Is Getting engaged at 14 wrong?

Question

We are very much in love and understand fully what we're doing but Im worried people will judje me. I havent told my parents because they would kill me but do you think its wrong?

I would like to point out that i DID NOT SAY we we're getting married weve both discussed that and hav agreed NOT 2 for years to come we would put collage and things first

Oh yes and the guy is just a month younger than me its not like hes older and taking advantage

Answer 1

I found the love of my live when i was 14 and i am now 30 with 2 beautiful boys and a house and would say I'm the luckiest woman alive. If you think you are right for each other then stick it out, please be careful wait till you are 16, you know what i mean!

Answer 2

Haaaaaaaaang on a minute! i seem to remember being 'engaged' at that age, in a very unofficial sense, and you know what? We were "very much in love" and "understood what we were doing", but you know what else? I broke up with him the next year because, frankly, I was bored with him. And that's natural at that age! We've remained friends since then. He ended up marrying someone else six years later and divorced a year and a half after that. Now (we're both 26) he looks back on it and realizes he was way too young to marry at that time and even feels that he is STILL too young to be married. I think instead of getting engaged you too should just continue dating, continue your education, get part-time jobs, save up as much money as you can and, when you're old enough, buy a couple of plane tickets to another country and travel for a while. If you can get through all of that without wanting to kill each other then maayyyyyyyybe you should think about marriage. If you're not still together by then you'll be glad you didn't get married...and you can always take the money you saved to go travel and meet another hunk!

Answer 3

At 14 you have no idea, trust me we all think we are mature and can make adult decisions but really we can't. I've been a 14 year old girl and now as a 34 year old women (notice the difference) I can tell you that you are by far way too young to be dating (in my opinion) never mind think about being engaged. Your in love as a 14 year old it's not the same, keep dating then and see where things go. Basically if you can't tell your parents you are not mature enough.

Answer 4

I won't say that I think it's wrong... but I will say that I think it's unwise to make such an important life decision at such a young age. If your love is real and you two are meant to be together... you're relationship should survive until you are old enough. So, don't rush into it. Besides, people change A LOT between teen years and adult years. You and this other may grow apart... not because you don't love each other anymore... but just because that's how things are. Everything you are experiencing now in your life is shaping and molding you and it may mold you and your significant other in different ways.

Best of luck, keep a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 5

Um, you are a little young to be making such a commitment. Do you even understand what this signifies. If you love each other a lot, it does not mean he has to put a ring on your finger, you could both buy each other a piece of jewellery that signifies your love for each other. Why are you in such a rush to act all grown up? Your 14, just enjoy being together, you don't need to show the world how committed you are by getting engaged!

Answer 6

I really think you should wait. My first love was when i was 14 too and as you get older you'll want different things. Your not fully developed, mentally, to really know what you want in life yet. You might really care about this person but just give it time and wait it out. If in a couple of years you are still together, then i say go for it. Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

Yes, i think it is wrong and totally irresponsible. Your only 14 for gods sake, you have a hell of a lot of changing to do, even in the next couple of years. I'm 17 and my partner is 18, and we really want to get married, we have done since we were 15, but its still not going to happen for years!

Just wait a few more years, and if your still together when your 20, do it then. Dont throw your life away

Answer 8

14 years old to too young to even think about getting married why not just get a friendship ring or a promise ring you have got a very long way to go in life you need to live a little get to do a lot of new and different things why would you even think about this but then being in love the first time can always make you be a little stupid good luck

Answer 9

I don't think that it is wrong just a little too young.

My brother who is 18 is going out with a girl who is 15 and it sounds silly and no offence to you personally but she is incredibly immature. And it shows against him. You think differently about different things all the time when your growing up.

Sorry to put a downer on it but things don't last forever at your age. Instead of getting engaged, perhaps you could get rings of some sort. I know they do like rings that mean forever which is just as meaningful.
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Answer 10

Chances are you two won't make it. I know you think you know what y'all are doing, but when I was 16 and engaged I thought I knew what I was doing too. Look at it as more of a promise ring, seeing as how you have about 4 more years before you can even get married. Give it time, you don't want to be divorced by the time you're 20, right? And trust me, more than likely you will want to explore new things and want to break free eventually.

Answer 11

Yes, it is wrong. No matter how mature you think you are, when you look back at this when you're in your 20's, you'll wonder what in teh world you were thinking. If you plan on being with this guy for the rest of youe life, what's the rush to get engaged?

And...here's a little something I use to guide me, and maybe it can help you too....if you can't do something out in the open, in front of your mother, you shouldn't be doing it.