14 and pregnant?

Question

I'm 14 and was raped 7 weeks ago. I've just found out that i'm pregnant but I don't want to have an abortion. My mum says I should but it's my decision. I understand it will be hard to care for a baby as i'm very young myself but it's not the baby's fault! Do you think i'm doing the right thing?

Answer 1

Yes, you are definitely doing the right thing .. that baby is living off of YOU and nobody else. Only YOU have the decision as to whether or not to abort .. and personally, I do not agree with abortion! It's not the baby's fault :(
That baby is going to love you more than anyone in the world .. it's going to be all worth it when you see that little face :)
You are that babys world! :)

good luck! God bless!

Answer 2

My thoughts on abortion are differential. I beleive that if you are just a careless kid and are out having unprotected sex and get pregnant then complain that you want an abortion its wrong. But, I also believe that if you are anyone (child or adult) you have the right to get an abortion if you were raped, molested by a family member, whatever the case may be, if the pregnancy was not "planned" you have the right to get the abortion. In your case, you are SOOOO young. My fiance and I would love to have children together. I am 27 and he is 26 and we are getting married in July. We want children so badly. (I have two from a previous relationship) But, my fiance is Sterile and can't produce children. We have looked into adoption and it is so very expensive. Anyways, if I were you being so very young, why not look into the option of adoption? You are just a kid. You have your whole life ahead of you. And some MORON overused your rights to be a kid. You DID not deserve to have this happen to you. Please, for the sake of the other couple out there that are trying to have a baby, don't be selfish and try to keep this baby. In all honesty you are only 14, and you can't give this baby the life it deserves. Hey, I'll even adopt it myself. I would LOVE another baby soooo much.

Answer 3

First of all I am so sorry that you were raped. So I know my answer will get remarks but I am standing with you. Yes you did make the right decision. There is another option for you- and that is adoption. 14 is very young for you to raise a child, no matter how the baby was conceived. You are right to say it was not the baby's fault. Tell your mom that there are risks to you as well, having an abortion. Physical and emotional. Hang in there. The person who raped you should be punished!!!!!!!! God bless you!!

Answer 4

I think that you are doing the right thing. After such a traumatic experience, I think that doing something else that would be painful for you is not wise.

Abortion or keeping the baby are not the only two options. Adoption is always available. If money is a concern, there are many public health facilities that will help or the adoptive family may also help with the costs.

I would talk to an adoption counselor to get more information and to be sure that you have all facts available to you before you make any decisions.

Answer 5

I think you are brave to tell you mother how you feel. You can tell her you want to put it up for adopting. My fiance's biological mother (We met her and she is wonderful) Was 14 when she concieved Ben She decied that there were families out there that couldn't have children and she gave him to his parents. He got all the love and happiness a baby and a man could ever need. Although you were a rape victum if you want an abortion that would be your call. If you know you will take care of your body and the baby then by all means put it up for adoption. Also you might not want to find out if it's a boy or a girl it will make it easier on you. Have a great day. I'm glad you are being so brave and strong. Good luck with what ever you choose.

Answer 6

Wow girl you have guts!!! To speak up about what happened to you and for taking a smart decision you are right it's your choice to decide about the baby living and growing inside of you. You are a really brave girl and in my opinion you are doing the right thing keeping your baby as you said it's not the baby's fault. I know it'll be hard to raise a child as a teen however when your baby is born and he/she's in your arms you'll find that little gift of God as inspiration to achieve sucess for your good and the good of the child. There will always someone willing to help and support you your mom should understand you as a woman i know i do talk to her and i'm sure she'll understand your decision and will be a huge support.

Well i hope my words helped and made things more clear for you and i wish you the best in these times all my strenght is with you.

Remember you are not the first and you'll certainly not the last. You can do it!!! Keep strong and God bless you.

Answer 7

I think this was bad question to ask here for the responses may be mean. This is your decision and maybe you should seek some counseling to help you decide. I honestly don't know why you want to keep the child and care for the child That does not mean i think you should have an abortion, I think you really need to openly talk to someone and get some help and truly evaluate the decision. There is adoption and some insurances also pay for abortions where you can go to sleep during it. Good Luck

Answer 8

Wow, two tough things to edure. I'm not sure how to react. I'm proud of you for wanting to carry through on this pregancy because you are right, it isn't the baby's fault. Have you thought about what your mother is trying to say? She has raised at least one child (you) and knows what you will endure. Try a middle of the road decision. Look into adoption. This way you are bringing a life into the world but at 14 you are very young to dedicate your teen years to raising a child. There are many wonderful agencies out there that will walk you through everything and place your child with people that you choose. You can even choose to stay involved with your child's life. This choice is one of the most heroic choices you can make, to give your child up for adoption.
I am an adopted child and now mother of 4 so I see both sides of the coin.

Answer 9

I think it's time to ask another question. Ask all the people who told you to keep the baby if they want to get on the list for a possible adoption or at the very least if they're going to help you take care of the baby, financially and otherwise (like babysitting when you go to school or work.)

I am not a fan of abortion at all but telling someone not to have one when you won't have to deal with the consequences is downright stupid. Will I be there for you?
No. And that 's why i would never dream of telling to keep this baby.

Ultimately, the decision is yours, yours only but think hard about what it all means.

Answer 10

Let's take this into perspective and "get real" about it. You're fourteen years old, hardly in your teenage years and you're pregnant. I'm not blaming this on you, because as you said, you were raped and that's not your fault.

You're going to be ridiculed in school and telling people you were raped is only going to get you so far, no offense. You're going to end up being a mother at 15? Maybe even still 14, caring for a baby, living off of your mother.

You'll chance screwing up your entire life, not making it to college, dropping grades, losing sleep..

I have a friend who's 15 and pregnant... she's not going anywhere with her life and I pity her.

If I were you, I'd have the abortion and have a baby when I'm ready, not when it would drain my childhood, ruin my chances at school, a career, and could mess up a lot of other things.

But that's just my insight - it's your choice.

Good Luck with that.

Answer 11

You are so strong. My props to you. I'm so sorry this had to happen to you, but I think you are a very mature and strong young lady for wanting to do the right thing. If I were you I would have no interest in keeping the baby. Plus you are way too young to provide for this baby. It will be difficult but I think you need to give it up for adoption. It will have a better life and you will not only be giving your child the right to life, but you will be giving it to a family who deserves it and will take care of it as if it was their own child. You are right, it isn't the babies fault that it was conceived. Props to you for supporting life. Your mother should be proud of you.