinking. There are many supportive women out there who've gone through the same thing, so you are not alone in your loss. Take care, sweetie.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for you loss. I have recently been in your shoes and the best thing that I have found so far is tears, time, and a good freind to talk to. I know that right now it feels like the world is going on with out you and that no one really cares - but there are many who do care and lots of moms that have been in you shoes. Take all the time that you need in dealing with the loss of your baby - don't try and rush it. I think that loosing my baby was the most hurtful loss that I have ever been through - worse than loosing your parents There will be cold and uncareing people that you will deal with but I found that for every uncarining person there was two that offered support and understanding. When the time is right for you - you will be able to really talk about all that happened and you will find that there are many women that you know that have gone through the same loss. For me part of the healing process what finding something that I could do as a remembrance for my child - plant a garden, sewing, turning my attention to my husband and son. Now I can go and get busy in the garden when my mind turns to thoughs of my baby. Or go and hold the quilt that I'm working on. Or when I just need another human to hold I turn to my husband, son and good friend that suffered the same kind of loss Find something for your self such as these - somthing that is enjoyable for you that can symbolize your baby. There are also a lot of support groups on-line and places that you can vent if you need to. You can e-mail me if you would like at [e-mail] - sometimes you just need a annomouse friend that has been there before. God Bless you in your healing process.

Answer 3

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a big hug. Do you have anyone around you that you can talk to who is very supportive and understanding?

One way to help explain it to your heart is that there was something really wrong with this baby, and although this is so, so sad, it was for the best. This is nature's way of ending a pregnancy when there is something not right with the development. Or, if you are undernourished and not getting enough nutrition, and your body cannot handle the extra added strain of a pregnancy.

One way I've also helped explain it to another friend who lost a baby is that the baby is a soul up in heaven before it comes down to earth, and it gets to choose who it will be, and where it will grow up. Maybe your baby angel had a last minute change of plans, and said "Oh no! I want to be born in ______, not ______" or something like that, and God was really nice and gave in and said "Ok, I will give you a second chance. But do you realize you'll really be causing your Earth mommy a lot of sadness?" And the baby angel said to please tell the earth mommy that she was sorry, and to bless her with another child soon.

So, I hope this little fantasy story helps ease your pain. God bless you and I hope you have another baby soon!

Answer 4

I lost a baby at 10 weeks last year and i know how hard it is. I'm really sorry for you but there are no easy ways of coming to terms with this. It is the same as any other loss, and it takes time for your heart to fully grasp what has happened and start to heal. Please just take your time and dont try to rush yourself into getting over this. Pamper yourself, cry till you cant anymore and give you and your body time to recover from this.
It might help if you do something in rememberence, like planting a tree or a rosebush or something in memory of your baby, it might help make the loss seem more real. You havent just a bunch of cells as some might try to tell you, you have lost your hopes for what that baby would become and bedtime stories and cuddles and first steps and words and it is perfectly normal to grieve for that.
Again, i am really sorry for your loss and all i can tell you is that it does get easier, you will never forget your baby, but it will get easier to live with as time goes on. x

Answer 5

Last year, I saw my baby's heart beat on ultrasound. The next day, the baby died. I was 9 weeks along. There is no way to explain to a mother's heart how something like this to could happen to her precious baby. Just yesterday, though I am pregnant again, I had a long sob for my lost baby. It does get less painful with time...but don't underestimate your loss by trying to push the pain away too soon. It's normal and right to grieve the loss of your child. Some part of you may always grieve. Honor your child, name him, love him, remember him...he may have only lived a short while, but he *was* alive and he was yours. It's ok to hurt for such a monumental loss. I am so, so sorry you've had to experience this.

Answer 6

i'm so sorry on your loss. My suitable pal had a similar situation. She lost 3 toddlers, had her daughter, and then final 12 months she have been given pregnant lower back yet lost that infant in her 6th month of being pregnant. The docs have run a great number of exams yet are actually unable to furnish her an answer which makes her very hesitant to get pregnant lower back. She grew to become into in shambles for the 1st 6 months or so yet is slowly coming around. attempt to concentration on how fortunate you're to have your daughters yet on a similar time supply your self time to heal. i'm useful the anniversary will continually be no longer straight forward because it may well be with any mom that has lost a newborn. Be good on your infants yet supply your self a ruin too! I want you each and every of the best fortune and power interior the international!

Answer 7

Some people are so sick, ignore those guys.

I lost a baby at 6 weeks about a year and a half ago, it was with my x.

Im now 6 weeks again, with my current partner. I think Iv excepted that it wasn't meant to be, and I wasn't in the right place. Its hard to come to terms with because it feels like your greiving for something you never had. But the plans were there, along with love that was growing everyday.

I had a scan too before I miscarried because I had pain in my side, and they told me all was okay, I found out really early too so I had time to plan stuff and believe I was pregnant and then it was gone.

In time you'll be okay again, but for now it will be hard, seeing other pregnant woman and young children but just remember,.. your time will come and you'll know why this happened.

God bless x x x

Answer 8

Oh honey, I know. It is awful. Unless you have been through it, you just cannot imagine the loss you feel. I lost my first one. It was devastating. The best thing you can do is talk about it and mourn it. It is okay. When I lost mine the doctors said it was for the best. There was probably something wrong with it and it was natures way of handling it. That didn't make me feel any better however,,,
On a positive note....
Three months after I lost that child, I conceived my beautiful precious daughter who is perfect in every way. If I hadn't lost that first one, I would never have her.
I am so sorry for your loss. You can email me at any time [e-mail] if you want to talk.
God bless....

Answer 9

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know from my personal experience that I wouldn't be here if my mother hadn't had a miscarriage. She was pregnant with twins but lost them, then had me. I don't know how helpful this is in the grand scheme of things, take the time to grieve and heal your mind, body and soul. As the song says, your heart will go on. Again deepest condolences and best wishes.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

I really don't think there's any way to explain it to your heart, it's just one of those things that will take time to heal on it's own. I do want to commend you on understanding that it wasn't your fault and that it was a natural process that happened for a reason. Many women feel quite guilty when this happens and some never come to terms with the fact that it is a perfectly natural, though emotionally painful, thing that happens. Bravo to you for looking at this the right way!

Good luck to you in the future!